Am I being unreasonable or is she? Torn here

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SIL has never approved of me BF beyond 1 year and badgered me immensely when DC was approaching 1.

DC is now over 2. Just before he turned two, I was warned that she never had liked me doing it but come 2 years, it would have to stop completely in her house at least.

So that was it, at age 2, no more BF in her house. Which is fine because DS only has it in the evening/morning and if he hurts himself.

Last week, I did feed him quite a bit in her house. He was quite upset, unusually. A few days later he came down with a bug which probably explains it. Nothing was said at the time.

I've just received a text saying that I really can't carry on feeding in her house and would I please just not? It's uncomfortable. And 'I did say this before'.

Am I unreasoned to have fed him in her house despite her saying no previously?

Obviously she has no right to tell me to stop altogether but since it's her house, I should do what's comfortable for her, shouldn't I?

Her DP couldn't care less and thinks she's ridiculous.

A 'higher professional in Child Psychology' - what does that even mean? Nicely vague about your actual job title. So not a Child Psychologist then?

I'd say 'no problem' then turn up for Christmas with a t shirt with a realistic photo of breasts on them since she finds them so offensive.

Seriously though she is obviously being very unreasonable, but I guess if someone asks you not to do something in their house I guess you have to respect that. Or ask if she can compromise and take your son in another room

I cannot imagine my son remembering what my breasts look like and recalling suckling on them 😳 That could cause him no end of emotional issues in his life. I say this as a higher professional in child psychology.

My sons know what my breasts look like given that they bring me g and t top ups when I'm in the bath (they're all in double figures now so acceptable...) There is also a v beautiful canvas even if I do say so myself of me breastfeeding twins in our kitchen. I must book them all in for counselling 🤣

You're just feeding your child, she I'd definitely the unreasonable one! How dare she try to tell you how you feed your child!! You sound like a saint for having anything to do with her.

As a toddler, my youngest was very ill in hospital and the hospital were finding it very difficult to get a drip in. She was refusing to eat/drink but would feed off me. Some of the young drs were a bit horrified and averted their eyes but the elderly male senior consultant came in and announced that this was the best thing that I could be doing.
Society is a bit warped today.

•It is unnecessary. But if it's your choice to carry on it's none of her business.•

How is it unnecessary to feed a child? If there's a nutritionally perfect drink on tap, providing a less perfect drink in a less convenient container would be far more unnecessary.
Some people's view of BF can be really twisted

This is very simple for me. I wouldn’t go to her house under any circumstances.