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To ask DD2 to change her cat’s name

441 replies

busybarbara · 07/12/2019 17:15

I’m posting this on behalf of my DD who is too mortified. She’s expecting her own DC (my DGC) and had picked out a name that only a few of us knew. Let’s say it’s “Honey” (it’s not but just for example)

DD2 out of the blue has got a kitten and has named it Honey, of course.. Confused DD1 is mortified and has asked me to see if I can get DD2 to change the name of the kitten! AIBU to try to do this?

Yes I’ve seen all the “two names in the same family” threads and have no problem with it when it’s people but having the same name as an animal seems potentially offensive?

OP posts:
Fr0g · 08/12/2019 09:05

The child will be eternally grateful for the change when it learns how close it came to being called Tiddles.

FrancisCrawford · 08/12/2019 09:11

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Etinox · 08/12/2019 09:20

@eddiemairswife- we have exactly the same scenario in our family. #Horsename Grin
@busybarbara stay out of it. But come back and tell us more stuff Wink

RainbowAlicorn · 08/12/2019 09:33

DD1 should pick a different name, or just name her baby after the cat.

easyandy101 · 08/12/2019 09:38

Their relationship is a little awkward though as DD1’s husband (and father of the child) used to be DD2’s ex

ItsChristmaaaaaaaaas · 08/12/2019 09:39

I’ve just realised - cats actually answer to anything.

Purplecatshopaholic · 08/12/2019 09:46

This thread is cracking me up. And I wish human Tiddles and feline Tiddles all the very best - your name is the least of your worries! Have a great family Christmas

itsmecathycomehome · 08/12/2019 09:46

Either she found out the name, or she recalls conversations with her ex about that name and knew he'd want to use it for the baby.

She definitely knew she'd be upsetting her sister with the choice.

I wouldn't give her the satisfaction of asking her about it or changing it. I'd call the baby by the name and everyone will just assume that the sister is bitter, mean and a bit mad.

ItsChristmaaaaaaaaas · 08/12/2019 09:50

Are you sure the baby’s name isn’t Snowball? We had a cat called that. For some reason my grandmas cats had biblical names.

PositiveVibez · 08/12/2019 09:55

Omg the thought of shagging someone one of my sister has shagged 🤮🤮🤮🤮

Eagerly awaiting another update from OP.

MyShinyWhiteTeeth · 08/12/2019 09:59

Or the ex knew the name DD2 likes and is still trying to cause trouble between the sisters.....

What kind of sister goes out with the ex and then gets her mum involved? Was she mortified about dating her sister's ex or does she always get what she wants?

My cousin used my two chosen names for her first child and I had to change my choice. She knew of many of the names I liked and I knew some of the names she liked. I was annoyed but accepted it and chose again. Like an adult.

BackOnceAgainWithABurnerEmail · 08/12/2019 10:00

  • If your eldest is old enough and mature enough to shack up with her sister's ex, I'm sure she can talk to her sister about the name.

Keep out of it.*

Yep

HOLY BACKSTORY BATMAN Grin Grin

GunpowderGelatine · 08/12/2019 10:02

This has GOT to be a joke?! Your eldest married your youngest' Dec?! I'd do more than name the cat after their kids if my sister did that to me

GunpowderGelatine · 08/12/2019 10:03

*youngest's ex

emilybrontescorsett · 08/12/2019 10:03

Nothing to add except this has made my morning.

ShinyDolphin · 08/12/2019 10:20

Oh wow!

So in a normal sisterly relationship no it wouldn't be UR to say "ah no you've actually named the kitten what I was going to name DC, any chance you can pick something else!?"

But after reading that back story ... wow.

I need to know how long DD2 went out with her ex for and how long ago, and how long DD1 has been with him, plus how old they all are!

EmmaGrundyForPM · 08/12/2019 10:23

Is the OP coming back?

ivfbabymomma1 · 08/12/2019 10:32

@Spamantha that made me LOL 😂😂😂

Straycatstrut · 08/12/2019 10:35

I can't believe people think this is a "mortifying" situation.

dontmentionbookclub · 08/12/2019 10:45

Disappointed there is no update from op as this is cheering up my morning. I'm also interested to know why op said at the start that she is posting on dd's behalf - so that means dd is presumably reading all these posts taking the piss at her situation with her sister's ex? I really bet she wishes she hadn't asked her dm to do that. I would imagine the other dd has also seen it now...

Fluffycloudland77 · 08/12/2019 10:49

Well I think we all know who is the favourite child in this family.

Best drip feed ever.

Bluesheep8 · 08/12/2019 10:57

Their relationship is a little awkward though as DD1’s husband (and father of the child) used to be DD2’s ex

USED to be her ex? Do you mean he IS her ex? Hmmm, I'm wondering if DD2 DOES know the proposed baby name now

MitziK · 08/12/2019 11:01

The kid's not here yet - tell DD1 to have a look at this and knock herself out;

www.findcatnames.com/cute-overload-100-super-cute-kitten-names/

GunpowderGelatine · 08/12/2019 11:07

Come back Barb! We need more info

Besidesthepoint · 08/12/2019 11:09

If my brother would suddenly turn gay and shag any ex of mine he'd be dead to me. There's no coming back from such an emotional betrayal. You don't do that.