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Aibu!? Neighbour parking issue!

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itsalwaysunny · 17/12/2019 21:59

Need abit of insight as I'm stressing out tonight after yet another incident with our neighbours. Have lived here 4 years it's my grandads house so have grown up in it, now I live here with my partner and children, our neighbours have two cars and us one. Their drive is for one but just about fits 2 cars, but only because we purposefully park as close as is physically possible without hitting our house to accommodate them. They asked us to do this on the very day we moved in we agreed and have done so ever since.

Lately though the parking has been a big issue, for example one instance I was getting out of a taxi mid day after work a few weeks ago and it was parked on our driveway to help me unload my shopping, literally for two mins if that, next door neighbours arrive home and immediately get out and tell me to move they need to park. OK that's fine I say even though I'm abit annoyed, taxi moves his car and parks away from our house and then I go over and get my shopping out from the car now parked at the top of the cul de sac.

A few other times my mum has been dropping us off home ( me and kids) and she refuses to wait for us to park and get out instead forces us to go out of our way and let her pass before we park.

Last week when my in laws were dropping my children off in the evening after having them after school they parked directly behind us whilst dropping them at the door, they weren't coming in and had left their car door open so it was obvious they werent stopping, next door neighbour came home and had to wait a minute, because of the way they have been in the past and because we could see her waiting we asked my father in law just to move the car to let her in, he did and when she got out he said to her apologies for blocking you in etc and she just replied telling him there are many other places to park and to not block her in again, he just said OK and got back in the car.

Finally tonight my parents were in a similar situation dropping my children off after having them after school, they parked just behind our car and proceeded to bring the children to us waiting at the door, next door neighbour came out of the house and said to my mum 'wouldn't it be annoying if I had to go somewhere really quickly and I couldn't because you were blocking me in.' She then stood there and watched as my parents dropped the kids off then just went back in when they left?!

Am I being unreasonable to think she's blowing a huge insignificant issue wildly out of proportion?! I would like to add every single week without fail their gardener parks outside our drive blocking us in and we have to tell them to move when we need to go out, it's not a problem we just ask and they move, the same things happen when their parents drop their children off and park across the drive ways blocking us in and we have to wait a few mins to park etc I wouldn't ever dream of being so passive aggressive and being so rude to my neighbours family. It just seems like such a stupid thing to be so obsessed about and I feel like I'm walking on eggshells around them, constantly conscious of parking too close (within our boundary) so it might be too much of a squeeze for them and yet she doesn't care about us, that it might be annoying to wait 2 more extra minutes in your car whilst my children are dropped off but I'm sure there are more important things in the world!? Also when she says there are plenty of other places to park, by that she means at the very top of our road, which, as you can imagine when it's in the evening and cold or raining I would much rather my children be dropped off as close to my house as possible even if it means her waiting for an extra minute, we do that for them and other neighbours and I really don't mind!!

Sorry for the long post I'm just getting worked up and stressed out about thisSadConfused

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Hoppinggreen · 19/12/2019 08:08

Fastest solution while you are sorting out a wall/fence is a row of plant pots

Lolacat1234 · 19/12/2019 08:30

Have you looked at the boundaries of your property and when they park two cars are they overstepping onto your boundary? They are being arseholes and I would tell them you are doing them a favour and it needs to stop otherwise you will install those bollard things that come up at the edge of your parking space so that only you can park on your side and they can park one car on their side also.

Mollychristmas · 19/12/2019 08:46

I don’t know if what I’m saying is wrong so take it with a pinch of salt but I’m sure I read somewhere that if people have access for a certain amount of time then it becomes a legal requirement for you to continue to allow access.

So say you let them use your drive for their access for X amount of time they can put a case forward that it has to become shared access on the deeds etc.

I might be making it up but I think you should check it out just in case.

Lolacat1234 · 19/12/2019 10:05

I wonder what would happen if you were to get a second family car just as they have? I'd buy a cheap old banger and shove it there permanently and watch them seethe!

MaggieFS · 19/12/2019 10:38

Dammit. I've been on this thread since the start and didn't think to mention penguin bollards.

thenightsky · 19/12/2019 11:58

I don’t know if what I’m saying is wrong so take it with a pinch of salt but I’m sure I read somewhere that if people have access for a certain amount of time then it becomes a legal requirement for you to continue to allow access.

I have that feeling too.

MissPepper8 · 19/12/2019 12:01

I wonder what would happen if you were to get a second family car just as they have? I'd buy a cheap old banger and shove it there permanently and watch them seethe!

Just pop it on the top half and use current car on bottom half, or get a mini skip 🤣

queenqueenqueen · 19/12/2019 12:08

Absolute CFs, cannot believe there are people thos selfish about!! Any update OP?

CatEnabler · 19/12/2019 12:15

Put up a boundary fence immediately... If you've only been there 4yrs that's no problem. And blank them from now on.

fedup21 · 19/12/2019 12:16

Some people sleep at night.

Indeed. They are often about during the day though!

OP-what are you going to do!?

DoesntLeftoverTurkeySoupDragOn · 19/12/2019 12:22

I agree - park however you like on your own drive. No need for a fence really, just stop pandering to them.

vassdal · 19/12/2019 12:23

I think it's 12 years before they are entitled to continued right of access.

vassdal · 19/12/2019 12:25

I found this thread
www.pistonheads.com/gassing/topic.asp?h=0&f=10&t=1702692
which seems to be fairly similar.
If the link doesn't work google "removal of implied right of access".

wowfudge · 19/12/2019 12:37

Yes, giving them permission in this way can lead to an easement arising. Another reason for stopping them. If there is garden they could use some of to enlarge the drive then they should do so. I'd put a fence or wall up to stop them. Their behaviour indicates that they think they are superior because they own their house and you are tenants or they think you are.

VenusOfWillendorf · 19/12/2019 13:06

When you put up the fence, make sure you have a copy of the deeds to hand to show them. It sounds to me like they are pretty confident that they have access rights to the part of driveway which is yours, and consider themselves fully in the right here.

MrsElijahMikaelson1 · 19/12/2019 17:07

Fucking mental. Time to stop being so people pleasing and get your big girl pants on!

custardbear · 19/12/2019 17:40

@itsalwaysunny - any update?

PriscillaTheHun · 19/12/2019 19:00

OMG I think this is the most cheeky CF parking thread ever!

pictish · 19/12/2019 21:00

I think you’re right!

Just. Fuck. Off.

Shesalittlemadam · 19/12/2019 21:26

@themadhugger Omg it's so hot it's purple

LimitIsUp · 20/12/2019 13:38

Well found vassdal

Jux · 20/12/2019 13:44

I think they need to 'use' your land for about 20 years before they have a case formownership, but you don't know how long they've already geen doing it.....

ISmellBabies · 20/12/2019 13:57

You're doing them a favour and they're complaining about it!! Rude fucking cunts! Stop being helpful immediately, fuck 'em. They did it to themselves.

CuriousaboutSamphire · 20/12/2019 14:09

It is at least 12 years of totally exclusive and uncontested use to gain a right of easement... OP has been using her driveway, her neighbour has not had exclusive use, ever!

And anyway, OP can just say "You may have been doing that but I certainly didn't give you permission to use my drive as your own. Who would do such a daft thing?" As it s such a bizarre thing to assert nobody would believe them!

fedup21 · 20/12/2019 14:32

What would they do if you got a second car?

Have you said anything more to them, @itsalwaysunny

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