To dress my baby in black?!

[ThePolishWombat]

But of a strange one.....

my mother thinks it’s “inappropriate” for me to dress my baby in anything black, and for me to dress any of my DCs (age 4, 3 & newborn) in band merchandise
This all stemmed from me showing her some things I’d ordered for Christmas, including a black babygrow with my baby’s name on it, and a Metallica T-shirt for my 3yo DS.

Personally I think her outrage and pearl clutching is a bit silly seeing as though DH and I wear band merch all the time. But then it got me thinking: what do other people think when they see babies/children dressed in black/band merch etc.
Is it weird??

DD is 16 months and is our only daughter after two boys and a big gap. I wear mainly black and she wears a lot of black. She looks cute in it. I don’t do pink, some bright colours work on her, but I like black.
Not quite so keen on the band mercy, but each to their own. It’s not up to anyone else how you dress your baby, and in a couple of years you don’t get a say, so enjoy it!

Band merch 🤦🏻‍♀️

It's not my taste but it's yours and that's up to you. Your mother shouldn't really judge, it's none of her business.

This is very similar to the offending item btw:

I dressed mine in alternative stuff a lot of the time and they are both alternative /goth now, both early /mid 20s. I'm 44 and still goth and I doubt I will change. So long as your child is fed, warm and clothed it does not really matter.

I dressed my milk fair babies in black- i particularly remember a lovely black velour baby grow from Gap. But you are completely unreasonable for saying “Pearl clutching”

It's totally fine, if a little unusual.

A friend bought my baby DD a black outfit, which I didn't like at first, but it totally suited her, once I put it on her.

It's just not a common colour for baby clothes, but actually really practical.

Oh that's gorgeous, The PolishWombat.

I have inspired a lot of friends with older kids to start dyeing too, it’s never too late! It’s great for livening up tired washed out clothes for the second child.

That baby grow to me is horrible. But each to their own.

I think it's adorable - but then again, my sprog was wearing a Metallica shirt before he hit one year. He looked like a tiny bald roadie.

If people can indoctrinate their kids into following a particular football team or religion, then I can hope to get mine into good music. Or to at least present him with photographic evidence that he used to be cool when he's going through a garage phase. 😬

Dd is now 30 but I remember dgm's face when I handed her the next knitting pattern +wool for a 'loopy' jacket - in black!!
Bless her she knit it and it was well admired!!
All my dc have had black baby gros. Ideal for crawling babies!!

If I had a baby. I'd totally dress them as a little rock chick, or rock dude.

It's not weird at all.

Dame I’ve got a bag of boys stuff I was waiting to pass on to a friend, but will have a sift through now and rescue some T-shirt’s that can definitely be dyed!

@MetalMidget “Tiny bald roadie”
DC3 has a fantastic head of thick dark hair that can be fashioned into a perfect mowhawk after it’s been washed She looks hilarious!

Your children, your choice. Its only clothing. A bit of band merch is fine if it amuses you and its not the only thing in their wardrobe. I had a cousin who dressed her son in red jumpers, yellow check trousers, which I genuinely thought looked like Rupert Bear stylings and she was always giving me hand me downs too.. each to their own.

The eldest two mostly lived in babygrows for the first year, so DC3 will likely be the same. But I like to have some “nice” babygrows for is we have an occasion (like Christmas Day for example) where I want her to look “dressed” and not just in her pjs

I'd think you were rather "ooh look at me I'm so alternative, I'm dressing my baby in black and band merch because I'm just soooo edgy, unlike you boring people. See how cool I am?"

And I'd be

I'm into rock and was a total rock chick when I was younger in terms of my style, but I don't dress my kids as an extension of me. It's just too try hard and slightly desperate.

Totally fine and all parents 'project' their values onto their children.

You like a certain kind of music so your DCs are more likely to hear that kind of music at home, but so are the kids of a classically trained musician, or someone who has the radio on pop all the time, etc.

The same goes for more significant values. Pretty much all religious people tend to try to pass their values and world views onto their children, but so does anyone who says "Play nicely" or "Share the toy". It would be an odd upbringing to try to bring the child up value free (I have a friend who tries and his DC is a particularly unpleasant young person).

Isnt that a beatles song?

I love this. I've not seen that much baby stuff in black, but if I saw a tiny ACDC Tshirt I'd be getting it for my nephew right now 😂😂
Although, to be fair he's more a Queen fan though 😂

As long as it's not offensive or a very sick joke, go for it.

I can't stand miss match and bright colours on babies and toddlers (or anyone ), I just feel sorry for an obviously exhausted parent who could only rummage through the laundry basket and pick random items - but apparently it's a look for some!
Does it matter what I like? of course not,.

Dress your kids as you like, as long as it' s not a boiling sunny day!

DameSylvieKrin you've given me a great idea. Can't believe it hasn't occurred to me before. I'm going to get some black dye for all my dd's stained T-shirts. No matter how much I work at some stains with stain remover and hand washing, soaking, some stains won't come out.

ThePolishWombat my dd 5 has asked for black clothing but it has been hard for us to find. So I don't think yabu. Most people who see a band t-shirt on a baby are going to know it's the parents musical taste and it's not going to stop your baby developing their own individual preference. And black would hide many stains like paint, chocolate etc better then light colours.

MN law is that babies must be dressed in plain white baby grows and then once they are one, plain, brightly coloured, second hand, gender neutral clothing with maybe stripes on but never any words or pictures ever. Unless you can afford to dress your children in Boden and scandi wear and then they must wear that at all times.

Seriously. As long as said child is comfortable, who gives a duck what you dress them in? It's such a harmless way to get joy out of dull things (changing them, washing their clothes, replacing them constantly as they grow). Dress them in things that make you happy.

of course you do zurala, you are the one choosing their clothes and lifestyle aren't you? You are brain-washing your kids for at least the first years of their life, you realise that don't you?