I hate my cat

[thegirlfrommars]

I'm really disappointed and ashamed that this is the case but here we go

I got a kitten about 6 months ago, my DC really wanted a pet and with the hours we work we felt a dog was too much of a commitment, my DP really wanted a kitten and I've had cats before and had no issues so we decided this was what we would do!

Fast forward 6 months, me and my partner have split up and I know this is dramatic but the cat is ruining my life!

I'm so angry all the time, it literally just attacks me and my DC when we try and interact with it, it's constantly stealing food or managing to knock bins over or eating toilet rolls etc, I've obviously moved things to prevent this but it's getting to the point where there's nothing left to move! It knocked out tv over the other day and thank god it didn't break because we couldn't afford to replace it

It's not only that but even things that aren't 'it's fault' are making me so stress I'm angry all the time that there's cat hairs everywhere, it's litter box litter gets everywhere, it always does a poo immediately after I've cleaned it out

I'm aware that a lot of this stuff is normal cat owner problems and like I said I've had them before and not been bothered by these things but I can't tell you how much I resent it and wish i never got it, I'm obviously not mean to it and I look after it how I should but god I hate it!

It's a Male and is due to be neutered soon which I'm told will help, and once it's recovered from that it can go outside which should help too but I've honestly got to the point where even if it spends the majority of its time outside I will resent the time it does spend inside

We've just put our Xmas tree up and I can't even let it into the room because obviously it's knocking all the baubles off. which again I expected and know is normal

I honestly just get no pleasure from it, my DC is scared of it, I've really tried to love it and done all the things I should have but it's just making me so miserable

I really do not want to be one of those people that gives up a pet, I've had many before and it's not how I've been brought up, but I'm getting to the end of my tether and spend most of my days fantasising about someone else taking him!

I don't know what I want really other than maybe some reassurance that I'm not an awful person and any advice anyone can off

(For anyone thinking the obvious it's not an option for partner to take him)

Thanks :(

I've missed a few pages so apologies. I love my pets but there are days and sometimes weeks that they drive you potty.
Kittens/puppies especially.
I have 2 four months old kittens at the moment which are very much loved and wanted but I came home from work to find DH had to shut them out of his office to work today as they were being such a nuisance.
I do wonder if your cat will hugely improve post snip and getting out more. He's a rude adolescent at the moment and needs an outlet for all that energy. A scratchy bitey cat is no fun.
But, if you really don't turn a corner, then perhaps he isn't the right match for you.

Please take this poor cat to a rescue centre. Give them a hefty donation. It will be rehomed with an experienced owner who can give it a better life than it has now. Please. Then Don’t EVER get another cat.

@Bootikin you're a bit late to the show, the cat has a fine life doing things that cats do, it's me that's been struggling, I've managed to maintain an outward composure for the sake of my DC and the cat

I haven't RTFT, I got as far as you saying he was 4 weeks when you got him. That is why you are having a problem. Kittens shouldn't be removed from their mothers until 12 weeks, 8 weeks minimum, because the mother cat starts to teach this behaviour out of them from 8 weeks.
Try researching mother cat behaviour and what they do to stop this kind of behaviour and start doing it, the poor thing has never been taught and is looking for you to step in as mum and teach it.
I had to do this with my cat, he displayed quite a lot of the same behaviour as yours and I did this and his behaviour improved.

OP Christmas is also a tough time, particularly when you have had a recent split. Please talk to someone of you are struggling.

The cat will calm down, Christmas is also a tough time for cats - lots of activity and change at home - new smells and people coming and going.

Try and get through Christmas and then see how everyone feels.

There are ways to train the cat to stop biting, mine still does it occasionally but it’s much more gentle now.

Kittens are really hard work, much though I love them. I am sure he will improve with neutering and access to the outside.

LemonGingerCakes - I got my much loved cat, now seven from Gumtree. I've previously been a Director of a national rehoming charity, and would have loved to adopt from them or similar - but because I don't have a garden, charities won't let me adopt.
My cat lives indoors, but I take her to the community garden, and she goes 'free range' when we're staying in the country.
Horrid to hear that cats acquired from gumtree are used for dogbaiting, etc - but one more going to a good home is one less that will be mistreated.
Not that I would describe living with OP as a good home for a cat, neither do I think she should acquire another one - from anywhere.

I am feeling more positive about the whole situation, fingers crossed in a week or 2 when he's running around outside we will all be much happier Good luck OP. I think you are looking after the cat well, and the problem is with you rather than the cat - by which I mean you are having a hard time at the moment, and it's causing you to react differently to things (which, to be fair, is what you've been telling us). So I think you need to deal with the stress of the split-up, whether you do it by counselling, or by support from friends or from mumsnet. And once that gets easier, hopefully you'll find the cat more tolerable, and develop the sort of relationship with him that gives so much joy to so many of us.

@thegirlfrommars im really happy you're now getting on with your kitten. He was probably waiting for you to stop feeling resentful.
I think everyone assumes cats just sleep, so are easy but its not true. They can be hard work.

Ask for a rehoming centre to take the cat and don't consider getting another one.Not a lot more to be said.

LemonGingerCakes - I got my much loved cat, now seven from Gumtree. I've previously been a Director of a national rehoming charity, and would have loved to adopt from them or similar - but because I don't have a garden, charities won't let me adopt.
My cat lives indoors, but I take her to the community garden, and she goes 'free range' when we're staying in the country.

I’m not disputing getting one from Gumtree.... but I’d never advertise one on Gumtree because of the cruel people who acquire cats this way. Why take the risk? I’m just risk because not everyone knows.

'The cruel people' obviously not meaning people like you.

Innocent creature, they are horrible little bastards! They wreck your home! I have 3 cats and I hate them! I spend so much time and hard work and effort trying to make my home lovely only for them to scratch walls, wee where they shouldnt, puke on the carpet! And I'm sick of having to adapt to the snobby little bastards, I understand where this lady is coming from! I can't get rid of mine I'm stuck with them till they pass away and then after that I don't want any more ever!

Zombie thread aside, why the fuck would you get three cats if you hate them?

Do normal things like play with baubles? They are destructful horrid little swines, you think it's acceptable for a stupid cat to knock down your Christmas tree? And when you say any pet owner with positive experience wouldn't be angry? I have had plenty of experience with them but I still get angry when they do things wrong, they shouldn't get away with bad behaviour and get to do what they like!

My partner

@Myimmortal85- you have reinstated a zombie thread just to be a knob. Have reported your posts.

But if you are bored and want to play until they’re deleted, then feel free to hit me with the most shocking views you can.

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