I think it’s inevitable that people are going to ask these days. People don’t hesitate to ask inappropriate questions these days. Fact.
I think that if you wish your twins to not realise that they were conceived through IVF, then you and your husband should stick to that and tell absolutely everyone they were conceived naturally, and I mean absolutely everyone. Otherwise, it only takes one person, one slip of the mouth, perhaps with little ears listening in, to stick to the conceived naturally story, now and forever more. Get rid of any paperwork before the children themselves become inquisitive, about the age of 5/6. Otherwise the truth will inevitably come out at some stage later in their lives.
I know all too well
. I remember being a very quiet, curious, knowledgeable little girl of seven once upon a time, when my parents were discussing this, at the dinner table, and my mother mentioned to my father that the parents had made the decision to not ever tell their existing children.
As per usual, I was allowed out to play after dinner, and yes, you can guess the next bit. I still cringe with absolute embarrassment now. But realistically, if it was that important, my parents should have discussed it when I went out to play. Not at the table! And not that it was a secret from their children. I was only seven, remember, before you judge.
Fortunately and thankfully, the parents in question were quite philosophical about it, when the truth came out. They decided that it was better that the truth was out, everyone knew and no more was said. Certainly not to my parents anyway! They stayed best friends for many decades following that, and I’m still good friends with my friends.
So what I’m saying is that either way, you need to get your story straight, no matter what, and both stick to that with absolutely everyone.
Personally, we put it down to tantric sex, saying my husband and I had been on a tantric sex course and nothing had ever been the same since. Then I’d suggest they googled about them too. Then when more questions were inevitably asked, I’d point them in the direction of the library and Amazon (they sell everything there, after all, don’t they!?). I’d tell them that it’s much better to learn these sorts of things from a book, so that the two of them could literally practise, as they went along, after all.
It used to have my husband in stitches laughing afterwards, but I think that it rather boosted his ego too.