Using fork in right hand, knife in left..

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I am aware it’s meant to be the other way round but I feel most comfortable with my fork in right hand and knife in left. The opposite feels uncomfortable and I was never taught any different growing up. It’s never caused me too many problems. I generally have good table manners.

My OH’s mum is a bit of a nightmare in general. If we eat there (not often thankfully but Christmas next week). She has told me to swap hands before but I don’t feel comfortable that way. To the point I avoid eating there as much as possible. OH reminds me to eat with fork in left if we are going over there too and I’m sick of being spoke to like a child.

Aibu to think they should just leave it be? Does it really matter. It’s not like I’m eating with my bloody hands!

He doesn’t care how I use them when we are at home. But he always reminds me to try and hold them the right way if we are going over there. I’m right handed. I’ve tried the correct way and made more mess...

What is it with these people who notice how you hold cutlery?

Stand your group OP and use them how you want. Failing that, use your hands and see if they prefer that

OK in case ur own house or with close family, but I wouldn’t want to be seen eating like that in public, or see my child doing it anywhere.
It's a fork in the wrong hand, not spitting food across the table while you eat.

Those saying there is no tight way to do things do you believe there should be no formality in life?

Don’t be so silly. Of course there needs to be but why is holding a knife and fork one of those occasions?

God I hate people

Its not “wrong” way how you please and stand your ground. If it’s mentioned tell them straight, no I am more comfortable eating this way, so please do not mention it again.

Surely the art of a good host is no make their guests feel comfortable. Getting so uptight over cutlery that you ruin a guest’s evening is infinitely worse manners than swapping your knife and fork over.

to not no

What do you say to your DP when he condescendingly reminds you? And what do you say when his DM pulls you up? Do you just put up with them picking fault with a really minor thing?

I am intrigued what judgement is made now.

I'd be telling his mother to mind her own bloody manners, forget about my cutlery quirks, and DP much the same.

I just wouldn't go there. Then there's no problem.

Ds1 is right handed but uses his cutlery like this. I’m not bothered as long as he uses it properly. My father is the same (but in his case it’s due a lifelong disability)

She needs to keep her eyes on her own plate and leave you and yours alone.

It's no-one else's business how you choose to hold your cutlery.

I have always eaten this way and do things like wearing a watch or playing guitar 'the wrong way'. Lot of left handers in my family and do think it's linked even though I'm right handed.

I would be most offended if someone insisted I eat the other way round- it's ridiculous - how anal are these people??!! Who even notices??

I used to flat share with a woman who did this and I honestly never noticed because she switched them round so quickly at the start of every meal.

As for it being bad manners? Pffft

Wow, I can't believe people still care about this bullshit about how people hold their cutlery and which hand it's in. My mum used to moan at me about how I held it the wrong way. Well it's never been a problem in the whole of my 43 years (apart from with her)

I'm left handed but actually hold it the right handed way. As do both of my left handed sons. My right handed twins bizarrely hold theirs the left handed way. I think it's odd that we all do the opposite but I don't care!

As long as they cut their food up nicely and eat politely at the table I don't give a damn which hand they use.

They are far ruder than you by pointing out your so-called faults. Ignore them, tell your OH to get stuffed and don't go and visit them if at all possible.

I’m left handed and use my fork in my left hand and knife in my right. It’s basic table manners. It always amazes me when I go out for meals to see how many people can’t use and knife and fork. Some people have shocking table manners. I feel embarrassed for them.

To be fair fish knives are pretty difficult with the opposite hand.

I do this. I usually respond by saying I hold my fork in my dominant hand so that I can shovel the food in faster. Sends them from pearl clutching to fu Hyacynth Bucket meltdown in less that 5 seconds.

I can't believe that there are people that even notice this. Get a life and stop behaving like you are better than other people.

Sorry - I cannot bear people who do not hold their cutlery properly. It shows a lack of education and social etiquette. My DH holds his knife like a pencil and fork right down near the tines - it is so ugly.

It doesn't matter one bit. One of my son's friends always had his cutlery back to front but nobody gave it a second thought, his table manners were good.
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