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Aibu!? Neighbour parking issue!

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itsalwaysunny · 17/12/2019 21:59

Need abit of insight as I'm stressing out tonight after yet another incident with our neighbours. Have lived here 4 years it's my grandads house so have grown up in it, now I live here with my partner and children, our neighbours have two cars and us one. Their drive is for one but just about fits 2 cars, but only because we purposefully park as close as is physically possible without hitting our house to accommodate them. They asked us to do this on the very day we moved in we agreed and have done so ever since.

Lately though the parking has been a big issue, for example one instance I was getting out of a taxi mid day after work a few weeks ago and it was parked on our driveway to help me unload my shopping, literally for two mins if that, next door neighbours arrive home and immediately get out and tell me to move they need to park. OK that's fine I say even though I'm abit annoyed, taxi moves his car and parks away from our house and then I go over and get my shopping out from the car now parked at the top of the cul de sac.

A few other times my mum has been dropping us off home ( me and kids) and she refuses to wait for us to park and get out instead forces us to go out of our way and let her pass before we park.

Last week when my in laws were dropping my children off in the evening after having them after school they parked directly behind us whilst dropping them at the door, they weren't coming in and had left their car door open so it was obvious they werent stopping, next door neighbour came home and had to wait a minute, because of the way they have been in the past and because we could see her waiting we asked my father in law just to move the car to let her in, he did and when she got out he said to her apologies for blocking you in etc and she just replied telling him there are many other places to park and to not block her in again, he just said OK and got back in the car.

Finally tonight my parents were in a similar situation dropping my children off after having them after school, they parked just behind our car and proceeded to bring the children to us waiting at the door, next door neighbour came out of the house and said to my mum 'wouldn't it be annoying if I had to go somewhere really quickly and I couldn't because you were blocking me in.' She then stood there and watched as my parents dropped the kids off then just went back in when they left?!

Am I being unreasonable to think she's blowing a huge insignificant issue wildly out of proportion?! I would like to add every single week without fail their gardener parks outside our drive blocking us in and we have to tell them to move when we need to go out, it's not a problem we just ask and they move, the same things happen when their parents drop their children off and park across the drive ways blocking us in and we have to wait a few mins to park etc I wouldn't ever dream of being so passive aggressive and being so rude to my neighbours family. It just seems like such a stupid thing to be so obsessed about and I feel like I'm walking on eggshells around them, constantly conscious of parking too close (within our boundary) so it might be too much of a squeeze for them and yet she doesn't care about us, that it might be annoying to wait 2 more extra minutes in your car whilst my children are dropped off but I'm sure there are more important things in the world!? Also when she says there are plenty of other places to park, by that she means at the very top of our road, which, as you can imagine when it's in the evening and cold or raining I would much rather my children be dropped off as close to my house as possible even if it means her waiting for an extra minute, we do that for them and other neighbours and I really don't mind!!

Sorry for the long post I'm just getting worked up and stressed out about thisSadConfused

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TrixieFranklin · 17/12/2019 23:10

If the council don't allow front fencing you could go for something less garish like this

Aibu!? Neighbour parking issue!
BreconBeBuggered · 17/12/2019 23:10

I honestly thought I must have misunderstood something, because it sounded as if your neighbours' sense of entitlement had robbed you of your senses. Stop bending over for them to keep kicking your arses.

thenightsky · 17/12/2019 23:11

You aren't blocking them in at all. They are blocking themselves in. Confused

MelAndShoe · 17/12/2019 23:11

Wtf

Lindy2 · 17/12/2019 23:11

You need a fence right now.

People visiting your house and parking on your drive are being made to move their cars so your neighbour can drive over your drive to park their car instead. That's just crazy.

If they say anything when the fence goes up just say that the access over your drive seems to be causing difficulties and it would be better if you each actually just stuck to your own driveways from now on. End of.

TildaTurnip · 17/12/2019 23:12

You aren't blocking them in at all. They are blocking themselves in

This is the fact of it all!

MummyPigRules · 17/12/2019 23:13

Love this thread

shouldhavecalleditoatabix · 17/12/2019 23:13

The problem with cf's is that you give an inch and they take a mile. OP I don't think you have reached the fence stage yet. It's really very simple. Even if you continue parking so they are able to move their car, the next time they come out you simply call them out on it. You don't have to be rude but just very firmly say 'We Park our cars to accommodate you NDN but this is my drive and occasionally we need to use it for a visitor's car. If this doesn't suit you perhaps we should erect a fence so there are no further issues?' Watch your NDN start back peddling.

ivykaty44 · 17/12/2019 23:14

So let me get this straight, your neighbours are complaining as you do what they do, but they don’t want you to do what they do and are rude to you when you do what they do?

