I am aware it’s meant to be the other way round but I feel most comfortable with my fork in right hand and knife in left. The opposite feels uncomfortable and I was never taught any different growing up. It’s never caused me too many problems. I generally have good table manners.
My OH’s mum is a bit of a nightmare in general. If we eat there (not often thankfully but Christmas next week). She has told me to swap hands before but I don’t feel comfortable that way. To the point I avoid eating there as much as possible. OH reminds me to eat with fork in left if we are going over there too and I’m sick of being spoke to like a child.
Aibu to think they should just leave it be? Does it really matter. It’s not like I’m eating with my bloody hands!
AIBU?
Using fork in right hand, knife in left..
AG29 · 17/12/2019 18:53
The gear lever in a car can't (usually) be used in the right hand in this country, in most of the world it is the opposite way round.
It doesn't require any fine motor skills to use a gear stick, though - you're just pushing or pulling a knob. I suppose it's the same as with the clutch - although it's the hardest pedal to control, it's still used with the left foot. Generally, if you're using your whole arm or leg, you can use either side - it's just when you have to start using fine skills with your wrists/ankles or fingers/toes that it makes a big difference.
Even so, I assume the gear stick ended up there by default, somewhere between the driver's and passenger's seats (whoever is sitting which side), just because there's no room for it anywhere else 
It's not a religion to hold your knife and fork the wrong way round though.
I suppose it's a choice though like your vegetarian analogy - if you want to keep on doing it knowing it's not the correct way, fine, crack on.
Of course it isn't a religion, but religion and ethical dietary regimes are choices you've made, as you concur (
). You won't die if you don't eat according to your religious/ethical beliefs, but you will feel uncomfortable doing so and it will feel 'wrong' and unnatural to you.
BTW, did I understand you right that you believe vegetarians keep on avoiding meat, 'even though they know it's not the correct way' ???
I think we should change the law so that all clothes can only be sold in one size: 'British'. These will be traditionally based on a 13-stone 5'10 man (or maybe an official 'proper' person size based on the aggregated measurements of every British Prime Minster there's ever been would make it more appropriate) - and anybody who isn't that size will just have to make do and adapt, no matter how awkward and uncomfortable it makes them feel - unless they actively choose to rebel and try to start willfully breaking etiquette by adapting garments to a size matching their own body requirements....
We will have to agree to disagree on that.
Of course. I didn't expect you to change your mind based on the views of a random internet stranger!
All I'd say to the OP @AG29 is that her MIL is the one being unreasonable. As shown in this huge thread, many people eat left-handed and it's caused us no problems. Many others just don't even notice!
Simply, there is no rational reason to object to someone eating left-handedly. All arguments have been so vague (based on projecting feelings onto a hypothetical person in a hypothetical setting), they are just plain unlikely to happen. It's fearmongering that Something Bad Will Happen! It just seems to be down to an irrational fear of left-handedness or to fears based on frankly outdated social mobility concerns.
And if you are judged, so what?! Pretty much everyone agrees that people who make that judgement are wrong. Someone upthread called them "useful arseholes". The OP's MiL is one. If she judges the OP for eating left-handedly, she's going to judge her for many other "slights". The OP may as well stick to her guns here. It'll stand her in good stead in times to come!
I do this too. Just assumed I'd picked cutlery up in wrong hands as a child. My adult son does too. I assume I must have laid the table wrong and he picked cutlery up wrong way round. Adult daughter uses them the 'correct' way. Can't believe it's an issue for some people.
I am left handed. My knife goes in my right hand, as do utility knives, scissors, peeler and I turn a tin opener with my right hold with my left. My mum and my husband are right handed and both use the knife in their left. Same for my daughter.
Frankly, the idea of handedness being important is extremely dated and to be "corrected" is both insulting and humiliating. The mind boggles that someone thinks they have any say on how another uses cutlery! 
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