He wont have tory voting grandparents over for xmas

[Smilebehappy123]

As it says in the title
DH refusing to have my grandparents for xmas dinner, says he cant stand to have xmas dinner with them as they shared with us yesterday that they voted tory , we are both very left wing and have always voted labour
Not only does he not want to have xmas dinner with them he doesn't want to socialise at all with them.
What can I do ? Grandfather is very political so this topic will be brought up
Dh says he cant stand the selfish old bastards and doesn't want to know them

I don't think you can abandon elderly relatives because of their political views.

I think you can abandon any guest who's incapable of exercising normal politeness and consideration.

Your DH doesnt sound very tolerant.
He is very unreasonable.
They all leave the politics out.
They are all grown.

They all leave the politics out.
They are all grown.

Have you read the thread?
The GPs won't shut up about politics. And not just politics. Mockery of the poor.

I don't think you can abandon elderly relatives because of their political views.

It's not because of their political views.

It's because they won't stop being crass and obnoxious while eating a free meal prepared for them by other people, in the home of those people.

And fwiw, the rest of their relatives will have nothing to do with them.

You can certainly “abandon” ungrateful racists snobs whose own children won’t have anything to do with them

Would you suggest the same if I woman was uncomfortable with her inlaws?

Why not? I'm a woman, if DH wanted to have his in-laws here on Xmas day and I found it too much, yes I would remove myself from the situation and go for a walk or something, rather than ban them. But OP doesn't want them there anyway, so nobody has to go anywhere.

This ghastly attitude of your ignorant husband is what has destroyed the Labour Party.

I am guessing it's your house as well as your husbands. Tell your husband that you are having your grandparents over and if he doesn't like it he can go sales shopping all day or go up to his room like the petulent child that he is.

@Smilebehappy123

Some of my relatives voted Labour and I think they have made a mistake to support a socialist party which is ruled by the unions. Have I fallen out with them over it?? Nope! I just think they have no idea what is good for our country and they will hopefully come to their senses in the future.

I don't judge people by what political party they support however when my Step-Mum decided to join the BNP I did tell her she was making a mistake and to keep it to herself because she could get attacked. I then discovered her name and address had been posted on line so I told her she needed to inform the police just incase she had a brick thrown through her window ... luckily she didn't. I did not fall out with my Dad over this because he cannot influence how his wife votes and she is an ok person except she has no idea about which political party to support.

Your other half sounds very controlling and unreasonable to me.

The OP's husband doesn't judge people by whom they voted for either, JolieOBrien.

He judges people who are rude and crass. He doesn't want to sit and listen to them mocking the poor at his own dinner table, while they eat a free meal that he and his wife provided.

Does your step mum bang on about white supremacy and refuse to shutup even when she has turned what should be a jolly occasion into a really grim one, in someone else's dining room, eating food they prepared for her?

It looks like more people who can't be bothered to read OP's posts, let alone the thread, have weighed in overnight.

So basically OP
People who have bothered to actually read the thread = YANBU
People who can’t be arsed to actually read the thread = YABU

I think you all deserve each other. Racists and Marxists - both repugnant.

@JolieOBrien i think your definition of judging is different than mine. You literately just judged your family members

This political landscape is upsetting so many people and pulling apart friends and family. I do understand that when people have unpalatable views it is very difficult to spend time with them. I suspect it often ends in a row. Everyone has their own red lines and is it for is to tell people to grow up. Personally if someone doesn't share my political view I am happy to argue even if it gets heated cos I learn in the process (know your enemy) and often you find something to agree on. But I can understand if it is too difficult for your husband as clearly he feels very strongly. You are caught in the middle.

Given that your immediate family have all gone NC, I don't think he is BU.. he's probably wondering why you still have to endure them?

They sound horrible!

Still don’t understand i they’re so repugnant why you had to wait for confirmation they voted Tory to go NC...

They would not be welcome at my table. I am with your dh.

What?! That is ridiculous. Both my husband and I are left and voted labour but both sets of our parents voted conservative. We all had a debate about it at the time but we would never stop talking to them. Ffs everyone is entitled to their opinion. Is he going to ignore everyone he doesn't agree with? Poor you. Tough situation for you.

@Hoppinggreen - perfect summation of the thread!

I would struggle with spending Xmas with known rort voters but I don't think I'd have the heart to uninvite someone either. If it was me I think I would just agree no discussing politics beforehand.

*Tory

This ghastly attitude of your ignorant husband is what has destroyed the Labour Party

Hilarious non-reading the thread.

Spot on, HoppingGreen

I'm tempted to start another thread saying "AIBU to uninvite Labour voters" to see if they're just as quick to put the boot in while making no effort to understand the actual situation, as Tory voters have been.