Boyfriend cheating.. just found out..

[Beebeezed]

Omg, I don’t know what to do. My boyfriend has gone out on a work do. I kept hearing a pinging coming from his office so I went in to mute whatever device it was and it was his iPad. Went to mute it and saw the message ‘can’t wait babe’ on the home screen. Obviously I opened it and have now found hundreds of messages between him and another girl. No idea who she is. Haven’t even looked into that yet. Just read the messages. He says he loves her. I have an 8 month old baby I feel sick please what shall I do from here? He’s just text me saying he misses me and I can see on the iPad he’s text her saying he misses her

Goodness me, @Beebeezed, I’m absolutely bowled over by your strength and grace. You would have been absolutely within your rights to rant and rave, to call him every name under the son and to cling onto the life you had. But you’ve held your head high with dignity and - much as it feels like everything is disintegrating right now - you should be so very proud of yourself. Bloody well done you. I wish you all the best for the future and the best Christmas for you and your son.

You are doing so well op!! I was where you are with my ex (pre kids) and was a sap and took him back. It was awful and he cheated again anyway so not worth struggling through re building etc.

You will find a new house and it will be a wonderful home for you and your son and he will grow up knowing that it's better to be happy alone than in a crappy relation ship.

Hope you have a good a Christmas as possible with your parents and son

OP, there are no words. You're a god damn super hero. I wish you all the very best

You are amazing. You probably already know that and in time to come knowing how you dealt with this trauma will always hold you in good steed for any shit life throws at you. Well done amazing woman! 💐

You are amazing OP, I'm in awe. This is such a hard time but you'll get through it with your head held high knowing you took the high road and did the best for your son - he didn't have to do this but he did, so it's all on him and it's all his fault. He's got no-one but himself to blame for the consequences, and he'll regret this forever while you will move on with your life. Wishing you all the best

(He as in your ex! Not DS )

Have a great time tonight OP, you sound fabulous. Well done for kicking him to the kerb and not falling for any bullshit! So glad you're being well looked after by family and friends. I hope you have a lovely Christmas and 2020 is a great year for you and your son.

Techway its not just taken males that have affairs - woman in relationships also stray please don’t make this a sexist issue

Op hope you have a great night out with friends. You’re taking the changes to your life in your stride. Remember to give yourself time to grieve for what could have been, life is taking a different direction and best wishes for the future

Have a brilliant, well deserved night out.

You are clearly surrounded by some amazing people, you've got a brilliant rock in your mother.

I wish you all the luck and happiness for your future and have a brilliant Christmas.

Well done OP, you'll be just fine.

Have a good night tonight with your friends, and a good xmas with people who truly love you.

I’ve just sat and read through the thread. I’m in awe at how you have managed to handle yourself OP although it must’ve been heartbreaking for you.

I wish you all the very best

Just another voice here saying you've handled this brilliantly. Have a great night with your friends x

I just saw your OP posted in Daily Fail comments on Facebook. I’m not sure what this guy is trying to do, but it confused the fuck out of me.

I just happy ugly cried reading your update OP. Not good seeing as I'm sitting in a train.

I think you are amazing and have such strength. It is the right think to do and it really will get easier.

I just saw your OP posted in Daily Fail comments on Facebook. I’m not sure what this guy is trying to do, but it confused the fuck out of me.

WTF... I agree...... why would someone do that

Finally someone that realises their worth! What a brilliant example for your son and honestly you have done the right thing. To cheat is bad enough but to cheat at such a vulnerable, special time as having your first child is unacceptable! You will be happy again and you will have sad, difficult times to come but you have shown what a strong woman you are. He is a fool. Be prepared for them to shack up together but she will be the one worrying where he is every night not you and that's your revenge. Have a good night and Merry Christmas to you and your son

Well done OP! You sound incredibly strong!

Wishing you the best of christmasses! You deserve happiness and respect and you've done so well to immediately leave him

Thanks for taking the time to update us all. You have a great night tonight enjoy the support of you’re friends and family. And you are a star.🌟

What an amazing lady you are x A shag was never worth losing you for and I hope to God the reality of that is kicking in for him and stays !! Bless your heart x

I just saw your OP posted in Daily Fail comments on Facebook. I’m not sure what this guy is trying to do, but it confused the fuck out of me.

Clearly someone trying to get publicity/attention seeking- I wonder who it was?

Your son has a great mum! Well done for knowing your worth and leaving the arse.
What a loser your ex is!

Well done OP. You are strength and dignity personified. I wish (and fully expect you to have) much happiness, you deserve it x

You're amazing OP. You've handled such an awful situation with such dignity. When you're ready you'll find someone who truly deserves you, I'm sure. Have a great night out tonight, I'm glad you've got a strong network to support you. X

You are an absolute rock star. I don’t think I have seen a thread where someone has been as self possessed as you.
It may get harder over the next few weeks as it sinks in but you have been so strong, don’t throw away becoming the incredible independent mother you are.
Kudos to you and wishing you a great Xmas

Have a great evening. I'm sure you will go through every emotion in turn, but you have proved yourself a strong and capable lady. You should be proud of yourself.

Take care and have one for me!!