To think it’s socially acceptable in Britain to shout at children?

[backdoormadness]

Since I’ve noticed how disgusting some parents talk/shout/disrespect their children I see it everywhere.

-the neighbours who for six months of the year I can hear them yelling at their kids in the garden (their garden is about 10x15m). Most ironically the dad yelling at them as they were playing too loudly (it wasn’t the kids disturbing my peace).

-when I said excuse me to a lady in a shop who turned around to her child “get out of the way” (it was her trolley in the way). I’m sure if it was he Oh she would have said “babe, you’re in the way”.

• the toddler who was happily dillidalling walking in an empty car park as she was watching a huge flock of birds in the sky “I’ve had enough of you, get in the car NOW, I TOLD YOU TO MOVE”. Just imagine if it was her OH talking to her like that, everyone else in my party would have flinched but as it was to a child it’s somewhat acceptable?

These last two have been in the last week.

I wish it was more acceptable to challenge this kind of ‘parenting’, or at least for it not to be seen as normal.

Oh bore off you snowflake, we can't all be as perfect as you can we.. sometimes shouting works if it's a last resort....also it has sod all to do with you or anyone else how someone parents.

My neighbour screams and swears a lot at her children. She's even closed windows before ranting, thinking she can't be heard. Though it's all 'love you' when they're outdoors or in front of people.

I don't ever hear much other shouting in public other than those abusive neighbours though.

Why are you searching out old posts just to get offended?

Why did you resurrect a 3 year old thread to say this?
How did you even find it?

I wasn't searching old posts, I was looking for something similar, and this thread came up on Google, people resurrect old posts all the time, so what .

Google made me do it

YABU. I used to try not to raise my voice. But sometimes they would just drive me mad. I'd have asked them again and again. And then I'd be: just do it please! Op didn't see all the parenting that led up to what she saw.

Battling with this at the moment. I can certain my sister is abusive to her kids.

I don’t ever need to shout at mine. Can’t believe how negative her interactions are with her children who are lovely.

mom her defence she is a stressed single mother but her children are obliging types
and aged 10&12 so not the handful that younger kids can be

"My 17-year-old has never ever swore at me and we’ve never had a shouty argument. "

Well mine has. I was most upset by it.

Because its not the done thing at all on mumsnet. People really don't like it.
Make your own post, you will get plenty on response on this topic.

Er ok, I've seen loads of threads resurrected before, it's not a new thing either, bounty site had them all the time...who are you to tell me otherwise? Have a nice day.🤔

Just because posts are sometimes resurrected doesn't mean it's the done thing. If you read the end of them, most people will be shouting "Zombie thread" as it isn't the culture of mumsnet to resurrect old threads. People don't like it.
No point in trying to compare Mumsnet to Bounty either as they work totally differently.

I'm not sure it's practical for that subject to be taught in schools because for one thing families are different and what would work for one wouldn't necessarily work for another and the families would see it as being told what to do because too many British are very defensive unfortunately, that is to do with the culture and their own upbringing!!
I go abroad quite often mainly to Europe but also Asia and quite honestly can say that I never see the parents in Portugal or Germany or other places shouting at their children in the same way that it happens in Britain.
Portugal and Germany have a very much calmer attitude with their children and the children respond to that naturally.
Parents there do not shout and rather take the time to explain in a calm way and the kids, even a small ones, respond very well to that.
Here, parents shout at the children for no reason, if they go walking 2 foot away from them in a very safe place like a supermarket customer service counter they will yell at them for that!! Sometimes. yell at them for nothing, I think there's really something wrong with some of the so-called adults in this country and as for the ones on their phones all the time, no wonder their kids are screaming for attention, their phone doesn't need it!!