Boyfriend cheating.. just found out..

[Beebeezed]

Omg, I don’t know what to do. My boyfriend has gone out on a work do. I kept hearing a pinging coming from his office so I went in to mute whatever device it was and it was his iPad. Went to mute it and saw the message ‘can’t wait babe’ on the home screen. Obviously I opened it and have now found hundreds of messages between him and another girl. No idea who she is. Haven’t even looked into that yet. Just read the messages. He says he loves her. I have an 8 month old baby I feel sick please what shall I do from here? He’s just text me saying he misses me and I can see on the iPad he’s text her saying he misses her

Gosh OP, I'm in awe at how dignified you have been. You seem like such a strong woman with an amazing, supportive mother. I hope you're OK today, will be thinking of you

Hope you’re okay OP

My EXP did something similar when my DD was a few months old and also just before Xmas, it's horrible at anytime but at this time of year it just feels worse.

Hope you are ok op

@Beebeezed you are dealing with this with dignity and amazing strength. Lots of love to you and your little boy

I'm so very sorry you're going through this. I hope you and your Baby are doing ok today OP

Wow! What an amazingly strong person you are OP. His loss. Sending love to you and your baby baby x

You have reacted perfectly to this horrendous situation OP. You should be so proud of yourself. Stay strong and don't let this awfulness spoil your first Christmas as a Mum. You will of course be sad but you have so so much to look forward to x

I'm so sorry this is happening to you op

You deserve a medal OP.

Your baby is so lucky to have such a caring, intelligent and dignified mother.
My thoughts are with you this evening . You did the very best you could do, OP. Keep your head held high. Thank heavens you have such a lovely supportive mum. Take care.

I am so sorry OP, what a total bastard. Just remember that you have done everything right, you've kept your dignity, you've done all the right things for your baby boy who will one day be very very proud of you.

Couldn't just read and run, so sorry you are going through this at such a vulnerable time, your babies first Christmas. You have acted with absolute diginity and class, which is far more than him. Please take your time to work out how you feel and what is best for you. Don't be embarrassed you have done nothing wrong! Please lean on everyone you can for support. Thinking of you xx

Hope your ok op , some mumma tlc goes along way when we are feeling so vulnerable xx

There's no coming back from this. What a bastard well done for such a dignified exit.

Well done. Stay strong.

I hope you're managing to stay strong. Good luck OP. And tiny OP!

What a dignified woman you are OP.
I hope today has been as ok as it could be, in the circumstances, and that you got some rest

You are an amazing woman. I will be thinking of you. X

This is just awful, the betrayal! Hope you are doing ok today xx

So glad you have your Mum OP, stay strong even when your anger dies down. You are setting a great example to all the people on here currently putting up with this shit.

and hugs.

Hope you’re ok OP.
An ex cheated on me - we didn’t have children but we were actively trying.
I reacted in a somewhat similar way, due to logistics and our lifestyle I wasn’t able to go in all guns blazing and looking back once it was all over and done with, I was so glad.

I am so glad I never went full banshee mode, cutting up clothes, making public statements on social media etc. In fact I did the total opposite- I cut him off, I changed my life, I gave him nothing more from the day I found out. I think that made it worse for him, he couldn’t even write me off as psycho or overreactive etc.

I am so glad I never got drunk and slated him and the OW on Facebook- due to their jobs I could have made it very difficult.

Wishing you all the strength in the world to get through this horrible time, you will though, you’ll come out the other side stronger, wiser and with more self love than you’d think. Just keep knowing your worth.

You are one classy lady and he is one hell of a shit bag. Don't ever think about going back.

This is so sad, what a horrible bastard

I wish I'd had your strength op, I would have saved myself 18 months of misery .

Hope you are coping ok.

I bet he had a nasty shock when he woke up hungover and realising it was game over!! I hope it's not him hard too. I bet the clever dick thought he had his double life all sussed out!