Am I too old, is this a mid life crisis?

[Cassavaflower]

Am I being unreasonable to have a crush on a guy 16 years my junior?
I feel like I'm going crazy. I work from home and never interact with anyone in the office but a couple of weeks ago I was asked to meet one of the managers. I was expecting an older guy judging by his emails. I wasn't expecting him to be mesmerising. I lost it, getting tongue tied, blushing. I mean, just awful. He's funny and clever and 16 years younger than me. He's single. We are meeting up tomorrow as he wants to see me before I turn 50. I've been literally dreaming about him.
I'm having a midlife crisis aren't I?
Should I just accept I'm being silly and enjoy the coffee and think no more of it? I've been single for years and years.
God, I have it bad. Oh and to avoid drip feeding he tells me I'm awesome all the time but that doesn't mean anything right?

I don't know if I'd call it love bombing. It sounds as though he's trying c to make sure you know he likes you. Love bombing is more about zeroing in on what you need in a calculated way and is a lot more intense than telling you he likes you.
I'd give him another chance, why miss out on a connection. You only live once

And he puts his kids first. That's a plus

Hello another update.
We are meeting on Monday. I don't think he's lovebombing I think he's just really sweet. It's all back on.

Great 😁

Thank goodness! I was so afraid you were running away from something lovely.

@Cassavaflower - all the best for the meeting! just please be cautious, guts usually dont lie... - trying to imagine the Kate Middleton look though, great choice!!!

Thank you for kind messages- I should have said 'off duty Kate Middleton' short fitted jumper, tight jeans, Supergas and long hair curled into glossy waves.

Today's the day!

Don't forget our update!

Oh the update is we have tried three times to meet up and not been able to. The first time he had childcare issues, then I got ill and I'm still ill. But it's just made us want each other more.
And it's so hot when he emails me sensible questions about work or we speak on the phone when he's in the office and then we send filthy WhatsApp messages to each other.

Guys love older women : - no they don't.Exceptions prove the rule.

It’s not creepy because he is a grown man in his 30s but it’s the fact he is your line manager, can’t you just keep fantasising about him from afar without doing anything about it?

@Cassavaflower hmmmm.... alarm bells! Three times he came up with three excuses.
Don’t want to burst your bubble, but it ain’t going to happen.
I hope you find a real man who can give you butterflies 🦋

I'm literally leaving the house to see him now. I will let you know if there are fireworks or if it's a damp squib.

Fingers crossed!!

Hope it goes well!

God I'm so invested in this thread!

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This is random but on an episode of 24 Hours in A&E there was an age gap couple who sound a bit like you.

Posh, quite plummy young chap, bright and eager, clearly very intelligent. Older Asian lady, possibly 20 years older I'm not sure. And her son from her first marriage, now adopted by plummy.

They met at work, thought it was ridiculous to fancy each other so tried to keep it casual but ended up deeply in love and got married. When plummy referred to the lad as 'our son' I may have welled up a bit.

Do you like red trousers?

Update!
Omg!
He's not a psychopathic narcissist, he's amazingly intelligent and sweet. Definitely not plummy!
We had an amazing time, there was lots of snogging and hand holding and talking and I'm on cloud 9.
We are seeing each other on Tuesday. I enjoy being with him and we have a laugh.
And he kept saying I was incredibly beautiful.

😃😃😃 So happy for you!!!! Thanks for the update!

He's being really bloody creepy if he's your boss.

Well I obviously didn't read the thread .....

Aww OP I’m happy for you!

I love that new relationship/new whatever with the person that you fancy, feel, there’s nothing quite like it!