Hidden annoyances of being a single parent.

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Taking stuff out of and putting stuff in the attic.

(hoping that one makes the "serious enough to get approval from random judgy bastard who should just fuck the fuck off" list).

Now you are being ridiculous, and frankly quite insulting. I have not judged anybody, just what constitutes difficult about being a single parent and it's not xmas trees which really don't matter.

No one to make you a cup of tea.

just what constitutes difficult about being a single parent

Thank goodness you’re here to tell us all how to do single parenting. What a relief.

Mine was always doing the supermarket shopping and unpacking on my own. Hate unpacking shopping.

again - adults all across the country who aren't single parents, do this week in, week out

The later things on this thread make a lot more sense - the first lot of posts are bonkers

Thank goodness you’re here to tell us all how to do single parenting. What a relief.

Where did I say I was?

I reckon it's like a rule on mumsnet that every tread has to have in utter twat

One utter twat
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Putting my Christmas tree up last year was a real achievement. It was just after the first anniversary of DHs death. I was trying to battle with a 6ft tree, getting it straight in the stand, it toppled over twice spilling water all over the floor. I had a 3 year old child watching and laughing. It was really bloody hard both physically and emotionally

Having to ring round friends at 3.00am to get someone to look after DS before being carted off to hospital in an ambulance (hoping that one makes the "serious enough to get approval from random judgy bastard who should just fuck the fuck off" list).

Just quoting the full paragraph, rather than Space's selectively cropped version, so people can get the context.

For the hard of thinking, and the utterly lacking in empathy, THE POINT OF THIS THREAD IS THE LITTLE THINGS THAT DON'T MATTER IN THE GRAND SCHEME OF THINGS, BUT STILL NIGGLE.

I am tetchy, because I'm still in pain, and Monday I have to go back to work and then come home and look after my child. So if I want to moan about Christmas trees, not getting a birthday present, not having someone to share a bottle of wine with (not that I can right now), then I fucking well will. I don't give a shit if there's cuntish fuckers on this thread who think that I should be pollyannaish about the little stuff because only the big stuff matters. Just fuck off to the far side of fuck, and when you get there, fuck off some more, will you?

Not being able to just pop out to the shop on a whim when you realise you've ran out of milk bread etc. My toddler is in bed and I've no bread so I will have to wait until the morning which means having to get myself toddler and older daughter up and ready just to get a loaf so we can have breakfast.

No long lies

No one to help with housework, tidying up, getting the children ready etc

No one to offload to when you've have a stressful day

Just complete lack of help full stop

Just fuck off to the far side of fuck, and when you get there, fuck off some more, will you?

Off you go then.

Nothing now they are young adults.

again - adults all across the country whoaren'tsingle parents, do this week in, week out

Yes they do it for themseleves. Nor the kiss as well. So single adults go to the supermarket and buy what they want/need. If they want something else or forgot something they can nip out or do without. They have the amount of food for one person.

A single parent goes they have to get what the kids needs as well. So not just food for one. Food for 3 people, so more to carry and more to unpack. You then also have to make sure you have everything for their packed lunches, the things they like, the things are allowed in the packed lunch boxes. And you cant just nip out, if they are in bed to get something you have forgotten.

And as a single parent you do all this whole trying to keep the kids entertained.

A single person just goes supermarket shopping alone.

It not that difficult, to understand a person shopping for several people (who cant really have input or help in a meaningful way) is bigger than doing it for just yourself.

A single person just goes supermarket shopping alone.

Then shop online?

You really have had an empathy bipass, haven't you, Space. I can honestly say in over a decade on here, I don't think I've come across someone quite as nasty as you.

Nah space is a goady toddler twat
Ignore the poor attention seeking little petal

I can honestly say in over a decade on here, I don't think I've come across someone quite as nasty as you.

Then you clearly haven't been on many threads.

YY armani getting the bloody tree to stand up! Every year I would get over exited and go to the farm for a massive tree, then spend the evening teaching dc new and exciting swear words while I tried to get the bloody thing to stop keeling over.
Sorry about your bereavement

The later things on this thread make a lot more sense - the first lot of posts are bonkers

Says who?

Then shop online?

And if I dont want to? I used to work for asda head office. I wouldn't bother.

It's still all needs putting away.

A mild annoyance of mine is putting shopping away. Just like some people donr like doing minor things, thata one of mine.

Doing it whilst trying to keep the kids entertained is a minor annoyance.

What's the issue with that?

not being able to "nip" to the shop, because they kids are in bed.

Cant just take the bins out/go down the bottom of the garden while they are sleeping because the monitor does not work and its too far anyhow.

One wage

Being sick and feeling like death but looking after small people who come first.

Just one more thing; the people who said "my partner works away mon-fri, its like being a single parent"
NO it isnt!! You have 2 sets of hands,possibly 2 wages or one bloody good one, and you can have a lie in. Guess what, single parents do not.

Where did I say I was?

Well you’re stating as fact which bits of single parenting are hard and which aren’t.

You’re either arrogant or not very bright. Your call.

Oh bog off spacepyramid you’ve completely ruined a really decent thread.

I’m not a single parent any longer, but I was for 10 years, and Christmas stuff like getting the tree by yourself was always really bittersweet, a mixture of feelings- loneliness, a sense of achievement for doing it alone and a kind of fierce determination that your DC is going to experience all the magic of Christmas that every other DC does. Even if that means pulling a muscle as you singlehandedly shove the tree into the boot of your 12 year old Polo, goddammit.

I’m sorry MsRomanoff you’re just not doing it right.

Please hand your badge in as you leave.

These are all tough things, but surely not the hardest thing about being a single parent. Dh is working away for most of December, so I have to do Xmas tree, plus vomiting kids and bins and many of the other things, but I’d never say it’s like being a single parent as I have moral and financial support from another adult.

You’re either arrogant or not very bright. Your call.

OK. Let me explain what I meant as clearly you are struggling to understand.

Being a single parent is not what makes bringing a tree in from the car hard. It being a large, awkwardly shaped, heavy item makes it hard. This is the same if you are not a single parent.

Having a teenager who is stressed is harder when you are a single parent. Having toddlers having tantrums at bedtime is harder when you are a single parent. Having seriously ill children is harder when you are single parent.

Complaining about the little stuff that really isn't that hard just gives people who are not single parents the idea that really it's not that difficult.