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Aibu!? Neighbour parking issue!

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itsalwaysunny · 17/12/2019 21:59

Need abit of insight as I'm stressing out tonight after yet another incident with our neighbours. Have lived here 4 years it's my grandads house so have grown up in it, now I live here with my partner and children, our neighbours have two cars and us one. Their drive is for one but just about fits 2 cars, but only because we purposefully park as close as is physically possible without hitting our house to accommodate them. They asked us to do this on the very day we moved in we agreed and have done so ever since.

Lately though the parking has been a big issue, for example one instance I was getting out of a taxi mid day after work a few weeks ago and it was parked on our driveway to help me unload my shopping, literally for two mins if that, next door neighbours arrive home and immediately get out and tell me to move they need to park. OK that's fine I say even though I'm abit annoyed, taxi moves his car and parks away from our house and then I go over and get my shopping out from the car now parked at the top of the cul de sac.

A few other times my mum has been dropping us off home ( me and kids) and she refuses to wait for us to park and get out instead forces us to go out of our way and let her pass before we park.

Last week when my in laws were dropping my children off in the evening after having them after school they parked directly behind us whilst dropping them at the door, they weren't coming in and had left their car door open so it was obvious they werent stopping, next door neighbour came home and had to wait a minute, because of the way they have been in the past and because we could see her waiting we asked my father in law just to move the car to let her in, he did and when she got out he said to her apologies for blocking you in etc and she just replied telling him there are many other places to park and to not block her in again, he just said OK and got back in the car.

Finally tonight my parents were in a similar situation dropping my children off after having them after school, they parked just behind our car and proceeded to bring the children to us waiting at the door, next door neighbour came out of the house and said to my mum 'wouldn't it be annoying if I had to go somewhere really quickly and I couldn't because you were blocking me in.' She then stood there and watched as my parents dropped the kids off then just went back in when they left?!

Am I being unreasonable to think she's blowing a huge insignificant issue wildly out of proportion?! I would like to add every single week without fail their gardener parks outside our drive blocking us in and we have to tell them to move when we need to go out, it's not a problem we just ask and they move, the same things happen when their parents drop their children off and park across the drive ways blocking us in and we have to wait a few mins to park etc I wouldn't ever dream of being so passive aggressive and being so rude to my neighbours family. It just seems like such a stupid thing to be so obsessed about and I feel like I'm walking on eggshells around them, constantly conscious of parking too close (within our boundary) so it might be too much of a squeeze for them and yet she doesn't care about us, that it might be annoying to wait 2 more extra minutes in your car whilst my children are dropped off but I'm sure there are more important things in the world!? Also when she says there are plenty of other places to park, by that she means at the very top of our road, which, as you can imagine when it's in the evening and cold or raining I would much rather my children be dropped off as close to my house as possible even if it means her waiting for an extra minute, we do that for them and other neighbours and I really don't mind!!

Sorry for the long post I'm just getting worked up and stressed out about thisSadConfused

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ChikiTIKI · 18/12/2019 07:20

Wow!! I wouldn't want to fall out with my neighbours but this... You are doing the them a huge favour and then they talk to your parents like that?! I would not be standing for that!

QueenOfTheFae · 18/12/2019 07:20

Their drive is for one but just about fits 2 cars, but only because we purposefully park as close as is physically possible without hitting our house to accommodate them

If they are parking 1 in front of the other, then why do you need to park over to the side? Or near your house?

malfoylovespotter · 18/12/2019 07:23

Start a crowd funder for the fence. I'll donate to wipe the smug smile off CF face!

Turangawaewae · 18/12/2019 07:24

You could tell them that your grandfather was upset that they were so rude to your parents when they were dropping off the kids. He is very keen to put up a fence but you've told him its not necessary at the moment. Any further incidents and you won't able to stop him.

But I'd just put up a fence.

fedup21 · 18/12/2019 07:32

I don’t really get why their own driveway is one a one car driveway but it would fit two on if you park in a certain way? Can you explain that?

Otherwise, I would be saying this

We’ve been very accommodating of your problems with your drive by allowing you to use ours. Unfortunately we haven’t received the same in return, and you increasingly seem to regard our drive as your property, so it’s best we stop the current arrangement.’

makingmammaries · 18/12/2019 07:34

You could mark the boundary with a row of bricks for the time being. This has to stop.

