To say I warned him, and it's his own fault.

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DS is 2 weeks old. I'm BF and hungry constantly. I also had gestational diabetes for the last 10 weeks if pregnancy so very limited carbs.

Last night I wanted fish and chips. DH has unfortunately inherited a bit of competitive under eating from his mother (oh that's me done for the day if there's a big lunch- this is never actually true!) So I was very specific with my order, and being hungry.
He arrives home with a fish each, but one single chips (not even a large one) to go between me, him and DD. He also missed out the curry sauce
I served up for myself and DD leaving almost no chips for him, then told him it wad his own bloody fault and he needed to go back to the shop if he wanted chips. He's been sulking since last night. WIBU? He knows how much I hate the meager little portions when we go to his parents, it shouldn't be too much to ask for a reasonable portion if chips, esp while breastfeeding!

I have done this. DH will always underestimate and I overestimate how much food we need. If he goes to the chippy and doesn’t get enough he gets less - he’s fully on board with this and wouldn’t sulk though.

Anyone else feeling sorry for the mansplaining dickhead on threads partner / kids.... off you fuck cunty chops.

OP YADNBU, your DH was being a tool. He’d have had fuck all tea when I was BF I’d that had happened here.

It's actually so hard to imagine being in a place in my life where I have so little self knowledge that I need a man to determine my appetite and how much I will need to eat.

WTF.🙄

Astonishing and astounding that some women feel this is OK.

I must be a truly extraordinary women that I have managed 55 years without this guidance.🙄

That some women cannot see the link between a man deciding against what you have specifically requested you want to eat, thinking they know better is so controlling and unhealthy....is sad.

OP yadnbu I cannot bear when the competitive undereaters try to control others intake. Listen by all means if you need to be publically judgy then do carry on , I have the choice to completely ignore you and snigger in my head. Everyone knows the more vocal about having a bird like appetite the bigger the bloody issues.

However mess with someone elses portions because you think you know better or are enforcing your beliefs, that will get a giant lecture on respecting peoples choices.

I am a healthy weight , have just lost loads of weight but it would be unthinkable for someone to attempt to control my food.

This does need a serious talk actually....along the lines of control your own portions that's your choice but do not try to control mine , its arrogant an dinfantilising

Up to him if he wants to under eat. Leave his miserable self to it. You placed your order, you are certainly entitled to then put it on your plate. If he feels he misjudged and requires more food then he's perfectly capable of returning to get it.

@joystir59 off you jog you prat. She's just had a baby AND he expected a small bag to do 3 people not one. Either you are a Goader, an Undereater or just a really poor reader. Which is it, oh skinny preachy one?

Joe doesn't share food!

Because of this thread my partner went and got me a large chips from the chippy and I ate all of them myself.

Glad you stood up for yourself OP

I hate shit like this!

I'm not overweight and was very neat during both my pregnancies.

Went out to a tapas restaurant with DH and toddler son when 6 months pregnant. DH ordered a burger as he's a total Smithy (doesn't share food).

Anyway I ordered the following for me and 21 month old hungry Horace Ds:

Pita bread strips and hummus
Beef kebabs
Paella
King prawns with chorizo
Calamari
Portion of chips

Waiter appears and then tells me "'Most people would only order 3 tapas plates, you have ordered too much" I explain it's for me and ds. He continues "it's too much" I'm sat mortified so remove the calamari and paella.

When it turns up the tapas dishes are tiny! The beef Kababs consisted of two tiny Skewers with half the tapas dish being salad... the king prawns came with a tub of dip which took up half the tapas dish (not side plate size, proper tiny tapas size).

And the chips were in a small bowl!

I was livid! DH thought it was hilarious!

Honestly I look back now and realise it was a man trying to tell me what I should be eating. The portions were pathetic. I refuse to go back there! Had to have toast and marmite when I got back home.

Yanbu at all op! And ignore the twats telling you it's too calorific and that everyone is overweight etc...when they're breastfeeding after pushing a baby out of their vagina then they can judge...

I note one of the fat shamers used to be fat...just like ex smokers who shame other smokers.. pisses me right off!

It doesn't matter what size you are op you wanted to eat what you had asked for And bloody well should have! Good for you!

The Italians well Sardinians I know can definitely eat especially ice cream every night which is full of calories and I know at least two obese french people. So this thing that gets banded around about other nations being paradigms of virtue when it comes to healthy eating are not always true.

I remember being absolutely ravenous when breastfeeding, I would have eaten him.

i dont care if your overweight underweight going on a mad food competiotn if u ask for your own chips he shold ge them

no thats its competitve maybe it is my dh is always saying oh we dont need to eat yet we had breakfast-yeah its now 5pm and im starving-i didnt know you can only eat at certain times

i think he gets it from fil he thinks a bowl of creal should last you a whole day

Most Italians are actually quite fat.
And there are plenty of fat French.
I don’t know where the idea came from that they’re all a size 8

My mother is like this... a champion of competitive under eating. She likes everyone to think she eats like a bird and is no bother to anyone as she eats so little as to be inconsequential.... the problem is she then eyes up everyone else’s meal and wants a little taste of this and that from everyone’s plate. And gets miffed if the person doesn’t offer her a taste or doesn’t immediately look delighted to share their meal with her. She is quite controlling and manipulative in other ways too

My mum is like this! When she visits she insists on eating beans on toast for every dinner as she doesn’t want to put on weight and when I say I don’t know what I want she insists we have beans on toast too. Does my head in she soon gets annoyed if I have something else and don’t offer her some though. Does my head in! Good on you OP.

I just had chip shop chips for dinner. Yummy yum yum. And a couple of glasses of white wine (sauv blanc goes so well)!

Thanks for the inspiration OP

Some of the comments on here make me cringe!!
I started my pregnancy at a slim/healthy weight and now, following a 6 month battle with HG, am significantly underweight.

You better believe the moment DS is out I’m gonna carb load like there’s no tomorrow and have NO shame about it.
I’ve actually been advised to ‘eat generously’ post birth to aid my milk production as I’m so skinny now.

OP your DH was incredibly unreasonable and I’d have lost my shit with him if he’d done that to me! He sounds passive aggressive and controlling

Have the fatsplainer and mansplainer left yet?

In fairness

Had I need you I’d have taken all of the chips (Minus DD’s portion) and stuck his fish on a plate. When he asked it would have been a case of ‘You’ve got your fish. There was only my portion of chips id specifically asked you for in the bag. Couldn’t see yours or DD’s, did your portion fall out on the drive, or did you ignore the order I gave you?’

100% would not stand for him sulking now though. I’d tell him straight that he’s gaslighting you over food portions and you won’t stand for it!

Has he stopped sulking?

This will probably pies you off, but a portion of chippy chips has between 800 and 1k calories

Akcherley, no it does not.
www.checkyourfood.com/ingredients/ingredient/1240/chip-shop-chips-takeaway

428 for 200g

So ner.

These threads are catnip for the competitive under-eaters.

its fish and chips.and in a healthy balanced diet its not evryday.so whn you have it a lage portion is not going to bother your body.it will quickly adapt and get rid.if your eating a balanced diet it will not hurt it one single bit.
this competitive shit on here is horrid.

who cares.1000 or 100 eat it in balance and it wont matter it really wont.

Well done op, you handled this perfectly