To reply to a couple of PP:
First, @WingingItSince1973, I'm so sorry to hear of your traumatic experiences. It's a story which to a certain degree I share.
Quoting a previous post from @newdeer
It can take decades before you are able to reflect on how you were treated when young and work out that it was wrong. To me she speaks like someone who is only just waking up to this, still on rocky ground, in that she half doubts herself.
That's it; exactly. As a victim of child abuse and teenage rape this has been precisely my experience: particularly the child abuse. The earlier this starts, the more it's 'normalized' in the mind of the victim, especially if the perpetrator is a close family member of that child. The realization that 'yes, I was a victim', and even worse, that 'Daddy was a psychopath' - even if you've always known this deep down, comes like a bolt out of the blue when properly faced in later life, and is a shock that can utterly fell a person.
My cPTSD therapist informed me that that overwhelming majority of his clients were between 35 and 65. This is how long it takes to process. The mind simply doesn't let in painful stuff like this when its host is too young and still-vulnerable to handle it. I believe another term for this kind of thing 'boiling frog syndrome'.
And another thing abuse does. It turns off what Mumsnet likes to refer to as the 'spidey-senses'. I could never understand, why as a reasonably intelligent person and skilled communicator, I never got that gut feeling; a self-preservation mechanism that warns you when someone is 'off'. I was positively reckless in the way I responded to people as a consequence, and baffled as to why I was such a poor judge of character. That was explained to me, too. As a child-abuse victim you live in a perpetual state of fear: the fight/flight/freeze mode is more-or-less permanently engaged. So the mind suppresses it, because no one can survive for any duration in that state of unmitigated stress. What the mind can suppress is terrifying and devastating. Now, after 2 years of intensive therapy, my senses are as awake as those of the next person. And when you've never experienced this in your life before, it's extraordinary: powerfully disturbing, but liberating at the same time.
Last point: a PP mentioned that it wasn't VG's interview that convinced her; it was that of Andrew himself. I sympathise with her, but concur that it's he who truly convinced me. He's convicted himself out of his own mouth.