AIBU?
Am I being unreasonable or is she? Torn here
groundworkmakesthepoundwork · 22/12/2019 19:51
SIL has never approved of me BF beyond 1 year and badgered me immensely when DC was approaching 1.
DC is now over 2. Just before he turned two, I was warned that she never had liked me doing it but come 2 years, it would have to stop completely in her house at least.
So that was it, at age 2, no more BF in her house. Which is fine because DS only has it in the evening/morning and if he hurts himself.
Last week, I did feed him quite a bit in her house. He was quite upset, unusually. A few days later he came down with a bug which probably explains it. Nothing was said at the time.
I've just received a text saying that I really can't carry on feeding in her house and would I please just not? It's uncomfortable. And 'I did say this before'.
Am I unreasoned to have fed him in her house despite her saying no previously? 
Obviously she has no right to tell me to stop altogether but since it's her house, I should do what's comfortable for her, shouldn't I?
Her DP couldn't care less and thinks she's ridiculous.
mbosnz · 22/12/2019 19:54
Who the hell does she think she is?! If she doesn't want to extended breastfeed, all power to her boobies. But you do not seek to control another mother and child around this sort of thing. You keep on doing what is working for you and your child. Just don't go to the silly mare's house.
VanyaHargreeves · 22/12/2019 19:57
Dictating weirdly over another womens choices about BFing is the real problem
I would reply with :
You have never explained why you have a problem with a natural act for which those body parts were designed; body parts you yourself have. If anyone is behaving oddly here it is you.
You need to stand up to this really weird parenting And body shaming/policing.
obviously you must have asked her why? Do you cover yourself whilst doing it etc? Just trying to think why she finds it strange? Is she worried about her husband staring? EtcHugsgalore · 22/12/2019 20:10
I'm probably going to be flamed for this but I think it depends on how discrete you are when you do it. Let's face it a walking talking toddler is harder to be discrete with than a small baby.
I'm not uncomfortable around babies being breastfed but I am when they are bigger.
GlamGiraffe · 22/12/2019 20:12
Youd be much better trying to go to a baby or toddler group and making a friend or two than spending time with this crazy woman. You never know what will come out of her mouth next. I wouldn't want to be around yo find out what her next peculiar whim is. Find some friends who you have things in common with. I'm sure there must be details of mums coffee mornings detailed somewhere so you can try.
We3kingsoforientareandabump · 22/12/2019 20:13
@Hugsgalore that's your issue though so you should move away.
OP you are doing amazing by giving your child what's best. Your sister has serious issues and I would rather sit in and speak to nobody at all than sit with someone that tries to control me in that way.
MadameButterface · 22/12/2019 20:13
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