Boyfriend cheating.. just found out..

[Beebeezed]

Omg, I don’t know what to do. My boyfriend has gone out on a work do. I kept hearing a pinging coming from his office so I went in to mute whatever device it was and it was his iPad. Went to mute it and saw the message ‘can’t wait babe’ on the home screen. Obviously I opened it and have now found hundreds of messages between him and another girl. No idea who she is. Haven’t even looked into that yet. Just read the messages. He says he loves her. I have an 8 month old baby I feel sick please what shall I do from here? He’s just text me saying he misses me and I can see on the iPad he’s text her saying he misses her

Glad things are getting organised for you. You’re being amazingly strong and a fab role model for your son

You’re really quite wonderful. Good luck x

You are totally amazing. Really you are exceptional and have done everything right. I'm so pleased for you and your son that you have been this strong and disciplined and focused.

You should be very, very proud of yourself. This stuff is so hard, and you've just stomped through it in your wellies and out the other side. Omg. Well done.

(I'm one who found it harder to get through, but then I also had a volatile and abusive one to deal with, so had to tread very carefully).

You said something that really stood out to me: that you spent Christmas surrounded by people who love you. That's it. That's so important. No lies. Just proper love. And you've got it.

You're an example to us all and I for one will never forget you. Thank you for being actually an inspiration xxxx and the very best of luck

Just catching up on your recent messages and wow is all I can say. Completely inspirational how well you have dealt with all this. Wishing you all the very best for the future

Well done, you have handled this amazingly.

Men can be complete cowards, if your not happy just leave

How are you doing OP?

I have just finished the threat, and I have to say you sound like an amazing person.

You’re a star op, don’t ever forget that.

Wow. You are handling this with so much dignity, you are amazing. You'll get through this and be happy again x

Thank you all so much for your ongoing support I absolutely needed this thread to help me get through this situation.

Ex and OW are together, they’re actually ‘Facebook official’ which is hilarious. Him and I never were as we both find it a bit lame, but they obviously wanted to ensure it got back to me somehow. Anyway, I don’t care. In a weird way it makes me feel slightly better that they’ve continued the relationship because I would have been more offended if he’d done all of this for the sake of a meaningless shag.

One thing that has happened though... I’m pregnant. If the tests are correct, I got pregnant the day before I found out about the affair. I’m on birth control so it has come as a huge shock and certainly not an ideal situation but one that I’m going to take on and be positive about. Ex was not happy and asked me to have an abortion, something I am not against but not an option for me. I’m excited to be giving my son a sibling and I’m already a single mum so I’m not scared about it. I know two is a different ball game to one but I’m staying at my parents and my mum (retired midwife) is going to be an enormous help. I’m so lucky that my parents have space to house all 3 of us and I think I’ll stay here until my house sells.

Thank you all again, you’re all so kind

Oh wow! Congratulations on your pregnancy. What a shock for you. Best wishes xx

Congratulations OP, you’re one tough cookie.

What an absolute scumbag to put that up on social media OP. He really is a piece of work and because you aren't taking him back he's given up and decided to rub your face in it and be a complete arsehole about the whole thing.

And wow OP, talk about timing! Congratulations on the pregnancy! Absolutely do not give a second thought towards what your ex is telling you to do, your body your choice! 2 kids is no walk in the park but after what you've been through mentally the past month or two you'll breeze it, how lovely for your little boy to have a sibling.

Hold your head up high OP!

Just read your whole thread and wow you're amazing OP. Best of luck with everything and a huge congratulations on your pregnancy- I'm sure you'll be an amazing mum to your 2 DC and you don't need anyone like him holding you back. Such an inspiration

Congratulations @Beebeezed! You are AWESOME and I wish you all the very best with your pregnancy.

That’s lovely news! Babies are such blessings :) you seem to be doing so well op! Long may it continue. I had my younger two 17 months apart and they are so close.

I have just RTFT, and op my goodness what an amazing person you are.

Congratulations on your new life, and your new baby.

This deserves to be in there with the Classics.

Congratulations!!! I just love how happy and positive you are! The complete opposite of your ex
He may be a loser but you got two good things from him. You're gaining more love now. So happy for you.

Wow just read this ! What a blessing for you ! Your saddo ex and gf are such losers ! God bless your parents you are amazing

Wow, how truly inspiring you are!
Congratulations on your pregnancy news!!!
Looks like 2020 is your year xxxxx

Something very similar happened to me. I wish you all best, I’m sure you can handle anything that is thrown at you. Congratulations on the baby x

Congratulations on the baby! I've lurked on this thread since the beginning, and you've showed such grace and strength. Your babies are so lucky to have you as their mother. Please keep us updated. Best wishes to your wonderful new future!!

Congratulations at least you know this pregnancy you will be surrounded by people who love you & not deceit
Just make sure you don’t forget to add this baby into your financial calculations with your Ex. You don’t owe him anything especially after his actions!
Just be wary the pair don’t try and push the blame on you, another baby shows him in his true colours and creatures like them are strangers to the truth?
How has his family taken it?
Any mother would be devastated for a child of theirs to behave in such a deceitful underhanded manner

So basically he's got with ow because you've not taken him back then? And as for her morals too, I just can't.. So many things in my head after her text and him not knowing she sent it, good luck to them! That's just disgusting.. Jesus he's a piece of shit for asking you to do that too.

Congratulations, you are amazing and I wish you all the best with this pregnancy.