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Lip Fillers

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Iwasneveragoddess · 22/12/2019 19:54

What the fuck are these young women doing to their lips?

Saw a girl in Lidl today who clearly had naturally thin lips. Had a huge fillet in her top lip. All it looks like is someone with a huge filler, not someone with lovely generous lips, see it all the time and it looks horrific.

What happens when they hit 40?

How much does it cost?

Why are we all injecting shit into our faces?

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EnthusiasmIsDisturbed · 22/12/2019 20:17

Like Botox fillers are detectable

Because it changes how the face/lips move regardless of a small amount or the price you pay

A friend has had them they look nice just a slight amount but when she talks it’s noticeable she wants to go bigger Hmm

AuntSpiker · 22/12/2019 20:17

Of course people can do what they want to their bodies, but my question is why do people want to? What pressure has led to a situation where people feel it necessary to inject chemicals into their faces? That's really really sad.

WotchaTalkinBoutWillis · 22/12/2019 20:18

I'm on the fence.
I've voted YANBU, only because I think they look awful but on the other hand, who am I to say what other people do with their bodies?
If they like it, and they're doing it for them, so what?! Good on them if so.
I'm not the how a woman should look police. Each to their own

MustardScreams · 22/12/2019 20:18

Because as this thread shows, people are horrendously judgemental. All the time.

ooooohbetty · 22/12/2019 20:19

I know someone who has hers done and it looks great. Unless I'd been told I'd never have known. I've seen some shockers though. Especially the ones that stick right out so from the side they look like a shelf below the nose.

fairynick · 22/12/2019 20:19

The same people posting pics of Chloe Ferry and Lauren are probably the same people who wept at the Jesy Nelson documentary Hmm
Young girls can choose however they want to look from bleached hair, boob jobs, fillers to butt lifts. Many of these girls are under extreme pressure from sm and society, and many don’t feel any pressure at all and just love the way it looks.
Everyone has their opinions but I don’t get the need to call our certain people for the way they look, especially on a public forum, that’s unbelievably mean.

underneaththeash · 22/12/2019 20:20

@paintedfences - that isn't the same person though, different nose and skin tone.

They look ridiculous.

rickandmorts · 22/12/2019 20:20

*Because judgemental people make them feel like shit, dragging them down, and they want to change their face to fit in. It might not be to your taste, but if it makes them happy who cares? Really?

You are part of the problem.*

But it doesn't make them happy!! Once they've got shit pumped into their lips they move on to something else that needs 'sorting'. In the case of my friend last we spoke she was saving for a nose job. She was insecure and unhappy. Instead of lashing out and saying that I'm part of the problem for not agreeing with them, why are you not angry at WHY these girls are getting it done? Don't you think we should be teaching self esteem to girls and women and letting them know they are not just the size of their lips, their boobs, or their arse?

paintedfences · 22/12/2019 20:21

Agree @ooooohbetty. I was at a bus stop the other day and a lady beside me had some really obvious ones - worse because she was obviously having a dress-down / no makeup / hair scraped back day (which is fine btw), but the big pink puffy lips looked out of place on her au naturel.

Snuffkindle · 22/12/2019 20:22

I've stopped following Molly Mae from.love island on Instagram because she was starting to look alarming.. I don't know why they do it. I had an allergic reaction to something (don't know what) on holiday this easter and my lips swelled right uo for a few days. I felt.really embarrassed, total trout pout

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Iwasneveragoddess · 22/12/2019 20:22

An anonymous forum.

I haven’t publicly called anyone out individually.

This is my private view on a topic.

This is what this forum is for?

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MustardScreams · 22/12/2019 20:22

Of course we should. But part of that is standing up and saying do you know what? Just because you don’t like something doesn’t mean you get to be nasty about it.

