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Whiny and ungrateful DS

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sauvignonandcheesecake · 12/12/2019 21:08

So DS (6) has been badgering me for some big outdoor xmas decorations as a few houses in our road have really gone to town - think inflatable snowmen and santas riding sleighs and a shit ton of lights. Money is very tight at the moment and these sort of decorations are expensive but I didn't want to disappoint him so I spent all morning adapting some existing outdoor halloween decorations we had in the shed ( a four foot Frankenstein and a four foot witch) and made them into Santa Claus and Mrs Claus by adding red/white clothes and hats and wigs and a beard for Santa. It took me ages especially I was "helped" (hindered) by DD (20 months) but was still pleased with the finished result. Anyway when he came home from school and saw them he started crying and pulling at their clothes and spent an hour lying on the sofa crying saying "I don't like Santa with a nail in his neck" (he means the bolt) and "I don't want Mrs Claus to have a big nose". I am gutted - me and DD spent ages on them and DD loves them and keeps looking at them out of the window and clapping. I think he's tired from his school play last night as he was in bed very late but I don't think I'm being unreasonable to say he's ungrateful after I went to all that trouble. Also I asked my neighbour what she thought and she said her granddaughter (she's about 12) had said they "looked weird" and had sent a picture of them on her phone to her friends. I don't know why I bothered now but at least DD loves them.

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spurlingpipe · 14/12/2019 18:51

I'd find it endearingly weird but I can see how a 6yo would be disappointed, they can be picky little buggers at that age.

Look at the upside, it was a fun activity for your dd and kept her occupied for a few hours.

pinkstripeycat · 14/12/2019 18:52

What a great mummy you are. Very inventive. I have to say my kids would probably find it hilarious. At least it’s different. Outdoor stuff is hugely expensive. If you can enjoy everyone else’s outdoor lights then great. My mum used to drive sis and I around the town so we could spot all the Christmas trees in the windows. Tried to do it with my 2 but they just aren’t as excited by lights and tress as me!

hazell42 · 14/12/2019 18:53

That's hilarious
You have frightened the life out if him.
That's one way to make sure he never asks for outdoor decs again.
Seriously, unless they are brilliant (in someone else's opinion, not just yours) I would listen to your kid and have pity on him
He will be a laughing stock at school if they look anything like i am imagining them!

madmumofteens · 14/12/2019 18:55

I'm sorry OP all that effort ungrateful wee so and so!! Have to admit however I haven't laughed so much for ages wished you taken a photo.

Tonz · 14/12/2019 18:56

Sounds like something my dad would do and me and my brothers and sisters would have loved it but we’ve always been a mad bunch.

DoesntLeftoverTurkeySoupDragOn · 14/12/2019 18:57

Dont no dont care im not wrapped in this feed really. Just commenting. You carry on picking the bones out of stuff and ill enjoy my wine 😉 dosentleftover

WTF are you wittering on about?

Mummyoflittledragon · 14/12/2019 18:59

This thread is brilliant. Were you going for the post Xmas present delivery look when Santa has eaten a billion mince pies, drunk ten million whiskies and 500 thousand glasses of milk?

Deborah69 · 14/12/2019 19:00

i wouldnt deal with that kind of crap in my household. i would banish his butt immeadiately.

CanIHaveADrink · 14/12/2019 19:15

The one thing that should not have happened is for your DH to go and buy some ‘appropriate Christmas decorations’

Because you’ve just taught your ds that having a tantrum and being so ‘theatrical’ in the display of his displeasure is getting him what he wants.

If you dint have the money, you don’t. I would have stuck to my guns about that

Pipstelle · 14/12/2019 19:24

I don't think you meant for this to be funny but seriously OP this is gold. I think DS gets a pass for not wanting Santa to have a nail in his neck. That's next level scary and yet amazing really. Please remember to tell him this story when he gets older. I really wish you were my neighbor.

WhoAmIToTellYou · 14/12/2019 19:26

Take the opportunity to explain how non eco friendly all of this plastic/seasonal shit is.

RedRec · 14/12/2019 19:42

As if this thread wasn't hilarious enough already ...
"I love the idea that OP would find Christmas decorations like this an unworthy investment but she’s got a four foot Frankenstein in the shed" ...
killed me off.

Jack80 · 14/12/2019 19:45

I think they sound cool but if he knows they are Halloween decorations then he will find them odd.

TokyoSushi · 14/12/2019 19:47

Oh OP, I've almost just passed out from laughing, you absolute star!

Surely this is one for classics?!

Mlou32 · 14/12/2019 20:14

I'm sorry but this is hilarious A Santa with a flat head and bolt through his neck and a green Mrs Claus with a hook nose

I'm sure this is a joke post but you gave me a laugh, thank you

Pepernotenregen · 14/12/2019 20:16

I am howling with laughter here - please someone nominate this for classics.

cultmaskid · 14/12/2019 20:18

A hahahahaha I love this

Pawsandnoses · 14/12/2019 21:08

My kids would have found this hilarious 😂😂

EC22 · 14/12/2019 21:17

Imagine your son not liking zombie Santa 😂

laudete · 14/12/2019 21:39

I am voting YABU but I absolutely appreciate the effort you put into it. I think he'll appreciate it a lot more when he's older and you retell the story. :) x

TheLittleDogLaughed · 15/12/2019 05:42

Aww I was just about to suggest you said to DS that Santa was green from eating too many chocolates thereby also instilling an anti-greed message. Maybe next time?

Pixxie7 · 15/12/2019 06:27

I think you sound like a wonderful mum who tried your best. Try and laugh it off.

thatmustbenigelwiththebrie · 15/12/2019 06:41

I remember with a huge jolt of embarrassment and shame an incident when I was about six. My mum who wasn't very well off had bought me a witch's hat for trick or treating. I didn't like it because it was cardboard and not plastic so I tore it up. Even writing this so many years later (I'm now 38) makes me cringe.

Poptasmagorical · 15/12/2019 14:24

Oh op, my heart hurts a little bit for you because this is exactly the kind of thing I would do and, even though the rational side of my brain would be able to say ‘he’s six and that isn’t what he imagined, don’t take it to heart’ the (bigger) emotional part would be absolutely gutted.
My six year old would have no qualms with telling me it was shit and would have an almighty tantrum about it, then I’d try to explain how much I was just trying to make him happy, and we’d both be in tears.
Then DH would come and tell me he loved me but it was pretty shit after all.
I don’t think the people who are laughing are trying to be mean, but once it doesn’t hurt as much it’ll probably become a cherished anecdote in your house - remember when Mum made FrankenClaus?
Big love for your efforts.

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