Put me in a nursing home when the time comes

[MomOfTwoGirls2]

Rant alert.
Ddad needs 24/7 care. One of 7 siblings. Main care falling to one sibling (not me) other 6 siblings assigned 1 day/overnight each.
This could go on for years.

This is not what I want for my children. If I’m lucky enough to reach old age, I want to be put in a nursing home and to let my children live their own lives.
Anybody else in same boat? AIBU??

Ddad needs 24/7 care. One of 7 siblings. Main care falling to one sibling (not me) other 6 siblings assigned 1 day/overnight each.
This could go on for years.

How is this sustainable long term, OP?
Do you all live in the same area?
Do the other 6 siblings who are assigned 1 day/overnight each not have jobs (and if they are in employment how do they take all that time off)?
And what about their partners/husbands/wives/children? Do they not mind?
What happens when siblings want to go on holiday with their own families, or just take time out?

I don't think this set up would work with my relatives. Some of us live too far away/abroad/the other side of the world/are married to people in other countries. How on earth would they do this?

"It's my life to do as I please" is oft quoted by my mum. However, this means in practice she decides what we all have to do for her. The old, unfortunately, become incredibly selfish. She complained for years about having to look after selfish elderly neighbours who should be in homes, and lo and behold, she became one herself!

I perhaps am very hard, but I was not prepared to look after a mean, selfish, self centered old person, who was the very same who didn't look after her own mother, and left me to look after myself at 16, when she and my dad retired and went to live abroad, because "it was their life to live as they please". There is a theme there .

wintertime6
I'm sorry but I can't imagine ever feeling resentful for ending up in the situation where you end up helping to look after your parents or family when the time comes, surely that's just the way life goes, and unless you've had a really awful upbringing, most people I know are very happy to be able to provide help to family when they need it??

Doesn't always work this way though. What about families where siblings have moved away from where their parents live? In my family alone there are 5 cousins who permanently live abroad, are married to people from these countries and have children and properties there.

One of the cousins lives the other side of the world and has a high-flying career there. He visits his parents (aged 70) once a year - mainly because of distance. They keep in touch on the phone and via Skype.
Another cousin is an only child and has a husband and 2 school age children aged 9 & 11 in her adopted country. She visits about 4 times per year.

How on earth would these cousins be able to care for their ageing parents, especially as they have children in the countries they moved to? It's impossible.

It's my life to do as I please" is oft quoted by my mum
did you never point out to her that this cuts both ways?
I would