To think a lot of parents of very young children become quite selfish

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I am expecting to be flamed but here goes.

Yesterday I was walking on a really narrow street and a couple were walking with a very young baby who’s only just started to take a few hesitant steps, maybe 11 months, so he had dad on one side and mum on the other.

Because the street was so narrow it meant everyone behind them either had to walk at toddler pace or step into the road to get by.

I’ve seen this in a lot of my friends with really young children. Is this a thing and does it pass?

Newmum3200 good on you. Stand firm and don’t let the negativity get to you!

I felt awkward and in the way all the time with my first (twins). With my 4th, I make an effort to be assertive and remember that other people can tolerate us a bit.

What an awful post about intolerance and the problem with social media today. Nobody just feels a bit peeved quietly anymore, it has to turn into a big debate.

It's a baby! Get over yourself.

I think some parents live in a bubble. It all depends on perspective and where you are in the parenting journey. I have been on both sides and cringe at my foibles.

I had 3 under 3 (twins) at one point. People were unbelievably rude.

Sb you haven't read my posts yet think up u are in a position to judge my parenting. Thete really is no arguing with some people.

@elindab

I think a lot of people are on MN now because it's an easy place to make mothers feel guilty about literally anything - even allowing their children their normal developmental milestones and allowing them to take up space in the world.

aalso I'm very much a parent. One to a child with severe disabilities plus NT siblings. They are tolerant and kind children who make allowances for everyone in tne street. They know to step aside, they look after elderly people. They care for their sibling who is unable to care for herself. They are lovely kids. Funnily enough they have achieved this without walking on a busy treetops as babies. Judge my parenting if you will but to be frank with your attitude you wouldn't survive my life otlr that if one of kids for 10 minutes. My kids will grow up to be kind d honest helpfulladults. Can u day the same? Because they won't if u raise them to be entitled.

@my2bundles forgive a childless person daring to comment, but I've read your posts on this and other threads and you are an awesome parent and your kids sound great.

Yup, tomorrow there will be another thread:

AIBU to think these parents were abusive for refusing to allow their toddler to walk down the street?

And the thread will probably be started by the op under a new name. It's just a divide and rule thing, the topic doesn't really matter.

What you don't do is go around expecting complete strangers with their backs to you to be able to anticipate your every move through nothing more than silence and skulking.

What rubbish @RuffleCrow. I don't walk with two others right across a narrow footpath at any time as I don't imagine we are the only people using it! I keep an eye on other pedestrians and accommodate them. What a selfish little bubble you live in.

My kids walk in tne fresh air, just not on busy streets as babies. And we don't in an x box, they do volunteer with the elderly tho dies that count as an x box? 😉

@my2bundles - you sound like a wonderful parent, and your children sound lovely.

YANBU this would've pissed me off

Leighhalf thankyou ❤💟💟💗my kids make me very proud x

@Sb74 You don't actually have to be a parent to be able to distinguish between children who have been raised by sensible parents who teach their children to be kind empathetic children with manners, and those who have been raised by parents who teach their children they can do anything they want, and to hell with everyone else!

Eagle thankyou ❤❤❤💕💕💕

I think parents do live in a bubble and have to live in a bubble to protect their mental health from the horrible people on here and in society. I have a 2 year old and never knew how hard it would but I am the best mum that I can be to my little boy and never knew me walking with him when he took his first few steps down a street or in a super market or giving in to him when he was crying would really offend so many people. I would of though the people actually causing harm to babies would be frowned upon not the proud parents. I honestly never thought people would be so horrible, and yes toddlers are slow especially when you are in a rush etc but they are 'toddlers' and guess what in 20 years time you might collapse on that narrow pavement and need help, let's hope that little toddler who is now an adult doesn't step around you because he/she is in rush.

Eagle exactly right x

in 20 years time you might collapse on that narrow pavement and need help, let's hope that little toddler who is now an adult doesn't step around you because he/she is in rush.

Stepping over someone hurt is the same as wanting someone not to take up the entire pavement?

A thought .....in today's society common sense, common decency & manners seem to be a bit thin on the ground !? Surely both sides of the argument are fair , but exercising a bit more thought & understanding as with most contentions issues is the most obvious way forward ! I rarely hear a thank you from children that are friends with my children & increasingly there seems to be an entitled attitude amongst the youth of today !! I feel ancient commenting this but it is noticeable !

@eaglejulesk yes, indeed. Thank,you.

Of course not but taking up the ENTIRE pavement by helping your child take their first steps is not the same as taking up the entire pavement by a gang of youths misbehaving or people just standing their chatting.