School mum crashing my plans

[Molly2016]

I’ll start by saying that I live in a smallish area with a big school, so it feels like I can’t leave the front door without ‘bumping’ into a school mum.
I found a playgroup a car drive away, which is great value for money and a nice group of parents, none of whom are connected to my children’s school.
I like going for the anonymity and for the ability to chat to other parents without fear of ‘something’ getting back to ‘someone’.
One of the school mums invited me to a soft play with her friend. I nicely declined as we had plans. She probed further and I stupidly said we were going to x playgroup.
Next week, who shows up at said playgroup? This school mum with her friends.
I’m annoyed as I feel like my tiny piece of peace has been invaded. I can’t relax there anymore and feel like she’s ruined it for me. DH says I’m BU and it’s open to everyone. I just wish I’d lied about our plans to avoid this happening but I actually didn’t think she would just turn up (with her gaggle of friends).

YANBU lots of people would hate this too but those saying YABU don't understand that and only see their own point of view.

Minty does this on every thread. Don't worry about it.

I would just focus on the other mums you get a long with and not pay them much attention. And don't tell her your plans in future!

You are way over thinking this OP and I very much doubt these women are as obsessed with you as you think.

I also think you need to own up sending mixed messages. You say you are friendly towards the woman - to the point where the mum invited you out and you say you politely declined saying you had other plans. Then you tell her about a new playgroup. How is she supposed to deduce from that you don't like her and don't want to spend time with her.

As for turning up at the new playgroup with a bunch of mates - you told her about a public group, and she spread word. Some of the best children's activities I attended were recommended by other mums. I always shared new places and activities and still do. Maybe she also fancied seeing some new faces in a new place.

She didn't turn up alone expecting YOU to play with her.

I understand some people are more solitary but then be more guarded, aloof and I guarantee you will be left alone.