He wont have tory voting grandparents over for xmas

[Smilebehappy123]

As it says in the title
DH refusing to have my grandparents for xmas dinner, says he cant stand to have xmas dinner with them as they shared with us yesterday that they voted tory , we are both very left wing and have always voted labour
Not only does he not want to have xmas dinner with them he doesn't want to socialise at all with them.
What can I do ? Grandfather is very political so this topic will be brought up
Dh says he cant stand the selfish old bastards and doesn't want to know them

My late Grandfather was a racist (think of Alf Garnett) and I used to hate his comments. What I found strange was his Great Grandfather was Jewish and so he had very dark skin and black hair and was forever being asked which country he came from which used to make him so mad.

Live and let live I say.

@mathanxiety

What? Who mocks the poor? I actually come from a very poor background and lived in a council house with my unmarried mum and her siblings ... there were 8 of us sharing 3 bedrooms.

As for my Step Mum she never forced anything down our throats at family gatherings because she knows she will told off. She isn't a member now by the way because Nick left the party.

Every Christmas people sit down with relatives they cannot stand but as it is just once a year I would just grin and bear it.

I am amazed how people will just cut off huge swathes of their family. I hope they don’t mind similar treatment. My working class family was spilt between Labour and Tory voters. There were unsavory attitudes and racism with a couple of older relative and yet we also had Indian and black family members. We had enough love for each other and a good sense of humor to be able to get together for parties and other family occasions. It just seems like so many families are willing to create civil war rather than ever compromise. Life is more than politics!!! I am recovering from cancer and the people who loved me, brought us meals and cared from me were not checked at the door for their political views.

@IdaBWells

I agree 100% with your post.

I am very political and my elderly aunt ( now deceased), had completely different views to me. We just avoided politics. Simple.

“What? Who mocks the poor?”

The grandparents, Jolie. If you read OP’s dripfeed, that’s why her DH doesn’t want them over for Christmas, nothing to do with them voting Tory.

Nobody is saying all Conservative voters laugh at the poor. These particular people do (specifically they laugh at poor children who are in receipt of charity Christmas presents, which is not exactly very Christian of them).

OP hasn’t come back to comment for some time 🤔

People are being very harsh on your DH. Are your grandparents unkind? There’s got to be more to it than just the way they vote. Perhaps the main policy that made them vote Tory makes your DH object to them so much? Something he cares about deeply?

I am not a Tory AT ALL, but my Brexit-Tory-voting in-laws are coming for Christmas. We don’t talk about politics we get on very well.

But I did need to take a couple of weeks break from them in 2016 after the vote as it really upset me - because they voted Brexit on the issue of immigration and I am the child of immigrants.

They didn’t know I was avoiding them, however! It was a personal, private, break! Ha!

Although I haven’t read the full thread and have just seen how long it is, so my comment is probably a bit pointless now!

I am very political and my elderly aunt ( now deceased), had completely different views to me. We just avoided politics. Simple.

Unfortunately that's not an option for someone like OP whose grandparents will drag politics in anyway. So not so simple at all.

@JolieOBrien Every Christmas people sit down with relatives they cannot stand but as it is just once a year I would just grin and bear it.

But why?

Seriously, why?

I dont understand why you are having Christmas dinner ? Surely your husband should be working down the soup kitchen on Christmas day feeding the homeless ?

@Smilebehappy123 the more your posting about your GP views, the more I'm starting to agree with your DH

HIBU I am centrist/left wing but it’s not good to live in a bubble and their your grandparents. He needs to suck it up for a day. Even if they had voted Labour, their two votes wouldn’t have swung it our way.

Wow and they say Right Wingers are volatile!!!! So much hatred from your Husband! Tell him to piss off for the day and Invite your family.

So utterly sick of the hostility towards Tory voters. We are not all 'Daily Mail reading racist Brexiteers'. 🙄 some of us read the Telegraph/Times and voted remain. Yeah? The most outrageous extremists are the aggressive and offensive rabid lefties on here. Leave ppl alone to vote how they sodding well please without fear of verbal or physical assault. Just sick of it.

@DappledThings oh so saying hateful things in a song about Nigel Farage is ok? Such hypocrites the Lefties are!!!

What an arsehole. Epitomises the branch of the far left who simply won't tolerate the fact that people can think differently politically - and not be horrific evil people because of it. It's that attitude that has led in part to the situation Labour has found itself in now.

I kind of agree with your husband. I’d not want to spend time with them either if they can’t keep their revolting opinions to themselves. It’s nothing to do with what they voted for really, it’s more about their behaviour.

I’ve got a good few friends that voted in opposing ways to me. They’re friends. We agree on some things, we don’t on others.. But I’ve one particular friend that is driving me crazy with her views and proclamations all over Facebook (she’d love spending Xmas with these obnoxious grandparents!). She’s another that’s inherited a totally luxurious life without any effort, yet proclaims people struggling should work harder or train for better jobs etc. She’s also totally incapable of thinking of other people she knows XOR realising that they might be struggling themselves. I am finding it increasingly difficult to be around her. The thought of having to endure Xmas day with her would depress me.

As others have suggested, explain to DH that it's not on not to invite them, and explain to gparents that political wind-up discussions are not acceptable fare at Xmas.
If either refuses, you know then who's being unreasonable.

saying hateful things in a song about Nigel Farage is ok

Mocking him by insisting on pronouncing his name in a French accent and making up silly definitions of what that French pronunciation might mean is hardly hateful!

A serious lack of reading skills or effort on this thread.. Hoppinggreen nailed it above!

Buncha conservative snowflakes!

"My in-laws won't have us over for Christmas because we make fun of poor people..sob"

@ReallyRatherBlonde, I fear your post epitomises the branch of the right that can't be bothered to inform itself of the facts/reading threads before leaping in to criticise any and every Labour voter. Don't you think it's arsehole-type behaviour to mock and criticise the poor for being poor?

@lightnesspixie, you might feel less sick if you bothered to read the thread. This isn't about the vote so much as the grandparents' highly objectionable attitudes which I would hope would be disowned by Conservative and Labour voters alike.