To think a lot of parents of very young children become quite selfish

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I am expecting to be flamed but here goes.

Yesterday I was walking on a really narrow street and a couple were walking with a very young baby who’s only just started to take a few hesitant steps, maybe 11 months, so he had dad on one side and mum on the other.

Because the street was so narrow it meant everyone behind them either had to walk at toddler pace or step into the road to get by.

I’ve seen this in a lot of my friends with really young children. Is this a thing and does it pass?

Mum on one side, dad on other - How is this a trip hazard? It's just not is it bundles? Stop now, you're just wrong, let it go.

No thanks

They should teach the child to walk somewhere else less busy it must be overwelming for a tot on a busy path. But I'm sure they think that if it was a puppy they would be forgiven and maybe no one would mention it

That's not selfish. All you have to do is day excuse me.

The other poster asked me to explain tne difference between babies and the elderly walking on a crowded street. Both are slow. I explained it's because babies are so small and are a trip hazard for tne elderly if they carnt see they are there. The other poster then had a hissy delibrately taking the meaning out of context. Fact is babies walking in a crowd are a trip hazard, the elderly are not.

Sb at least read my posts before responding 😂if you had you would know I'm not remotely close to being a non parent.

Pissed me off when people do this. Don't think it's just people with kids though. I always see people in supermarkets walking side by side down the aisle. Or people in a pub who stand in the entrance.

Oh Bundles - do bore off.

As a usually v considerate person, sometimes I have to grin and bear the feeling of anxiety that people like you create with the neg vibes you give off... I’d love to pick my toddler up every-time somebody wanted to pass, but my back is so knackered that if I wouldn’t be able to move by the end of the day nmind bath my kids.

If you came to the side of me and said “excuse me can I just get past please” i’d happily pull baby to one side for you. That’s also what I do when I am in a hurry (whilst remembering that my inefficiency isn’t their emergency).

Toomuch. Classic response from someone who knows they are talking nonsense.

Why are they selfish holding their little ones hand, who is taking their first steps and needing help. What's selfish about that ? If someone had a disability and was being helped would they be selfish ? I don't really get why this bothered you ?.

I'm of the opinion that parents of very young people become like their children in a way... Not so much selfish but oblivious of everyone else. As they teach their little ones how walk, talk, eat and behave in the world etc, they seem to 'forget' that other people (and their children) exist. It's not the walking soul-destroyingly slowly on the narrow path, or talking loudly in the toilets or at table in the cafe/library, pressing buttons at the ATM or the OPEN on train doors or the STOP button on the bus when there's a cue, or the smiling/laughing at their child who is full throttle crying their heart out and parents just stand there sometimes calling them names.... It's just the not teaching the child that there is a world full of people. I wish these new, 'trend-setting' parents that they believe themselves to be, would teach their children manner and boundaries. By doing so, it shows immense care, for themeselves and everyone else, not forgetting respect and self-control, which does wonders for society.

I'll stop now...

Message received - non-parents aren't welcome here and I'll bow out so you don't have to hear my narrow-minded viewpoint. But bear in mind that if all you want is an echo chamber of agreement, that other parents(!!) might disagree with you.

tbh I couldn’t care less who presses the button to open the train doors or stop the bus, so long as it’s done in time. Which presumably it will be if done by young children as their parents also want to get off at that stop?

@my2bundles that was

Fact is babies walking in a crowd are a trip hazard, the elderly are not.

Lots of people are a trip hazard Ime! Walking with crutches and a broken ankle is hard, because balancing is not automatic - pain and difficulty using crutches makes concentration necessary. The number of people, who are walking along at a reasonable speed on a busy street and then just stop suddenly....They just take it for granted that people behind them can make the necessary adjustments to their own speed and direction automatically - actually it’s not that easy, when walking is not that easy!

Sorry about the repetition in last sentence! Distracted by the TV!

Well to an extent yes, but its mainly for parents - developed by 2 London mums to share info with other mums about parenting. The clue is in the name

How about all,of us barrens just fucked off out of society then. Would that be better for the entitled people who think that just because they reproduced they are more superior and more entitled to consideration - even if it means inconveniencing everyone else regardless of whether they have children or not.

There are some really nasty people on this thread. As is we don't feel sub human enough as it is.

Biggest trip hazard is people engrossed in their phones not kids walking on a path.

I would rank people pulling small wheelie cases above phone zombies there, but only just.

I think YANBU. I think the parents should have the social awareness that there are people behind them wanting to pass. I know how frustrating it is getting stuck behind someone when you're in a rush. Yes I am a parent myself.
Some parent seem to be in their own world. My mum recently complained about a trip to Tesco's. She's a nurse and had just finished a 12 hour night shift and was buying some food before going home to sleep. She was infuriated at a mum and their toddler at the tills. The mum was having the toddler put the food in the conveyor one item at a time and then making comments about each item. "Do you know how much these bananas are? "This is a tin of beans" etc. My mum just wanted to get home.
I also used to work in a DIY store and there was a little boy with his dad and grandma running around the shop. As a parent you should not let your children run around any shops - especially DIY shops. They sell sharp tools, heavy objects. Even a person pushing a trolley could run into them without seeing. As it was, karma felt the same way as me. As I was heading to lunch I heard a customer say "that is the funniest thing I've ever seen". I popped my head up the aisle and saw that said child had knocked a 2.5l tin of paint onto the floor. Luckily it hadn't landed on the child as it could have killed him, but the floor. The tin had obviously burst open and the child was covered head to toe in paint. I then watched the dad and grandma whisk the child away without informing anyone of the accident (this happened right by the tills and they walked in the opposite direction) had someone else slipped and fell - the shop would have been liable. Best of all I served this family at the checkouts. At this point they'd been joined by the mum. She had the audacity to ask what they could use to get the paint out of her child's clothes . Not all parents/people are completely oblivious to others, it is a minority.