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If You're off for Christmas

328 replies

Foxes157 · 19/12/2019 23:33

Not to brag. Essential services are working.

Non Essentials like retail, events and hospitality are working.
We get it you have 2 weeks off. Please have some respect.

OP posts:
aurynne · 20/12/2019 01:20

Your envy is your own issue, don't make it other people's.

I am off for three weeks holiday to the most amazing, beautiful place in the World. And I won't waste a single second thinking about you while I'm there.

There. Enjoy your bitterness.

ohprettybaby · 20/12/2019 01:20

*@Foxes157

And I'm leaving my Asd daughter on Christmas day to support families to care for their loved Ones
So? You chose your job. Don't tell others what they can and can't say about their time off. Envy is very unattractive.

Many people only have Christmas day and Boxing day off.

TheSingingTowers · 20/12/2019 01:30

You could train to be a teacher OP

Merryoldgoat · 20/12/2019 01:35

That’s a no from me.

I appreciate the people who DO work to
Provide us with essential services, of course, but that doesn’t mean I have to curtail my enjoyment of my nearly 3 weeks off.

It’s my annual leave, and I’m going to enjoy it.

goodluckdontdie · 20/12/2019 01:36

Sorry if someone has been disrespectful to you, OP.

TBH I've never seen or experienced anyone being disrespectful about how much I or anyone else works over the Christmas period.

ClemDanFango · 20/12/2019 01:40

Stop being a bloody martyr. If you don’t want to work holidays retrain to a tto job. Don’t blame everyone else for your employment decisions.

FairyDogMother11 · 20/12/2019 02:01

YABU, I "only" have Christmas day off, it's my rota'd day off next week. DH has two weeks off, as do lots of my family, some have even more than 2 weeks. I don't begrudge them that at all. I happen to work in the Hospitality industry and it's one of the busiest times of the year, I knew that when I started working in my job, if I were that bothered about unsociable hours I'd have gone into another sort of career.

grisen · 20/12/2019 02:05

Meh I’d rather take my (statutory at this point) week off in April and 2 in November than a week or 2 at Christmas (or worse easter).
I picked a job where I Can work through Christmas and New Years and all those days as long as I get my November and April holidays.

Engineering2001 · 20/12/2019 02:08

What is your problem OP? Where do you get off telling us to have something respect when you are so rude yourself.

I'm sure every single person who has leave is appreciative of it.

GoToSleepYouSod · 20/12/2019 02:14

Christ, I don’t think we would be friends. I’m currently on a year off (maternity) and haven’t shut up about it, every Sunday night I like to enjoy the fact that I don’t have to go to work on Monday morning.

Everyone looks forward to their time off, whether it’s in May, September or Christmas time. People work hard, let them gloat about the little time they have off Confused

isabellerossignol · 20/12/2019 02:16

In what way is it disrespectful of people to use their own annual leave allowance to book some time off? Just because someone is off this year it doesn't mean they are routinely off for a fortnight every Christmas.

Hellofromtheotherside2020 · 20/12/2019 02:29

On the flip side, I'm sure that there are people who'd live a job, even having the opportunity to work on Christmas day, but aren't lucky enough to be employed? So maybe you shouldn't speak of your job in case you offend them?

LonginesPrime · 20/12/2019 02:46

Gosh, OP - do you think you're the only one working?

It's just a day - when I've had to work Christmas day, we make another day the big celebration day. It's really not that big a deal.

It's one thing to feel a bit miserable that you have to work over Christmas, but to tell others they shouldn't enjoy their time off is unreasonable. Not least as other people being miserable won't make you any happier (unless you actually are the Grinch).

There are lots of unpaid carers who didn't choose the life they have and NEVER get a day off. Meanwhile, you're employed in a job by choice but seem so angry about it that you'd rather everyone else be miserable too.

You have control over what job you do, so if you resent it that much, do something else and stop blaming other people.

HaudYerWheeshtYaWeeBellend · 20/12/2019 02:52

Il be considered of others and won’t be shouting my holiday leave from the rooftops, however I will be very much enjoying my leave.

I spend a lot of time, effort, money and bloody hard graft to be in the position I am now, sorry OP if you’re working however DONT dictate what others should do because of your own misplaced projections!

HaudYerWheeshtYaWeeBellend · 20/12/2019 02:55

considerate spent

XXXXXX42 · 20/12/2019 03:00

I work in an office job (I actually work full time from home) and have used annual leave to fund a fortnight off. I also have an invisible but chronic condition causing me pain and huge fatigue. I’m on my knees (some nights quite literally) and really struggling. From the outside I’d look like I’ve got a cushy number but I don’t resent those who aren’t sick!

My sister is a cop and we shift Xmas to accommodate her shifts.

transformandriseup · 20/12/2019 03:36

DH is having Christmas off at work for the first time in 10 years. I wouldn't say he has bragged about it but he is looking forward to it.

araiwa · 20/12/2019 03:38

Im working christmas day

Why would i care what others are doing?

Teagoanngoanngoann · 20/12/2019 05:23

Oh jeez... you remind me of my favourite Christmas story... " and if i had my way, all those who made merry at Christmas would be boiled in their own pudding and buried with a stake of Holly through their heart"
Bah Humbug to you!
You are obviously going through a hard time. This time of year can be full on and everyone gets tired and stressed. I hope you have a wonderful Christmas and get to enjoy the day, wherever you are and whomever you are with.
Merry Christmas to you Xmas Wink

Cupcakegirl13 · 20/12/2019 05:31

I’ve purposefully chosen a career/job that allows me time off for holidays , you too have that choice ! You also have the same annual leave / bank holiday allowances as others just used at different times. Horses for courses really 🤷🏻‍♀️ The worlds gone mad if you risk ‘upsetting’ someone talking about a well earned holiday !

BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz · 20/12/2019 05:36

I've work Christmas since I was 16. I'm 35 now and have 25-1 off. I'm fucking delighted.

OvalCanvas · 20/12/2019 05:40

@transformandriseup , same , my husband has just started a new job and has 4 days off for Christmas this year. We plan to enjoy it.

Christmasgravy · 20/12/2019 05:46

Two weeks and1 day off here.

Guess my job? Here's a clue:
I get the statutory number of paid days holiday each year.
Same as in other professions.
All other days holiday are unpaid.

anxioussue · 20/12/2019 05:46

You chose your job
I have been off for a month now and don't go back to the new year
I'm so lucky to have a chronic illness giving me all this time off aren't I, silly me for forgetting.

Glentherednosedbattleostrich · 20/12/2019 05:56

I've done my fair share of working christmas and new year. Now I'm self employed damned right I'm going to enjoy it.

I work bloody long hours, volunteer and have been ill recently.

As we are having my ill MIL (dementia, arthritis and COPD) to stay for Christmas so her carer gets finished that little bit earlier and am making christmas lunch for an elderly couple do I get to brag a little bit?

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