LoonyLunaLoo · 18/12/2019 07:34

So you got a taxi to move off your own drive to allow your CF neighbours to drive over your drive? Why have you been such a pushover? Seriously, please stop today!

billybagpuss · 18/12/2019 07:39

I read most of this thread assuming you were blocking them at the top of the drive, then the second diagram came along and they’re complaining when you are on your drive.???

The answer to their ‘wouldn’t it be annoying if we couldn’t get out’ question is ‘no, not really, you’d just have to move your other car’

AllTheCakes · 18/12/2019 07:41

Maybe we should set up a JustGiving page for Op to install a 6ft fence, complete with penguin bollards and a giant sign that says “No Cheeky Fuckers Allowed”.

NewNameGuy · 18/12/2019 07:45

Make your driveway great again.

Build that wall!

Slateplate · 18/12/2019 07:47

Totally astounded that they asked your parents to move their car off YOUR driveway instead of moving their own!!! 😱
But the fact that he did - they think that they can do what they like now. Your family are all obviously kind people, but they are not. I think you have to make it clear that whilst you were happy to accommodate their request in the beginning, they have taken it way too far and have made the arrangement unpleasant for you.

Apolloanddaphne · 18/12/2019 07:47

I can't believe the cheek of your neighbours complaining when you use your own drive. You need to knock this on the head immediately. And stop moving off your drive when they complain. Remind them it is your drive and your guests etc can park there with your permission not theirs.

fedup21 · 18/12/2019 07:48

I read most of this thread assuming you were blocking them at the top of the drive, then the second diagram came along and they’re complaining when you are on your drive.???

Me too.

I don’t understand why you’d accommodate them once let alone repeatedly.

Why?

Do you both have problems asserting yourself generally?

usernamerisnotavailable · 18/12/2019 07:56

If you don't want to go down the fence route either borrow I or rent a car for an few days and inform them you now have 2 cars yourself so the previous arrangement no longer works for you and they will need to move their own cars to access their drive.

MineralSpinner · 18/12/2019 07:56

They are cheeky and rude and will continue to take the piss if you let them. Get a fence put up asap.

LakieLady · 18/12/2019 07:57

Say your landlord wants a fence up

This, and he wants a fence up to prevent any legal issues arising when he comes to sell the house.

If they don't know that the l/lord is your grandfather, tell them the he's really angry that you've let a third party trespass on HIS drive.

If that fails, just tell them they're cheeky fuckers and if they don't like it, they can do one.

Some people elevate taking the piss to the point where it's practically an art form.

CakeandCustard28 · 18/12/2019 08:01

Just put a fence up. They’re taking the piss and will continue too.

FraglesRock · 18/12/2019 08:03

Will they be contributing when your driveway needs resurfacing??

TheTrollFairy · 18/12/2019 08:06

Wait, so they are blocking themselves in then intimidating you as to how you park on your drive?
Just don’t accommodate them. If they ask why tell them you were happy to do so until they started to be rude to you and your family and now you will park on your property how you please. They have no right of way to your property

ImGenderfree · 18/12/2019 08:14

I wouldn’t mention anything about legal issues - don’t put ideas in their heads. It’s your drive and the arrangement is now ended.

Londongent · 18/12/2019 08:18

Just start parking on the middle of your drive, so they can't use your driveway. If they knock and ask you to move, just say no and that you are in the middle of something. Repeat until they get the message. If they continue to get arsey just state that you no longer want them to use your drive to access theirs, and if necessary you will put a fence up to mark your boundary

StrongTea · 18/12/2019 08:21

Can’t believe the cheek of some folk. Park at the bottom of your drive, put something in front of your garage door and let them get on with it.

fedup21 · 18/12/2019 08:27

If you don't want to go down the fence route either borrow I or rent a car for an few days and inform them you now have 2 cars yourself so the previous arrangement no longer works for you and they will need to move their own cars to access their drive.

What do you think they would say if you did that?

Likethebattle · 18/12/2019 08:39

Park in your drive if they complain then say you are parked legally in your drive. If a visitor of there’s blocks you in say ‘there is plenty of parking elsewhere’

Saddler · 18/12/2019 08:40

Ensure there is no right of access in your deeds for them across your drive then if there isn't stick a fence or low wall up and leave them to it

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