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Aibu!? Neighbour parking issue!

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itsalwaysunny · 17/12/2019 21:59

Need abit of insight as I'm stressing out tonight after yet another incident with our neighbours. Have lived here 4 years it's my grandads house so have grown up in it, now I live here with my partner and children, our neighbours have two cars and us one. Their drive is for one but just about fits 2 cars, but only because we purposefully park as close as is physically possible without hitting our house to accommodate them. They asked us to do this on the very day we moved in we agreed and have done so ever since.

Lately though the parking has been a big issue, for example one instance I was getting out of a taxi mid day after work a few weeks ago and it was parked on our driveway to help me unload my shopping, literally for two mins if that, next door neighbours arrive home and immediately get out and tell me to move they need to park. OK that's fine I say even though I'm abit annoyed, taxi moves his car and parks away from our house and then I go over and get my shopping out from the car now parked at the top of the cul de sac.

A few other times my mum has been dropping us off home ( me and kids) and she refuses to wait for us to park and get out instead forces us to go out of our way and let her pass before we park.

Last week when my in laws were dropping my children off in the evening after having them after school they parked directly behind us whilst dropping them at the door, they weren't coming in and had left their car door open so it was obvious they werent stopping, next door neighbour came home and had to wait a minute, because of the way they have been in the past and because we could see her waiting we asked my father in law just to move the car to let her in, he did and when she got out he said to her apologies for blocking you in etc and she just replied telling him there are many other places to park and to not block her in again, he just said OK and got back in the car.

Finally tonight my parents were in a similar situation dropping my children off after having them after school, they parked just behind our car and proceeded to bring the children to us waiting at the door, next door neighbour came out of the house and said to my mum 'wouldn't it be annoying if I had to go somewhere really quickly and I couldn't because you were blocking me in.' She then stood there and watched as my parents dropped the kids off then just went back in when they left?!

Am I being unreasonable to think she's blowing a huge insignificant issue wildly out of proportion?! I would like to add every single week without fail their gardener parks outside our drive blocking us in and we have to tell them to move when we need to go out, it's not a problem we just ask and they move, the same things happen when their parents drop their children off and park across the drive ways blocking us in and we have to wait a few mins to park etc I wouldn't ever dream of being so passive aggressive and being so rude to my neighbours family. It just seems like such a stupid thing to be so obsessed about and I feel like I'm walking on eggshells around them, constantly conscious of parking too close (within our boundary) so it might be too much of a squeeze for them and yet she doesn't care about us, that it might be annoying to wait 2 more extra minutes in your car whilst my children are dropped off but I'm sure there are more important things in the world!? Also when she says there are plenty of other places to park, by that she means at the very top of our road, which, as you can imagine when it's in the evening and cold or raining I would much rather my children be dropped off as close to my house as possible even if it means her waiting for an extra minute, we do that for them and other neighbours and I really don't mind!!

Sorry for the long post I'm just getting worked up and stressed out about thisSadConfused

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bigbubbles · 17/12/2019 22:02

Is it a double width?

Put a fence up?

itsalwaysunny · 17/12/2019 22:05

@bigbubbles no it's not, it's slight bigger than a single space but it only fits two because we park the way we do!

Yes my grandad still owns the house and has said this everytime I complain 😂 I might just have to let him!

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fedup21 · 17/12/2019 22:06

Photo?

Troels · 17/12/2019 22:06

I don't really understand is it a shared drive? Or are they parking over onto your drive? We need a diiagram

wowfudge · 17/12/2019 22:06

Stop doing everything they want. They are clearly CFs: you have given an inch and now they are taking a mile.

Alwaysrainsonme · 17/12/2019 22:06

Diagram needed!

Arthur2shedsJackson · 17/12/2019 22:06

Diagram?

JKScot4 · 17/12/2019 22:06

Diagram is a legal requirement on MN, get on with it!!

fedup21 · 17/12/2019 22:07

Yes my grandad still owns the house and has said this everytime I complain 😂 I might just have to let him!

Why wouldn’t you?!

NorthernLightsInWinter · 17/12/2019 22:07

Stop accommodating them. Seriously. They are squeezing 2 cars on their 1 car driveway because you are not using your driveway properly so they can do so. Just stop. They're rude and ungrateful and I would tell them so. Put a wall up or a bunch of plant pots down the drive on your property to enforce the point if you want. But just stop!

Stressedout10 · 17/12/2019 22:08

I advise a big strong wall and tell them to jog on

vivacian · 17/12/2019 22:08

Did anyone else scan for a diagram and still haven’t read the OP?

dementedpixie · 17/12/2019 22:09

Is it your drive or a shared drive?

Queenoftheashes · 17/12/2019 22:09

Yeah you need to stop accommodating them. That’ll learn em.

Iwouldlikesomecake · 17/12/2019 22:09

They are cheeky fuckers. It is a single driveway, you have a single driveway. I'd put a low fence up between the two driveways so that they can't park right up to the boundary, basically they open their car doors over your drive so they can get 2 cars in, and whinge at you for parking perfectly legally on your own drive!

bigbubbles · 17/12/2019 22:10

Will putting up a fence stop you from parking or just them?

Cauliflowerpower · 17/12/2019 22:11

Just tell her that. "Yes it's really annoying when your gardener/parents/visitors do that too but hey ho thank God I'm not such a sour faced old trout I can't wait 2 minutes. Yes we could.park in the next county but couldn't be arsed Now sod off Dorris. There are surely flies you should be pulling the wings off or something....."

loobyloo1234 · 17/12/2019 22:11

Put a wall or fence up. You’re being far too passive here OP

itsalwaysunny · 17/12/2019 22:12

Diagram is pending! Got OH on it! No it isn't a shared drive if we parked comfortably it would be too close to their second drive for us both to open doors so we accommodate them! I know you are all right though those that are saying to stop accommodating them! Going to enquire about the fence! Haven't done so yet as I didn't want any more aggravation but I'm at the end of my tether!

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bigbubbles · 17/12/2019 22:12

You could just get a line painted as a starting point. You don't want them to claim that they have a right to do this as it has become habitual.

Travis1 · 17/12/2019 22:12

Nah, stop doing everything to accommodate them and get a fence put up. Utter arseholes

basicbitch16 · 17/12/2019 22:13

Who does the actual driveway belong to?

dementedpixie · 17/12/2019 22:13

Tell them it doesnt work for you any more and that you will park quite legally in the middle of your drive from now on. They can fuck off and park elsewhere with their 2nd car

1CantPickAName · 17/12/2019 22:14

Your neighbour is a bully

Actionhasmagic · 17/12/2019 22:15

Diagram please

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