If this is the case then I’d suggest that you tell them you do what they do as you thought that they thought it was ok to do what they do so you do what they do as you thought it was ok. If though they don’t want you to do what they do then they need to stop doing what they do and you’ll stop copying

Chloemol · 17/12/2019 23:16

Sorry put a fence up, then it becomes their problem. If they complain just tell them straight, she was always aggressive, you’ve had enough and now it’s their issue

RachelEllenR · 17/12/2019 23:20

We have almost exactly the same driveway set up with our neighbours) both fit two cars comfortably but end on). We are the ones with two cars and always have to move one if we want the back one out, we never use our (lovely) neighbour's driveway to cut across. Stop immediately!!

MissPepper8 · 17/12/2019 23:23

They're being dicks, look at deeds and put up a fence. Just say you feel that the arrangement has come to an end as it doesn't work for you with the amount of visitors you receive.

humblesims · 17/12/2019 23:25

Tell them it doesnt work for you any more and that you will park quite legally in the middle of your drive from now on. They can fuck off and park elsewhere with their 2nd car
exactly this

Milsplus3 · 17/12/2019 23:25

Start parking at the bottom of your drive so they can’t get in or out that way anymore. Then go out for the day leaving the car at the bottom to make your point. Get a friends car you can borrow for the day and leave it on your drive/buy second car.
Flower pots or penguin bollards until you decide about a fence.
Do you have cctv?
They are cheeky bastards don’t let their cars wheels even so much as skim your drive again

Clymene · 17/12/2019 23:32

Sorry, can I just get this straight: they are complaining about you parking on your own drive?!

They can't be, surely. No one would be that much of an arsehole

MissPepper8 · 17/12/2019 23:36

Tell them it doesnt work for you any more and that you will park quite legally in the middle of your drive from now on

This again 100%, I gotta say again you must tell them it's not working for you anymore.

We have neighbours who have a double drive, 2 cars and now their sons moved back in with his estate car. Neighbours now park their Juke half outside our house (so their kids have an easy turn into the drive I can only assume?). Not only this, any visitor they tell to do the same, so anyone who comes to us can't park outside our house or stop to pick/drop me and toddler off.

It's legal I know but if I could stop it I would.

ChorleyFMcominginyourears · 17/12/2019 23:38

Think I'd tell them that either they let you get on with pick up and drop offs for a few minutes or you put up a fence or wall inside your boundary meaning they cant drive over your property ever again to get on and off their own! If that doesnt shut them up after you've accommodated them all this time then actually do it! I would.

newbabyyy2019 · 17/12/2019 23:39

Get that fence built ASAP!
Get it done whilst they're out aswell and film their reaction when they come home and put it on YouTube for our amusement Wink

vassdal · 17/12/2019 23:42

Yeah, I'd get a fence put up too.
Cheeky fuckers.

Penguinshame · 17/12/2019 23:46

Your Dad moved off your drive to let them out? WTF? Maybe my dad is super stubborn but in the same circumstances he’d have left his car there and got a taxi home rather than move it!!! Get a fence. A lovely lovely fence.

SecretMillionaire · 17/12/2019 23:48

The next time they come out and intimidate you or your family remind them that you have been doing them a favour by parking the way you are. Tell them that unless their ridiculous behaviour stops you will be dividing the drive with a wall so you don’t have to put up with their petulant nonsense any longer.

LittleReindeer · 17/12/2019 23:50

Put up a fence. They have no right to drive over your property. You’re doing them a favour and they’re whinging, so stop doing them a favour!

Shamoo · 18/12/2019 00:00

We had similar with our neighbour. After a couple of times of her having a go at our visitors for doing what we allow her visitors to do consistently, I had a polite but strongly worded conversation with her. Either we both live and let live (ie we can both allow our visitors to park in a certain way), or we both play completely by the rules (ie you start parking in the middle of your drive and they can only park one car). I was clear I didn’t care which they picked, but once they picked they had to follow that consistently. If she chose live and let live she could not complain when my visitors do what hers do. She chose live and let live, and it’s been fine ever since. You just need to stand up for yourself.

olympicsrock · 18/12/2019 00:02

Wow they are supreme cheeky fuckers up there with Mexican House third. How bloody dare they!

LucyAutumn · 18/12/2019 00:05

They sound utterly bonkers and self centred OP. I'm looking forward to an update after the fence has been erected Xmas Grin

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