To think it's weird that she used the family bathroom?

[FairfaxAikman]

Friend of mine visited the house yesterday.

She's been here before and knows we have a downstairs guest loo but yesterday when she asked to use the loo she went upstairs to the main bathroom (which was in a bit of a mess as wasn't expecting anyone to see it)
To do so she had to navigate two baby gates, so it's not like it's the easier option.

AIBU to think it's weird?

Or maybe she is planning to do work on her bathroom and wants to see what other people have.

It's more weird that you started a thread about it.

Maybe she just forgot you had a downstairs loo or juts felt more comfortable going upstairs? I wouldn't have given it a second thought.

To be honest, I sometimes forget we have a downstairs loo until I'm mid wee upstairs!
We have only lived here a few months and it's a bit new to me having been a one loo house for so long!
Maybe she doesnt have one and is just used to the trek upstairs?

In my previous houses I didn't have a downstairs loo, so I was just used to going upstairs and when round friends houses I would head upstairs to the loo, it was just habit, now we have a downstairs loo I "notice" the downstairs loos in other peoples houses and use them instead of going upstairs

Main family upstairs bathroom absolutely fine.

I’d find it a bit strange if a friend went through a bedroom to use an en-suite, mainly cos I’d probably have stuff all over the place.

I’d expect a family bathroom to have a daily wipe down by someone and not be in a mess

I’m crying with laughter at the poster who used to stay for days at a time at her boyfriend’s house but could not allow herself to poo there so made daily excuses to go out to a shop with loos.

However I prefer visitors to use the upstairs one as I don’t want them walking through my kitchen

Good grief.

What on earth is going on in your kitchen, that you don't want people walking through it?

Probably a poo. I do the same at a relative. Wee downstairs but poo upstairs where less people can hear/smell

However I prefer visitors to use the upstairs one as I don’t want them walking through my kitchen.
^ wtf?! 😂 Visitors can’t see your kitchen? It’s the heart of the home. In my house it’s where we all gather.

Out of interest @SerenDippitty if you offer a friend a glass of wine or cup of tea do you make them wait in the living room by themselves while you disappear off to make it?

I don’t get the kitchen thing. It’s normally the only tidy room in our house and where we would socialise? Cuppa tea? Kitchen. Glass of wine? Kitchen etc. How do you have people round and avoid the kitchen?!

The lesson is - just keep your bathrooms clean, you dirty feckers!

Exactly. If you're filthy and can't even be bothered to keep your bathrooms clean, don't complain when you're caught out. Eurgh - so glad I'm not visiting your house.

If the downstairs loo has no window to open I’d only use it for wees not poos. Or if there’s a tiny sink and no mirror downstairs I’d probably go upstairs to change sanpro, wash my hands or face, blow my nose and fix my makeup afterwards, etc.

I'm amazed that so many people poo in other people's toilets
What else are you supposed to do if you need a poo? Sit there with a turtle’s head poking out?

I'm back on the shitter again and catching up on this thread, lololol. Don't hold your poo in, folks. I most certainly am not right now. Letting rip - be glad i am not in yer downstairs loo

be glad i am not in yer downstairs loo

It’s ok, I keep VIP on all the loos. Poop away to your hearts content. 😁

I also find it really weird that anyone would poo in someone else’s house! I wouldn’t do it, and I also do not poo at work, which can be uncomfortable

Get yourself some VI Poo and live a little.

I literally don’t get how anyone can not need to poo at work, even occasionally! You’re basically there for 10 hours a day! Its healthy to go regularly...

To all those saying "keep your bathroom clean".

I'd had 1/2 an hours warning of her arrival ("I'm in the area and just popping by") whole DS was in the bath after a messy lunch
In that situation I prioritised drying and dressing a child and making sure the living room didn't look like we were losing a game of Jumanji.

The family bathroom wasn't dirty. It was messy - toys and towels lying out.
The "guest" loo is always clean and tidy because it's meant to be seen by others.

What is odd, as in really very very odd - is you starting this thread on the matter

I agree with this. I cannot imagine caring which loo my friends use.

Out of interest @SerenDippitty if you offer a friend a glass of wine or cup of tea do you make them wait in the living room by themselves while you disappear off to make it?

Well yes, that’s what I would do if I was in someone else’s house. I wouldn’t follow my host into their kitchen unless invited.

Well perhaps you all have huge kitchens. My kitchen isn’t an entertaining space really. There’s nowhere comfortable to sit.

Agree Fairfax whilst my family bathroom won’t be dirty, if I’m not expecting guests then there may be some mess from kids that I haven’t got round to tidying/cleaning up as other things have been my priority.

The ‘guest loo’ is kept on top of more because that’s where I would expect guests to go, so even if people ‘popped in’ unexpectedly then it would be fine:

More privacy.
Those pesky pads can be heard from 1/2 mile away.

Quite agree!

She was having a shit. What's weird is that you have a 'family bathroom'. I bet she didn't know that, because that is not a thing.

I’m obviously going to be considered odd, but I think it’s rude to go upstairs in someone’s house without asking.

Even in my mum’s house I would use the downstairs loo rather than use their bathroom.