£100 for xmas dinner

[disneydatknee]

We went to sis inlayws for xmas dinner this year and shes charging £100 per family. No alcohol was provided, we had to bring our own. Pud was brought by another family member. All her veg was free from a local charity for food waste. So she only paid for meat which I ate about half a palmful of beef of. My family consists of 2 adults and 2 children that ate fuck all. Aibu to say I'm not fucking paying it? No back story or drip feed. This is it!

OP if you had to save for the £50, you absolutely shouldn't be paying £100. And since she's going to be kicking off anyway, you might as well have her kick off for £25, and tell her that she'd says 50 including booze, so this is without booze.

*shine

Disgraceful. Give her 50 and tell her you wont go again. Shes mean spirited and rude.

I’ve seen a few things online where people charge on Xmas day and honestly can’t understand it. Every year I host on Boxing Day, everyone invited however not all can make it but there tends to be around 12 adults and 7 or so kids - I never
Not ever ask for a penny if asked what they can bring they’re told themselves only I enjoy hosting I don’t do it to earn money which is what it sounds like she’s doing. If I couldn’t afford to do something huge like normal people that have asked what
You bring would be given something to bring and I’d do my best with what I could afford. The only normal sounding one seems to be your hubby, I’d go with what other posters said deducted for alcohol and pudding send what’s left and then go no contact like hubby wants too :-)

I wouldn't dream of charging a guest for Christmas dinner. I am with very limited income but if I choose to invite people for a meal then its my treat and I will put money aside to pay for it
Why is she charging family to share a festive meal? If she can't afford to pay for it why invite people?
I think it is very odd

So she's hoping to get £300 back from her 'guests'? She's a CF. It's not a restaurant. Give her what you think it was worth (£10 each sounds more than fair)

I’d talk to your dh to send £40, on the basis £50 was agreed with booze. This has given me a good laugh though, it’s amazing how awful some people’s families are.

I would never, ever dream of charging my guests for a dinner I am hosting! I can't even wrap my head around why anybody would do this! WTAF? If you can't afford to host you just don't host! Or do a low budget meal at least

Blimey! Ask her if the additional cost is her Service Charge!

I think you should pay the £50 originally quoted and no more! Very cheeky to double the cost but that’s not your issue, pay only the original cost. If you don’t pay anything then you are the CF.

Send her £33 then when she queries it say sorry y though £100 was for the total cost of everything as no booze ,veg free and you didn't pay for pudding .

That's ridiculous. I had about 50 people over for a party before Christmas, everyone (including the vegans) was fed, I provided beers, wine and jager, plus did bacon sandwiches for the (mainly teenage) survivors the next morning. £200 and ended up with a profit on the booze because people brought lots with them. I didnt buy top end, but I did shop savvy and it's perfectly possible to lay a decent spread on a humble budget.

Your SIL is treating hosting like a commercial opportunity. Tell her to sod off....

And you’re only a CF if you pay nowt, as you accepted £50 was ok when you were invited.

Fair enough if you want to dispute the booze element but I’d just pay and not bother going again.

I'm a widow and live by myself. Every year my daughter does a huge Christmas dinner, along with wine, port brandy and loads of other drinks, plus pate and cheeses for six people, all adults. We always tell her to split the bill between all of us as we're so grateful that she's doing all the cooking etc. This year it was £40 each, absolutely fabulous and a lot cheaper than a meal out.

Yeah if you pay nothing it puts you in the wrong.

Try reading the thread people - it has been answered already, SO many times.

What is this?! Who actually charges to host Christmas Dinner? If you invite people it is because you want them there. Not to make money. Tell her to fuck off, that if you wanted to go to a restaurant for christmas then you would have booked one... Not pay to a CF for a dinner you were 'invited' to!

I had my in laws over for NY eve. 7 adults and 8 kids

Chicken came in at £15
Leg of lamb was £24
Tiramisu was about £12 when I calculated it

I did a Tesco shop for about £50 for all the veg, trimmings and non alcoholic drinks. So all in all was about £100 all in

I think this is an absolute piss take!

Id give the £50 you are sending to sil to charity and say to her you gave a donation on her behalf

The food bill for our gathering was over £400 for three days and nights. Including all the trimmings for Christmas. I didn’t ask for a penny from anyone we were the hosts.

So £100 per family for 1 meal is crazy. Ask her for itemised bills if she insists it has cost her that much

Just say no.

Tell her you would have been ok with paying the agreed £50 for your family as it included meat and alcohol, which does add up. But she and her family/friends drank all the alcohol before you even arrived, so you won't be paying for that. Offer her £25 towards the meal.

And never, ever accept an invitation to her house again where food is involved.

That is the shittiest thing I’ve heard! I hosted Christmas dinner for six, Boxing Day dinner for another six and buffet on Boxing Day for 11 AND provided my favourite Barolo wine which cost £30 a bottle (my choice, I adore that stuff, lille ole wine drinker me)And I wouldn’t have dreamed of asking anyone to pay!

D’you know what? I’d offer her a bag of potatoes and a bottle of cheap plonk from Aldi or somewhere and tell her that’s to compensate for her costs. Serious CF!

I think it is an unreasonable amount and I also find it strange when family charges for things like this. However people tend to forget its not just about the food, it is extremely time consuming and tiring preparing and clearing up afterwards

I had a quick calculation and reckon I spent around £200 total for Christmas food for me and three adult children, plus two additional adults on Boxing day, alcohol included. I've got so many leftovers that I'm thinking of inviting all of Mumsnet over for a buffet.

Your SIL is a greedy CF.

If she couldn’t afford to cater she should have asked everyone to bring a dish!! Christmas shouldn’t be a money making event!! Say you can’t afford it but would happy have her and her family over for a meal to reciprocate the cost. I can make a roast dinner for 4 for way less than £25 per head!!

I agree with some of the other posters op, even though its tempting to call her out I would just transfer the £50 and send a msg saying “thanks for dinner, appreciate you hosting. We budgeted for the original amount which was £50 including booze so haven’t put any further funds aside” and leave it at that. Its up to the others what they do, but at least you will know better next time so you can turn down her invite and have your own slap up dinner at home.

Good luck, she sounds like a nob so just wouldn’t engage any further than that x