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To say I warned him, and it's his own fault.

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DieHardISaChristmasFilm · 21/12/2019 12:34

DS is 2 weeks old. I'm BF and hungry constantly. I also had gestational diabetes for the last 10 weeks if pregnancy so very limited carbs.

Last night I wanted fish and chips. DH has unfortunately inherited a bit of competitive under eating from his mother (oh that's me done for the day if there's a big lunch- this is never actually true!) So I was very specific with my order, and being hungry.
He arrives home with a fish each, but one single chips (not even a large one) to go between me, him and DD. He also missed out the curry sauce Xmas Angry
I served up for myself and DD leaving almost no chips for him, then told him it wad his own bloody fault and he needed to go back to the shop if he wanted chips. He's been sulking since last night. WIBU? He knows how much I hate the meager little portions when we go to his parents, it shouldn't be too much to ask for a reasonable portion if chips, esp while breastfeeding!

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Deckthehallswithlotsofcake · 21/12/2019 16:47

@joystir59 please change your name to shitstir, it would be more accurate and also you have been very rude to the OP.
@Lurkingfather how nice to see that you follow the correct mansplaining recipe and writes something that is both rude and incorrect.

DoesntLeftoverTurkeySoupDragOn · 21/12/2019 16:49

Have you ever breastfed, LurkingFather? 🤔

If not, then I would suggest that you know fuck all about it and how hunger doesn't run according to neat little guidelines. So, sometimes you can be ravenous, sometimes not hungry.

DoesntLeftoverTurkeySoupDragOn · 21/12/2019 16:50

I was eating three big meals a day and losing weight still

Me too.

sophiajasmin · 21/12/2019 16:54

Is he jealous of you breastfeeding the baby?

aroundtheworldyet · 21/12/2019 16:55

@LurkingFather

ARE YOU SERIOUS

You’ve just backed up everyone else’s argument

Are you OPs husband? Therefore you know how many calories she’s already eaten????
I repeat

How many calories has the OP consumed before ordering a dinner of which she was already SHARING with her DD ?????

YOU ARE something else.

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe · 21/12/2019 16:57

Oh why give FurkingLather any more oxygen... he's probably enjoying himself hugely. I hate that.

Smelborp · 21/12/2019 16:57

The calories are irrelevant lurkingfather and your ‘advice’ is uncalled for and unwanted.

I’m not BF and I’m overweight. Even with that, if I order food, I don’t expect someone to police it for me because they deem it too many calories. I’m an adult and can decide my own food intake. That’s the point. You’re interrupting to add irrelevant comments.

aroundtheworldyet · 21/12/2019 16:59

@LyingWitchInTheWardrobe
I know I know

Some people make me feel really angry!! This idiot seems to have managed it today. Anyway I don’t really want to get banned to getting in a spat with an idiot - you are correct!! I shall rise above it.

Deckthehallswithlotsofcake · 21/12/2019 17:02

@LurkingFather you get your info from America? The America in which public officials have now announced that in case of an ectopic pregnancy the doctor shall now transfer the fetus to the uterus instead of aborting it or be prosecuted for murder even though this operation is not physically possible? The centre of anti-vaxx conspiracy theories? That America in which many states teach creative design instead of evolution? The America in which portion sizes are much bigger and so might also a slice of bread be a lot bigger?
Ah well, yes, I totally trust your numbers now.

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe · 21/12/2019 17:04

I do it too aroundtheworldyet, there are some horrendously goady posters on mumsnet at the moment. Hopefully, it's almost a meal time and LurkingFarter's attention will be elsewhere... Grin

HugoSpritz · 21/12/2019 17:05

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ChazsBrilliantAttitude · 21/12/2019 17:07

Lurking Father if I was you I would double check the number of calories in a Pot Noodle. If this is how you behave towards women generally you may find yourself alone eating one.

MiniEggAddiction · 21/12/2019 17:09

I was eating three big meals a day and losing weight still

Me too but quite honestly when you have a tiny baby and you're sleep deprived and ravenous losing weight can wait anyway.

Camomila · 21/12/2019 17:09

Lonny, Italians eat 3 meals a day regimentally. And they are very small portions compared to ours.

Skidzer try visiting Italy as a breastfeeding mum though, you'd be encouraged to eat lots and given lots of cups of warm milk and tisane to keep hydrated (or maybe thats just my relatives!)

DuckbilledSplatterPuff · 21/12/2019 17:11

I think if you have a two week old baby you are breastfeeding and you feel hungry you should listen to your own body telling you what you need and not sanctimonious claptrap from people who are not dietitians, doctors or breastfeeding experts.
I went hungry from 10 am to 6 am on the day I left hospital with a one week old due to similar utterly stupid attitudes and was nearly fainting at the end of it. If a breast feeding mother says she's hungry, particularly in the first few weeks, people who are supposed to be taking care of her should listen.
OP, I wish you and your newborn all the best and I hope you've taught OH a lesson in chip etiquette.

ManonBlackbeak · 21/12/2019 17:23

For all those competitive under eaters on here, there aren't actually that many calories in fish and chips. Certainly not as many as you'd assume anyway, and its considered to be one of the healthier fast food/takeaway choices. The fish is also very high in protein!

The 'small portion' they dish out at our local chippie is more like a childs portion and never fills me up. Im not fat either, im 5'8 a size 10-12 and weight 10stone exactly.

DuckbilledSplatterPuff · 21/12/2019 17:29

*pm

Yukka · 21/12/2019 17:31

oh what a div, YANBU. I've just finished breastfeeding and my god I could eat a horse every day and some.

Good on you for sorting you and dd out first. He'll have to learn the hard way if he won't listen.

WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll · 21/12/2019 18:01

By the way, if we're trying to find out and state authoritatively the exact amount of food that every single individual Italian eats, maybe we could ask these two Italians to verify for us from their own personal lives. As far as I'm aware, neither of them have ever breastfed or have plans to do so....

To say I warned him, and it's his own fault.
To say I warned him, and it's his own fault.
LannieDuck · 21/12/2019 18:06

You gave him your order - what was his reasoning for deliberately changing what you'd said you wanted?

EL8888 · 21/12/2019 18:08

YANBU. You were nicer than l would be, he would have got no chips. You clearly stated what you wanted and he wanted to eat so little hence l would have assumed he didn’t want any chips. He didn’t buy himself any

SimonJT · 21/12/2019 18:13

You should have given him one chip.

I know we all have our favourite chippy, but you need a better one! At ours a standard portion of chips would easily feed 3-4 adults.

HugoSpritz · 21/12/2019 18:20

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NigesFakeWalkingStick · 21/12/2019 18:25

My ex used to pull stunts like this all the time to control my eating. He had many issues that I'm sure your DH probably hasn't got, but fuck me it annoyed the shit out of me. I'd be very specific with an order or a request and he'd go out of his way to alter it to make sure I didn't eat as much (note: he had a problem with my weight, so I ditched him a lost 14 stone Grin)

Cherrysoup · 21/12/2019 18:43

I don’t think the portion size is the issue and pp are getting far too hung up it, although for reference, a large portion feeds me and the DH. The point is surely that the OP’s DH wasn’t thinking and was inconsiderate. I mean, you watch the bloke at the chippy wrapping up the portion, between three people, did he not think ‘Oh shit, I better get more’?