To ask DD2 to change her cat’s name

[busybarbara]

I’m posting this on behalf of my DD who is too mortified. She’s expecting her own DC (my DGC) and had picked out a name that only a few of us knew. Let’s say it’s “Honey” (it’s not but just for example)

DD2 out of the blue has got a kitten and has named it Honey, of course.. DD1 is mortified and has asked me to see if I can get DD2 to change the name of the kitten! AIBU to try to do this?

Yes I’ve seen all the “two names in the same family” threads and have no problem with it when it’s people but having the same name as an animal seems potentially offensive?

None of your buisness. Let your daughter sort it. Its a cat i cant see the problem its not like its a real human🤣🤣

I think having two of the same name not a problem, one is a cat one is a human

My sister lives with my first boyfriend. We are all in our 50's. Very surprised by how many people are freaked out by this. He's an ex-boyfriend that's all.

If I had 2 DDs there is no way I would permit one of them to be with anothers ex because of the pain it would cause. I dont care if they're 18 or 80, not on my watch.

By refusing to address the question of what you would actually DO to prevent this, you sound like nothing more than your average Sunday night, garden-variety gobshite, @DangerMouse17.

I’m a bit taken aback as well. I don’t think it’s all that unusual, is it? Two of my SILs went out with the same guy a couple of years apart.

Tell her to have it as a middle name instead

I imagine it largely depends on how the first relationship ended, doesn't it?

Adultery, deception, recrimination and a broken heart, or it just ran its course...

I have to admit, I couldn't have seen myself with any of either of my sisters' boyfriends, though - but I didn't fancy any of them. (And probably vice versa)

Is the name Pancake?

Surely the devil is in the detail here. If he was her sister's ex husband or similar long term partner, that's odd. If he was just a boyfriend, and there was a lengthy gap, not so weird.

"Not on my watch" 😂😂

We spent ages picking a name for dd, Dh has a massive family and he didn’t want anything anyone else had used . Ended up accidentally naming dd after my his nieces cat ! Nobody ever commented

Is the name Pancake?

My money's on "Tiddles".

Bet the cat was livid, peanut

Think we should have a sweepstake on the name. So far we've got Luna, Pancake, and Tiddles (I may have missed some, I'm sorry).

I'm torn between Elsa and Flapjack at the moment.

Well, I think it is BU to pick a name like that for a baby but then at least, with a name like that it will already have a good stripper working name...

They like sharing by the sounds of it
If your DD2 didn't know then your DD1 needs to talk to her herself and be a big girl about it surely?

Lola or Honey

Nice to see I've created some interest....and that I'm straight out of a Martina Cole novel.

I"ll submit my audition into EE pronto.

And I dont need to elaborate how. Parents are here to guide their children about what is decent, to be kind human beings and to make sensible decisions. Going with your sisters ex is definitely not decent, normal behaviour. It just isn't! And I'm not alone in that feeling, given many comments up thread expressing shock and disbelief at the situation. So dont get over-excited.

I wonder if the name is Bluebell?

Gobbolino.

The Ex's Cat.

Showing my age there.

Stay out of it OP.

It's come across to a lot of people on here including myself that DD1 is the golden child. Imagine what it feels like for DD2.

DD1 needs to get over herself.

Tabitha! That is a cat's name.

This totally real situation, with the awkward relationship between the sisters as a result and DD2 vengefully naming her new cat her ex's favourite name, sounds like it follows the acrimonious break-up of a significant long-term relationship.

And I dont need to elaborate how.

Well no, how can you? What with it being gobshitey bullshit and all.

'I FORBID YOU TO MEET HIM'

'Sorry mum, got to go. Speak to you later, I'll bring over some new knitting patterns for you, ok? You sound a bit fractious'

My money is on Smokey.

As in, the child that was the 'smoking gun'

Oh God, we also got this sort of thing in my family.
'We think we're going to call the baby Shelly.'
'Oooh, we had a cat called Shelley!'
If the two Shelly's don't get to meet, or even if they do, it does seem a bit of a non issue.
Unless there is some pay back involved. Even then, I'd let them sort it out between them. We used to send our boys out the n the garden and say 'Don't come back in til you've worked out your differences.' And they were pre-teens, not adults about to become parents.