Boyfriend cheating.. just found out..

[Beebeezed]

Omg, I don’t know what to do. My boyfriend has gone out on a work do. I kept hearing a pinging coming from his office so I went in to mute whatever device it was and it was his iPad. Went to mute it and saw the message ‘can’t wait babe’ on the home screen. Obviously I opened it and have now found hundreds of messages between him and another girl. No idea who she is. Haven’t even looked into that yet. Just read the messages. He says he loves her. I have an 8 month old baby I feel sick please what shall I do from here? He’s just text me saying he misses me and I can see on the iPad he’s text her saying he misses her

I would start a group chat on Facebook with him and the other woman.

But I'm PAF....

So sorry OP but you are amazing and strong. Hope you manage to get some sleep

Dear op, you are so strong. Good on you for leaving. No one should have to deal with that. Your mum sounds amazing and I'm sure she will be there to support you until
You can bet through this horrid time. Good luck. You and your son deserve better x

I'm so pleased you have left. Stay with your mum and make a new life. Please don't go back. X

Well done for getting the hell out of there OP. He’s a disaster of a man. X

My heart goes out to you OP. What an absolute bastard - you are far too good for him. I'm so pleased your Mum has stepped in and is close enough to have been able to help. You have handled the whole thing with class and dignity and I admire you for that. Stay strong, look after yourself and enjoy your little boy. I know it's easy to say, but honestly things will get better. Hugs

Big hugs OP and well done for getting out before he wakes up. I'd recommend putting as much space as you can between you and him for the next few days. His first go to will be to try and talk you round and whilst you're emotional it's hard to be clear headed

You are going to go through emotions you did not know you had. Be strong, he will be sorry without a doubt... But get some rest. It all feels.like a bad dream at the moment but you have your family. At least he is going to feel shit this Christmas!! Serves him right!

Thinking of you. You handled it brilliantly x

Wow, OP, you have handled this amazingly.

Thinking of you today.

Well done for leaving. You have been remarkably composed and sensible. I wish you lots of luck with the future.

Oh OP what an absolute shit. So sorry you are going through this, but so glad you have your mum x

A bit of advice......
When he has gone to work, go back to the house and have the locks changed. If you are renting, any reasonable eland lord will agree to that in these circumstances. Pack his stuff and leave it on the porch.
If he causes a fuss, just call 111.
If you jointly own, it makes it more difficult legally, however, you are vulnerable and the police should react accordingly. He won't get arrested but a policeman advising him to go elsewhere would probably do the trick while you sort out the legal side of it.
My heart is broken for you OP. You WILL come through this. It will be painful but you deserve happiness and you will find it. Possibly in a wine bottle at present, but eventually it will be in your coffee and your babie's eyes.
So glad you have your mum.

I’m amazed at how well and calmly you’ve handled this @Beebeezed, you’ve got a great team with you your mam and your baby, you don’t need that creep. Hope you manage to catch up on your kip

You sound amazing OP, so tough. This is going to be really hard now, but you can do this. I’m so glad you have a decent support system beside you, and that you can rely on your mum.

I'm so sorry he did this to you OP. Hugs

Well done OP.

Admirable response from you

You have NOTHING to be ashamed of.

@Beebeezed please don't don't follow @Jakkipu advice if you are renting. You can't change the locks without LL's permission and if you are joint tenants, they can't consent to that, obviously.

Pack his bags and put them at the door ready for him to take with him. Don't shout. Don't scream. Just tell him you have found out what a scum he is and to GTFO.

Perhaps I need to read the whole thread before I post...

Well done OP. X

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That was a very dignified exit. No histrionics, no stress for the baby. You must be feeling utterly devastated. Your lovely mum will take care of you.
He will have the beer fear this morning then the actual fear of losing everything. What an utter shit.

Yes very dignified.

Your child is so lucky to have such a strong parent as yourself and supportive grandma too

You're handling this so well OP. And your Mum seems like an absolute diamond, so glad you have her.

Such a dignified way to handle it
Well done