To think it's weird that she used the family bathroom?

[FairfaxAikman]

Friend of mine visited the house yesterday.

She's been here before and knows we have a downstairs guest loo but yesterday when she asked to use the loo she went upstairs to the main bathroom (which was in a bit of a mess as wasn't expecting anyone to see it)
To do so she had to navigate two baby gates, so it's not like it's the easier option.

AIBU to think it's weird?

I mean, I agree what's odd is starting a thread on this matter!

I always use upstairs bathrooms in other people’s houses and never poo anywhere except at home. It’s because I feel I cannot wee if people could possibly hear. Shy bladder, that’s all it is.

'I'm amazed that so many people poo in other people's toilets [shocked] unless there is a pressing medical need of course.'

Well, I'm one of those who does have pressing medical needs, but I would never object to other people poo-ing in mine, so long as they leave it as they found it. It does depend on how long they're at your house: half an hour - it may be a bit odd, though I wouldn't mind; several hours - whyever not?

What isso wrong with the way we raise our girl-children that this thread could even EXIST?

There's a story of Marilyn Monroe visiting Arthur Miller's (then her fiancé) parents in their small New York apartment. Embarrassed about being overheard while using the bathroom, she turned a tap on full blast.

'What did you think of her?'
'Nice girl, but she pisses like a racehorse.'

I had a friend at college who used to beg me to go with her to the toilets if she needed a poo. I had to stand pressing the handdryer so that her poops could not be heard if anyone else should come in still makes me laugh 20 years on. DS12 wont go to the toilet at school for a poo and my brother prided himself on getting through the whole of secondary school with pooing there. Me, if I have to go, I have to go. Line the toilet with paper before you go to avoid sound effects and possibly skiddage.

Is just women who do this though? After all Tycho Brahe died because he wouldn’t go for a pee during a formal banquet.

I'm amazed that so many people poo in other people's toilets [shocked] unless there is a pressing medical need of course.
It's not a medical need, but I can't hold it in without getting really uncomfortable. Long past being embarrassed.

I amazed that so many people have a problem with pooing away from their own home.

What's weird is a) you noticing b) you caring c) posting a thread about a friend's loo preference.

@Batshittery totally on your side . Unless someone has a medical condition or a child - save your poo for when you go home . Trudging upstairs and climbing over stairgates is basically outing yourself anyway. Might have well just announced - “I’m going for a poo!” I also wouidn’t dream of going at work . I get really angry when I go in the toilet and have to inhale someone else’s stinky arse! Why should they be inflicted to my bowels? Would rather hold it in till I get home and if I can’t - it means I’m ill and I go home .

'I'm amazed that so many people poo in other people's toilets [shocked] unless there is a pressing medical need of course.'

Bloody nora it's a bog, not a shrine.

Toilets were invented for people to wee and poo in.

Everyone poo's.

That's an actual fact.

I prefer a poo in my own loo, but if I need to go, I'll go, regardless of whether I'm at work, a friends or at Claridge's. (very nice lavatories at Claridge's...)

Not weird if she’s a good enough friend to have been upstairs before in the first place.

You're the one who's quite weird. Get over it.

She will of needed a poo in my mums house its always been a unwritten rule if you need a poo go to the upstairs loo.....

I had a downstairs loo at my old house, it was for liquids only if you get my meaning. In reality it didn't have a radiator & was badly insulated, sitting there for more than a minute in winter resulted in frost bite.

' Unless someone has a medical condition or a child - save your poo for when you go home . Trudging upstairs and climbing over stairgates is basically outing yourself anyway. Might have well just announced - “I’m going for a poo!” I also wouidn’t dream of going at work . I get really angry when I go in the toilet and have to inhale someone else’s stinky arse! Why should they be inflicted to my bowels? Would rather hold it in till I get home and if I can’t - it means I’m ill and I go home .'

My God! I have Crohns disease and if I need to go, I need to go! More people have some form of medical condition, especially as they get older, that might make it difficult for them to hold it in for up to 8 hours, than some realize. (Reasons why you need the loo are not necessarily what one most wishes to talk about at work!) If everybody felt like you, I'd have had to stay at home, living on benefits, all my life, and never had a job at all.

I agree that you should flush properly, leave the loo as you found it, etc.; but surely workplace loos are there to be used when needed! Even if people have no medical problems, worrying about 'holding it in' is likely to distract them from their actual job.

Possibly needed to poo or fart really loudly and didn't want you to hear?

This is a heinous crime in the parallel universe of MN, punishable by 40 lashes with a cat o' nine tails and walked through the streets in shame.

According to the MN sages, a family member can be a guest for a week and have no need for anything more than a little tiny tinkle that sounds like Mariah Carey on a good day.

DH told me at a place he sometimes has to visit for work has a big sign on the lavatory door NO HEAVY USE

Which makes me lol 😂

We removed the downstairs loo in our house and turned it into a small laundry / storage / coat cupboard when we moved in. Reason being we're all open plan so anyone using it would essentially be weeing or pooing in the corner of the sitting room and we couldn't really imagine anyone doing that. Also, it's a two bedroom house with a main bathroom and en-suite upstairs so we thought three loos was probably overkill.

@ddl1 I have every sympathy with you and everyone else that has a medical condition as I said . I work in a school which has two disabled loos which anyone can use but they are avoided and everyone seems to stink out the six cubicles . Unacceptable and shameless

Well, this thread is an eye opener. Never knew before there were genuinely people out there who would rather pull a sicky and go home than do a crap in work! 😂

I can’t believe people don’t ‘go’ at work. There’s little better than getting paid to poo

I can’t get over anyone starting a thread about a friend using the upstairs loo. There are some really strange threads up and running on mn at the moment and this is definitely one of them.