To think it’s acceptable to leave an 9yo girl at a party unsupervised

[Louise0701]

Sorry if this is a long post but wanted to include as much info as possible.
Back in October I booked a “pamper party” for my daughter and 10 friends. It’s drop - off only in a very reputable salon on a very busy high street with plenty of shops, coffee shops & restaurants.
It’s afternoon tea with a hairstyle, kids manicure and pedicure (nail painting) and games at the end.
All the mums were made aware it was drop off only when I sent out the invitations and everyone was fine with it. We all arranged to go to the restaurant over the road for a child free lunch whilst we waited for the girls. The party is for 2 hours and is this Saturday.
One of the mums who has been my friend for 5 years has texted me today saying she’s not happy about leaving her daughter with a stranger so she won’t be attending unless she can stay. I have forwarded her the email from the salon with all the party details where it states it’s drop off only. Her daughter is the oldest girl attending at 9.
As it’s only 3 days before the party I’m still going to be charged for her place. DD is gutted she isn’t going. Im annoyed that she’s known for 2 months and has only just told me today she’s not happy with the arrangement. She’s now said she will let her come and she will stand outside and watch through the window?
I can’t decide if I’m being petty and precious because DD has had a shitty year in and out of hospital and she’s really excited for this party?
So.... AIBU to think it’s fine to leave a 9 year old for 2 hours at a party?

[Blondeshavemorefun]

How cheeky to ask to have her 4yr at party

For 9yrs

FWIW I would assume any party would want one adult to stay on premises

But I would be fine leaving my , if had 9yr at pamper party. ESP if 2 mins away

[BloggersBlog]

Did she turn up and try any more cfery @Louise0701?

[Louise0701]

@BloggersBlog she didn’t thankfully! I had a feeling she would but no- no dramas! Girls had a brilliant time. Thanks for asking!

[RubyRed24]

The parents that wouldn't want their DD going to a pamper party what would / did you do for their 9th?

Last year my DD was 9 and we took 5 friends out for tea. Her choice Bella Italia.

She isn't feminine at all however my 7 year old would enjoy one of these parties.

These days a party at home with pass the parcel just doesn't work.

Mine won't even go to play centres anymore.

[NicEv]

I would expect the host parent to stay. I think it’s weird the salon don’t insist on that - in an emergency what would staff do?

If I received an invite saying drop and go I would understand that to mean the host parent would be responsible for my child and present throughout.

I would not be comfortable leaving a nine year old in a beauty salon without at least one adult I know present throughout.

I think actually the proposed arrangements AU.

No point you being annoyed with the mum - if you are friends you need to work together to find a solution

[leccybill]

@RubyRed24 my 9 yo DD went to an indoor climbing centre. Her friends did bouncy trampoline place, roller rink, ice cream parlour, smoothie making party, party at Claire's Accessories.