Am I in the wrong for this?

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Hi all, not sure we're to post so hoping I will get some advice here. (Already posted in chat but think this topic is better suited)

A week ago I went to see my gp regarding a mark I have on one of my breast's, she seemed a bit concerned but told me to wait a week to see if it disappears and if not to come straight back the following week to see her. I felt she really listened and understood how I was feeling regarding me being worried about this mark, a week passed and the mark is still there so I make another app to go back and see her today, I go to my appointment today and it's with a male dr who completely brushed me off and acted asif I had nothing to worry about even though my previous app with the female dr told me to come back so she could refer me to the breast clinic. The dr said he could refer me to gynaecologist if it made me happy! I left the appointment quite annoyed as I felt I had been ignored and referred to the wrong place. When I was walking to my car I seen the female gp I had previously seen. I went over to her and asked if I could have a quick word, she quickly and abruptly brushed me off saying 'I am off duty, I am sick, I have a daughter to worry about I can't speak to you' to which I seemed a bit shocked and said I only wanted to query if a gynaecologist was the correct person I should be seeing following our last app. She rolled her eyes and said yes. She made me feel completely humiliated as there was someone standing right by us. In my previous app with her she made me feel like she cared and she needed to see me again. Then when I do see her and simply wanted some advice she was completely rude, I am right to be annoyed by this? Or am I in the wrong for speaking to her outside of her office?

Tbh I just thought it was human decency to help someone who is clearly worried about something that you have previously helped and advised them on.

I mean dermatologist sorry!!

Are you kidding? you are totally wrong for approaching the GP out of surgery. If you aren’t happy with the care you got from the second Dr take it up with the surgery.

I probably wouldn’t have spoken to her in the car park. However, she was unnecessarily rude and it took her the same time to say what she said rudely as it would have to be nice. That would put me right off that surgery tbh.
Hope all turns out ok x

She was rude. There was no need to be rude.

She should have told you to make an appointment with her.

Follow it up. Do not be put off by this.

I dont think you're unreasonable at all to be annoyed at the male GP who disregarded you when you were clearly concerned. I do however think you were unreasonable to approach a GP outwith duty hours and attempt to discuss your medical condition. Although it may seem like just a quick question but it is not appropriate to do this out with an appointment in a practice. In future it might be best to request at appointment with a specific GP when booking with the receptionist.

Don't speak to her out of the surgery, would you be expected to do your job on a car park?

Technically she's not insured to see you outside of the premises and wouldn't have been able to treat, advise or refer you.

I understand your point, but if doctor's don't draw the line between professional and personal they would never get a second to themselves.
I'd let it go, not least as it's likely quite a lot of your feelings about this are actually more to do with your understandable worry about the mark..and at least you know you have been referred on to the right place.

I think yabu. She told you she was off duty and sick and you still carried on asking a question. Yes she might have been abrupt but maybe being unwell and then approached didn't help.

Accosting a doctor in the car park? Really ? The nerve and the cheek of it.

I wasn't intending to be rude or cheeky so I don't appreciate people being quite harsh regarding that, I was simply worried and I'm quite frankly scared of the outcome and in my previous app she made me feel like she cared and listened. I understand I have overstepped the mark and shouldn't of done that outside the office, but I agree she shouldn't of been rude about it. You don't have to be rude to get your point across.

Thanks for the advice!! Merry Christmas all

Intending to be rude or not, you were very rude and overstepped the boundaries.

She was clearly stressed about her ill child. Cut her some slack.

I can't agree with the statement I 'was very rude' but I agree I overstepped the mark, thank you

I agree she shouldn't of been rude about it. You don't have to be rude to get your point across.

Well obviously she did have to be rude to get her point across because you weren’t listening, she clearly told you she was off duty & instead of accepting that you instead pressed ahead with your question anyway until she answered

You weren’t intending to be, but you were and you seem oblivious to that. Not surprised they were both short with you. If you have a question over your care it should be addressed to the practise manager.

Your health anxiety is not their problem and no one should be cornered in a car park and questioned when they are off duty.

She was rude before I asked her the question FYI, but yes as I've already said multiple times, I agree I overstepped the mark.

You must have said something to her for her to respond. Surely at that point you didn't then go on and ask the question when it was clear she was off duty

I am oblivious to nothing as I have agreed with posters saying I overstepped the mark, it seems people just want to try and make out I'm a terrible person when I'm simply a human worried about her health and stupidly thought I could ask for advice on it from someone who new the history and understood.

I am not a bad person and again I take on board what's been said and would not be doing that again

Such a drama queen.

Being worried is fine, but stop blaming an off duty doctor for not giving you an answer when it wasn’t convenient and not dropping everything to reassure you.

Like I said, oblivious.

Struggling to understand the need to highlight the gender difference to be honest.

It's funny how you are happy to agree that she is rude but not yourself.

If a parent accosted me out and about and asked about their child's education and I was both ill and worrying about my own child then I may not be overly polite or helpful.
Yes you were worried but you have no idea what that woman was dealing with.

You were rude and you overstepped the mark. They are not mutually exclusive.

Sorry op, I can totally empathise. Worry about health totally takes over your life. I’ve been there. Sounds like you needed a bit of reassurance / kindness. I think the off duty doctor has no reason to be rude but some people just are aren’t they. Don’t let it get you down any more. I hope you have a peaceful Christmas.

Good luck at your referral, the gynaecologist mistake did make me laugh, I was so confused at first 🤣

You’ve crossed a boundary with your previous GP.
However I think you should make another appointment soon. You should explain your fears and how you felt that they were overlooked.

And why would you expect her to remember your appointment? A week had passed. She must have had countless people in her surgery and yet you seem to believe she would actually know your story off the top of her head.

I highlighted the gender instead of the names, here we go