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Aibu!? Neighbour parking issue!

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itsalwaysunny · 17/12/2019 21:59

Need abit of insight as I'm stressing out tonight after yet another incident with our neighbours. Have lived here 4 years it's my grandads house so have grown up in it, now I live here with my partner and children, our neighbours have two cars and us one. Their drive is for one but just about fits 2 cars, but only because we purposefully park as close as is physically possible without hitting our house to accommodate them. They asked us to do this on the very day we moved in we agreed and have done so ever since.

Lately though the parking has been a big issue, for example one instance I was getting out of a taxi mid day after work a few weeks ago and it was parked on our driveway to help me unload my shopping, literally for two mins if that, next door neighbours arrive home and immediately get out and tell me to move they need to park. OK that's fine I say even though I'm abit annoyed, taxi moves his car and parks away from our house and then I go over and get my shopping out from the car now parked at the top of the cul de sac.

A few other times my mum has been dropping us off home ( me and kids) and she refuses to wait for us to park and get out instead forces us to go out of our way and let her pass before we park.

Last week when my in laws were dropping my children off in the evening after having them after school they parked directly behind us whilst dropping them at the door, they weren't coming in and had left their car door open so it was obvious they werent stopping, next door neighbour came home and had to wait a minute, because of the way they have been in the past and because we could see her waiting we asked my father in law just to move the car to let her in, he did and when she got out he said to her apologies for blocking you in etc and she just replied telling him there are many other places to park and to not block her in again, he just said OK and got back in the car.

Finally tonight my parents were in a similar situation dropping my children off after having them after school, they parked just behind our car and proceeded to bring the children to us waiting at the door, next door neighbour came out of the house and said to my mum 'wouldn't it be annoying if I had to go somewhere really quickly and I couldn't because you were blocking me in.' She then stood there and watched as my parents dropped the kids off then just went back in when they left?!

Am I being unreasonable to think she's blowing a huge insignificant issue wildly out of proportion?! I would like to add every single week without fail their gardener parks outside our drive blocking us in and we have to tell them to move when we need to go out, it's not a problem we just ask and they move, the same things happen when their parents drop their children off and park across the drive ways blocking us in and we have to wait a few mins to park etc I wouldn't ever dream of being so passive aggressive and being so rude to my neighbours family. It just seems like such a stupid thing to be so obsessed about and I feel like I'm walking on eggshells around them, constantly conscious of parking too close (within our boundary) so it might be too much of a squeeze for them and yet she doesn't care about us, that it might be annoying to wait 2 more extra minutes in your car whilst my children are dropped off but I'm sure there are more important things in the world!? Also when she says there are plenty of other places to park, by that she means at the very top of our road, which, as you can imagine when it's in the evening and cold or raining I would much rather my children be dropped off as close to my house as possible even if it means her waiting for an extra minute, we do that for them and other neighbours and I really don't mind!!

Sorry for the long post I'm just getting worked up and stressed out about thisSadConfused

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MrOnionsBumperRoller · 18/12/2019 15:46

Scum like this only speak Cuntish. Tell them to get to fuck and stay there.

SpoonBlender · 18/12/2019 15:55

I'm with MrOnions.

Arnoldthecat · 18/12/2019 16:07

A photo would be nice as i was unclear from diagram one but having seen diagram two,,well im amazed. Is the boundary line between properties clear? if so,enforce it and fuck them off.

Lochroy · 18/12/2019 16:16

As pp have said, your landlord wants a fence up to ensure boundaries are clear and no one can assume a right of way. Nothing to do with you

Greenkit · 18/12/2019 16:34

Wow CF'ery at its finest

elmosducks · 18/12/2019 17:14

Carefully placed Christmas lights and plant pots should remind them about the boundaries.
How long have you lives there?

elmosducks · 18/12/2019 17:15

Sorry, just reread, four years. If they keep using your drive, they might be able to make a claim on that land, I think? Hope my thoughts are incorrect...

AhNowTed · 18/12/2019 17:28

I had assumed you were making room 'widthways'.

But no!

They get to park two cars longways by using your fucking drive, and hassle you to move when you park longways!! On your own drive.

This is madness.

A polite but firm "the arrangement no longer works for us" is all you need to say.

Arnoldthecat · 18/12/2019 17:32

It hare you renting OP and if so , is the neighbour also a renter? Are they private of housing assoc rentals?

EggysMom · 18/12/2019 17:46

if we were to ... get a fence they couldn't open doors of top car and bottom car would always have to move to let top car on off

Sounds like a solution to me Grin

woodhill · 18/12/2019 18:21

Just dreadful of them OP.

