Am I too old, is this a mid life crisis?

[Cassavaflower]

Am I being unreasonable to have a crush on a guy 16 years my junior?
I feel like I'm going crazy. I work from home and never interact with anyone in the office but a couple of weeks ago I was asked to meet one of the managers. I was expecting an older guy judging by his emails. I wasn't expecting him to be mesmerising. I lost it, getting tongue tied, blushing. I mean, just awful. He's funny and clever and 16 years younger than me. He's single. We are meeting up tomorrow as he wants to see me before I turn 50. I've been literally dreaming about him.
I'm having a midlife crisis aren't I?
Should I just accept I'm being silly and enjoy the coffee and think no more of it? I've been single for years and years.
God, I have it bad. Oh and to avoid drip feeding he tells me I'm awesome all the time but that doesn't mean anything right?

Aaaah what a nice thread. Just stumbled upon it. I have a colleague who married her ex colleague of 15 years younger. That was almost 20 years ago. Sometimes age is just a number. Wishing you all the happiness in the world.

Awww thank you. I'm seeing him tonight and I'm beside myself with excitement. Ironically we are taking things v slowly physically but its so thrilling and wonderful. I'm so glad I didn't give up after the first hiccup. Xxx

HI OP, just read your whole thread (how did I miss it first time????).

This sounds amazing - of course you are glowing, it is your happy hormones. Enjoy and keep going.

I'm 5 years older than DH and when we met we were very young (well he was 22). Honestly, if I listened to everyone else we would not be together. But many years, 3 DC and many career and houses moves, we are still together. He is an old soul and I am a young soul so it works. Also, I look very young - ie I don't look older than him.

I love a happy ending!

It’s pretty unlikely that a 34 year old would find a 50 year old attractive That's so ageist.

And completely untrue.

Omg omg OMG just back from seeing him. He told me he loves me. And somehow we ended up making plans to get married!
I'm a bit delirious but it feels right. It has all happened so quickly but wanted to share.

Are you talking about talking about getting married or set a date / proposed type married??

It sounds like love bombing / future faking to me. You’ve been together less than two months, you’ve both got children, and you’ve not shagged yet.

I get you’re enjoying things - keep enjoying things, but try and keep at least one foot on the ground OP.

I realise I’ve rained on your parade OP, I do wise the best for you.

Wise = wish 🤦‍♀️

I know its too soon to do anything like get married. Its more that we both feel a connection and see a future together. He's real and so are these feelings but there is a long way to go in practical terms.

Take it slowly. It’s fine to enjoy the journey with no hurry to reach the destination.

why does he want to meet before you turn 50?
Is he negging u a bit, like you have 48hrs til yr last fuckable day. I smell a rat with that intention to meet u "before u turn 50" 🙄

It’s pretty unlikely that a 34 year old would find a 50 year old attractive

It isn't actually

I agree. I think the man if the younger one would be in it for the short term. As acwoman pushing 50, the last thing id want would be the pressure of trying to 'keep' a younger man and i imagine that's a typical way to feel at my age so the "older' woman even less likely to be thinking long term.

I had a bf 10 years younger than i am once and he was more naïave about the problems that could arise than i was.

Just to add that we have talked about long term and I believe him when he says he would be there for me.
He's constantly praising my mind, my brain, my intelligence, not just looks and he's quite mature in his outlook.
Of course, no-one knows if we would be lucky enough to make it but we are both willing to see. And right now that's more than I ever thought possible for me.
I'm happy. Really happy.
Thank you to everyone who posted their thoughts.

I know this is an old thread @Cassavaflower but I just read the whole thing. How exciting and what a roller coaster!

Wowser.

If you see thus, are you still together? Did you get married? Or was it a lovely fling?!

Hello!
How strange, I was thinking to update everyone and saw your message just now.
We are together, I'm stepmum to his lovely little boys, his parents are wonderful.
My brother gets on so well with him too which is great.
And I'm more in love than ever!
A massive thank you to Mumsnet and everyone who posted encouragement. I am so glad I took the plunge!

Wow @Cassavaflower

What a gorgeous update. I am so happy for you. Thanks so much for the update. Its lovely to hear a happy ending!!

Best thread today ❤️

Awwww I love this so much

So you did get married then?

What would thora hird do?

This made me proper smile, love a happy ending 💕

So brilliant. I posted to this thread several times under another name to cheer you on. Oh, I love a happy ending!

Love a happy thread !