Boyfriend cheating.. just found out..

[Beebeezed]

Omg, I don’t know what to do. My boyfriend has gone out on a work do. I kept hearing a pinging coming from his office so I went in to mute whatever device it was and it was his iPad. Went to mute it and saw the message ‘can’t wait babe’ on the home screen. Obviously I opened it and have now found hundreds of messages between him and another girl. No idea who she is. Haven’t even looked into that yet. Just read the messages. He says he loves her. I have an 8 month old baby I feel sick please what shall I do from here? He’s just text me saying he misses me and I can see on the iPad he’s text her saying he misses her

Excellent I'm so pleased for you OP, onwards and upwards now you and you're DS deserve it.

This is an awesome update, well done you. You’ve handled it all brilliantly and your little son is lucky to have you. Brave girl x

Just read the whole thread.

Like everyone else, I'm in awe of how rational, reasonable and calm you've been in the face of such a shit show.

Sending you all the luck in the world for 2020 - I have a feeling you will find yourself happier and stronger this time next year.

As for your ex, no doubt he's with OW or will be soon because men like this are weak, pathetic and unimaginative and she will seem like the best option right now.

Thank god you will no longer have her number (having wisely blocked her) when she messages you in two year's time to say he has done the same to her.

Much love x

You're doing so well OP

OP you are amazing!! I would have loved to have seen his face when you showed him that message - so so busted!

These last few weeks have been horrible for you. But despite everything you have shown incredible strength and courage. Your Ex is a jibbering fool and he knows it!
I think your son is incredibly lucky to have a Mum like you who puts his needs so centrally.
I know 2020 won’t be easy , there’ll be anniversaries tainted by sadness, but you have family and friends who clearly love you very much.
I hope you find the joy in your life that you truly deserve

Wow I have so much respect for you. You've maintained your standards & boundaries, not done the pick me dance and just handled this so well. And it's not even been 1month since you found out.

Your son is a lucky lucky little boy. Keep your chin up & be kind to yourself when you have your wobbles when reflecting back on this relationship. Take care

Great update! As I've said before, you go from strength to strength.

Your ability to identify the positives (like closeness with family and friends) out of a really awful situation, is fantastic. What a re model for your ds.

role model obviously

Holy smokes OP. How classy, mature, strong and dignified you are.

Your son is a lucky boy and so are your family to have you in their fold. The hard days as a single mum can get really tough so staying around your family for a while is a brilliant idea. Use this time to heal and discover who you are again xx Keep us posted!!

Well done you. Your experience and how you have handled it, is a great example to others going through the same. You have maintained your dignity, been practical and exposed the rat in all his glory. If he is off work with stress or has lost a stone in weight then he has no one to blame but himself. Good luck to you in the future. You deserve to be truly happy.

fantastic, i hope your 2020 goes from strength to strength xxx

Just read through the whole thread and I can say only one thing, OP. You are one classy lady.

Wow @Beebeezed did he have anything to say when you showed him the text?

It's pretty disgusting he's saying he wants to get back with you and still seeing her on the side. If he had any respect for you still he'd cut all ties and block her himself.

She obviously isn't as sorry as she says she is either, if she's continuing to see him knowing what she knows now and not mentioning she text you either. Both as bad as each other. Liars, lying to each other too.

So much respect for you, I couldn't of held my cool.. I'm quite fiery.

You are amazing OP. I said it earlier in the thread aswell. It sounds like they are deserving of each other - you on the hand, deserve so much better

I see so many similar threads on here from women in similar situations who put up with this and stay (not a criticism, each to their own) but you are so strong and I admire you hugely. Hope 2020 is a great year for you. Onwards and upwards

You're amazing OP, I'm genuinely happy for you - wishing you all the best for the next chapter of your life

This is amazing, you've made my day OP. So happy for you and where you are now.
He's such a fool

Just wanted to say I think you’re great, your son is very lucky to have such an amazing mum x

Just read the whole thread and you are amazing! I want to give you a standing ovation 👏

well done, you. You continue to amaze me.

Jesus fucking Christ, OP. You're an absolutely bloody inspiration. Seriously, I'm absolutely overwhelmed at how amazingly you're handling this.

You go girl.

This thread is such an insane rollercoaster of emotion and EXACTLY how I would want to deal with something similar (hoping it never happens to me). Well done OP. You are such a strong woman and amazing role model! ♥️

You are incredible. Absolutely wonderful OP!!!

Just caught up, you’re amazing I hope you know that