They need to move their own cars off their own drive, not trespass on yours and to be rude to your own family about being on your drive is beyond the pale

rainbowlou · 18/12/2019 18:39

I can’t believe how cheeky some people actually are until I come onto mn!
I have a narrow driveway and every day we have to move to let each other out/in/swap cars about. It’s a pain in the arse but I would never consider asking my neighbours to inconvenience themselves to make our lives easier!
Stick to your guns op, and gift yourselves your driveway back for Christmas!

Instagrump · 18/12/2019 22:39

@itsalwaysunny where is your car parked tonight OP? Sitting comfortably halfway down YOUR drive I hope?

ilikefastcars · 18/12/2019 23:31

This is cheeky fuckery at its best!
Build a wall! 😂

Rosspoldarkssaddle · 18/12/2019 23:32

Whereas you agreed originally, it no longer works when your parents and visitors are asked to move off your drive. You will no longer be accommodating their requests and will be using your drive for your vehicles from now on. If they want to get their top car out, they will need to start moving their other car and using their drive not yours. If they kick off, tell them that the realism of their request four years ago has been superseded by their constant requests for your and your visitor's vehicles to be moved at your inconvenience. In the new year, you will be formalising the boundary with a divider. Then do it. They had it good, they took the piss. Now they don't have anything. Idiots.

Ariela · 18/12/2019 23:45

You need to stand up for yourself when they ask you to move your mum's car/taxi etc. as you are unloading and say:

That doesn't work for me, this is my drive, so you can either wait until we have unloaded everybody and the shopping, or you can move your other car and use your own drive to exit your property.

WHen you have a visitor, you can say
That doesn't work for me and my visitor, this is my drive, and both vehicles are staying there for now, but you can simply swap the two cars on your own drive to get out.

TheMaddHugger · 19/12/2019 00:19

Can I just say how much I love a parking thread. It's been a while. Absolutely Fuckin Awsome 😻😻😻🖖⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐

psa im a bit loopier than Norm. Heat wave here.

Aibu!? Neighbour parking issue!
Aibu!? Neighbour parking issue!
Mypathtriedtokillme · 19/12/2019 03:15

It’s literally too hot and Smokey to go swimming here.
our aircon is set to 25 and feels delightfully cool!

Put a fence up and in the time being park in the middle of your driveway.

SpaceDinosaur · 19/12/2019 03:52

I'm waiting for a fence update!

TheSerenDipitY · 19/12/2019 04:44

you need to start parking right where it will block her the most, and do it each and every time you use the car and if she dares come and tell s you to move your car tell her that her rudeness to you and your guests while on your own land is unacceptable and she is no longer allowed to use YOUR drive way and if you see her use it you will be installing a fence to prevent her using it any further.
be firm, it is your land ( well grandads) and if it goes on any longer they will be able to have a legal right of way over it, so put a stop to it now

PennyPinkleton · 19/12/2019 07:29

Pop a mini skip or similar in front of your garage and park further down your drive. When your CF neighbour comments about the inconvenience you can tell them regardless of what’s on YOUR driveway they don’t have rights over it anyway.

Nairobiblue · 19/12/2019 07:41

Be careful
That they are not establishing a right to park there which you won't ever be able to remove.

MzHz · 19/12/2019 07:42

Scum like this only speak Cuntish. Tell them to get to fuck and stay there.

Ha ha l, love this @MrOnionsBumperRoller - awesome

GoldenKelpie · 19/12/2019 07:57

YANBU

Your neighbours are BU/CF and clearly have an attitude problem. They do not respect you and do not appreciate your efforts to park to please them and inconvenience yourself.

It is now time to park exactly to please yourself and f*ck 'em.

I live in a cul de sac in a corner. Think of a right angle and I am right at the point of the angle. This does cause issues occasionally when I arrive home and there is a vehicle from the house on either side temporarily in the way of my drive either dropping off or picking up someone or something. Do I shout for them to move? No, I wait down the street until they have moved away. This is never more and a minute or two.

I hope you get it sorted pronto.

ittooshallpass · 19/12/2019 08:02

My neighbour came around to me asking if he could rip out the hedge between our two houses so he could fit two cars widthways on his one-car width drive (despite having a garage around back of house he was too lazy to use).

This would have meant their car door opening over my drive, so I'd need to 'move over a bit'.

I said no. His face was a picture. He was stunned! They moved out not long after. Hedge is still there.

Stand your ground against CFs!!

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