Am I too old, is this a mid life crisis?

[Cassavaflower]

Am I being unreasonable to have a crush on a guy 16 years my junior?
I feel like I'm going crazy. I work from home and never interact with anyone in the office but a couple of weeks ago I was asked to meet one of the managers. I was expecting an older guy judging by his emails. I wasn't expecting him to be mesmerising. I lost it, getting tongue tied, blushing. I mean, just awful. He's funny and clever and 16 years younger than me. He's single. We are meeting up tomorrow as he wants to see me before I turn 50. I've been literally dreaming about him.
I'm having a midlife crisis aren't I?
Should I just accept I'm being silly and enjoy the coffee and think no more of it? I've been single for years and years.
God, I have it bad. Oh and to avoid drip feeding he tells me I'm awesome all the time but that doesn't mean anything right?

Crikey

This is better that M&H

Hooray!

Aww this is lovely!

Aw I love this. I think you're wise to be a bit wary but if it's of any help, DH and I were like that with each other as soon as we met and we still are 7 years and one rambunctious toddler on!

Oh OP, I am really happy for you!

I really hope you can enjoy this to the full!

I suppose my only concern is you sound unsure of what you want, unsure of your own judgements, and in need of validation. He sounds like a nice guy and that you have found a coupling with a lot of sexual chemistry. That's fantastic! But perhaps enjoy it for exactly that - a huge ego boost with hopefully soon some fantastic sex - a wild and wonderful experience.... that helps you feel revitalized and builds your self confidence in your attractiveness. if it becomes more and starts passing the test of time to be a deep relationship alongside a big sexual attraction, then wonderful.... but perhaps not set your heart on that part quite yet. The former is also an awesome thing to have, as long as you know that is what it is.

I am so glad you are happy! We all deserve to have that! Enjoy!!

@Cassavaflower - oh OP! that`s brilliant news! Fingers crossed!
Be happy!

If you're both single, you're not hurting anyone so go for it. However, the fact that he's a manager means that if it goes pear-shaped you will likely come off worse, not him. But if you WFH mostly, then that might not even be an issue for either of you.

Does he have a brother ?

So, so pleased for you. Keep updating, won’t you?

Aw - lovely! Happy for you.

Morning, time for an update methinks.
Thank you for all the amazingly supportive messages. I go from thinking this is such a bad idea to thinking it's the best idea ever.
On the downside he's a Millennial which means no phone calls ever, he is happy WhatsApping but we are seeing each other quite regularly so that makes up for that.
We are meeting tonight. I'm going to try to rein in the snogging and do more talking.
He's quite a serious stressy person but also fun.
I had a dream about kissing him and after we kissed for real he asked how it compared. I wish I had said: "The dream kiss felt real and the real kiss felt like a dream".
Will let you all know what happens tonight!

Aww 😊 best wishes for later, op!

Aww I’m smiling OP as I read your last post, I’m a hopeless romantic

Um. It's Thursday! We want our update...

Bloody hell, go along for the ride and see where it takes you.
I know I would if I was single. He may have a thing for older women, he may have a surprise for you, that's why he wants to see you before your birthday.
Have your dream, as long as you don't take it all too seriously.
Then if it does become serious, then bonus.

Ha ha I'm seeing him tomorrow too.
Everything is going great but I'm trying really hard not to get too carried away. Like some of my earlier messages to him were so full on so I'm conscious of not scaring him off by seeming too needy. I felt like he was backing off a bit so I dialled back the messages and then he asked me out again.
I just want to tell him I'm crazy about him!
I've not decided what to do tomorrow whether to go see a film or go for bite to eat.
Any ideas? So excited!

Yes to both your questions.

Enjoy a flirty lunch and leave it at that. If you work from home, you're probably a bit deprived of adult company.

@rheumatoidwarrior 88
can bring life back into a person and remind them to live life

Yes, well, the over-45s need to be exhumed from the grave before a date! Would jump-leads help????
Hope she was suitably grateful!

Hello,
Another update. I'm totally in love, it just gets better and better. I would totally recommend a younger guy. And we are taking things slow so no fuckfests yet but oh the kissing is so good. Sorry I sound like a besotted teen but it's doing wonders for me, I'm literally glowing. Best beauty treatment ever!

Awwww that's wonderful! Thank you so much for updating! You enjoy every little bit of it! You deserve it!

Hello, an update is long overdue I think.
I'm in love and we have been seeing each other regularly and he calls me loads now.
The age thing doesn't bother me at all. In fact I'm so happy I look years younger, everyone has noticed. To anyone in a similar position I say go for it.

Yeeeeeesssssss! Fabulous news. Thank you so much for updating. 💗

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