SM for young teenagers is incredibly damaging. THIS is SM for mainly mothers and women. Would anyone here tolerate their children being called what you’re calling people that have fillers? I doubt it.

fairynick · 22/12/2019 20:23

@rickandmorts you can be angry at the role society and sm have played WITHOUT singling our people who have had work done. You’re only going to make them feel worse for it. Why can’t you just everyone is beautiful and has a right to alter their appearance if they so wish? And THEN campaign for change and regulations to content aimed at young women.

paintedfences · 22/12/2019 20:23

@underneaththeash I think it is, she's just holding her face at a different angle and the lighting is different. It's not the best pic admittedly but trying to find someone with a similar mouth to you is oddly enough hard on google images...

ooooohbetty · 22/12/2019 20:24

@fabulouslyglamorousreindeer please tell them Chloe Ferry looks NOTHING like her instagram photos in real life. She must spend hours photoshopping.

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Iwasneveragoddess · 22/12/2019 20:24

I’m not being nasty.

I’m being honest.

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EnthusiasmIsDisturbed · 22/12/2019 20:25

I think it’s more worrying that so many young people feel the need to look perfect of course name calling is wrong but highlighting that this is an unhealthy trend that so many people are resorting to fillers/Botox/plastic surgery isn’t wrong -

We seem to be going on two different directions - more accepting of not being what’s considered perfect and the polar opposite of so many trying to reach perfection

Look at the youngest Kardashian/Jenner she looks about 35 she has had so much work done but many young women look to her as aspirational

73Sunglasslover · 22/12/2019 20:25

There's a few young women at my work who do this. They all looked better before IMHO though I am ancient (46) so I don't think they care what I think. It makes me sad to see women having fallen for this sort of marketing as it's just another way for greedy capitalists to extract our money from us.

rhubarbarkle · 22/12/2019 20:25

I don't think they ever look right, maybe if just the bottom lip is filled?

I also think the botox charade is kind of strange. I don't think it ever makes anyone younger looking, just different looking. Like 15 years ago it raised eyebrows and then the trend went to make it keep eyebrows in place as it was too obvious otherwise and you end up then with the perpetual look of sadness because the brows are pushed down e.g Victoria Beckham and Cheryl Cole has lost all her looks with premature interventions.

Having said that maybe it does work and I just haven't noticed because it is good.

fairynick · 22/12/2019 20:26

On this thread alone I’ve seen Lauren, Molly Mae and Chloe all called out for their appearance. It’s so cruel, these are all someone’s daughters.
There is so much pressure on young people today, particularly those in the public eye, why would anyone post things like this that they could possibly read?

MustardScreams · 22/12/2019 20:26

Being honest and starting a thread to take the piss out of people under the pretence of “being honest” is still nasty.

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Iwasneveragoddess · 22/12/2019 20:29

I am not taking the piss?

And those girls who have been named put themselves out there on SM and make money.

The downside of that is that they WILL be judged like it or not.

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ooooohbetty · 22/12/2019 20:29

We have to remember that big lips are just a fashion fad and it will pass. Just like girls are having breast implants removed now.

OoohTheStatsDontLie · 22/12/2019 20:29

If I thought people were doing it purely for themselves then yeah its unreasonable for us to judge.

But I fear it's just another one of those things that women do because they think that men think its attractive. The whole long hair extensions, fake eyebrows, massive amount of make up to make eyes look bigger and lip fillers, boob jobs to make them more perky etc is all designed to make women look younger and more 'attractive' (to men). If women didnt get judged for aging would they really feel the need to do all this? It used to be a bit of a porny/ Pamela Anderson type look and now its become more mainstream, as porn has become more mainstream. Coincidence?

SmileyClare · 22/12/2019 20:30

Mustard I don't think anyone has called people vile and disgusting or whatever. It's fine to discuss a current beauty trend and express a dislike to it.

I'm not sure young women are all "doing it for them" it appears they feel obliged to follow the trend and be like their peers. If you look at girls on TOWIE although quite an extreme example, anyone who isn't botoxed or lip filled isn't part of the group, they want to be accepted.

That's fine if we're talking about wearing flares or the latest jacket but these are invasive procedures. I feel the same about heavy eye brows being permanently tattooed on or bums filled. It's too extreme and an almost caricatured look.