To dress my baby in black?!

[ThePolishWombat]

But of a strange one.....

my mother thinks it’s “inappropriate” for me to dress my baby in anything black, and for me to dress any of my DCs (age 4, 3 & newborn) in band merchandise
This all stemmed from me showing her some things I’d ordered for Christmas, including a black babygrow with my baby’s name on it, and a Metallica T-shirt for my 3yo DS.

Personally I think her outrage and pearl clutching is a bit silly seeing as though DH and I wear band merch all the time. But then it got me thinking: what do other people think when they see babies/children dressed in black/band merch etc.
Is it weird??

Dress them how you want. Other people can fuck off. Avoiding separating washing can only be a good thing; and I fail to see any real difference between band clothes and e.g. Disney clothes apart from that the latter have been somehow or other designated as 'for children'.

Those on here calling it naff, immature, desperate etc need a word with themselves.

It's better than dressing them in the twee "Mommy's little angel" or "Grandma's little Sparklefart" or some utter fucking tripe.

I'd think you were rather "ooh look at me I'm so alternative, I'm dressing my baby in black and band merch because I'm just soooo edgy, unlike you boring people. See how cool I am?" I'm into rock and was a total rock chick when I was younger in terms of my style, but I don't dress my kids as an extension of me. It's just too try hard and slightly desperate.
Sorry this makes me laugh. It's like competiative cool. I'm a RoCk ChIcK bUt i'M nOt LiKe tHe oThEr rOcK cHicKs insert spongebob meme here

I like the point someone made above:

If DH and I were fans of classical music and that was what my kids heard all the time at home, no one would bat an eyelid.
My mother (and a few mnetters it would appear) seem to think the same premise but with heavy metal/classic rock make it somehow not ok?

I’m sure all three of them will be out sacrificing goats before their 10th birthdays
ITS THE MUSIC I TELL YOU!!!

Could be worse OP, DH has bought DD (3 weeks!) Leeds United baby grows

YANBU.
My children (including the baby) sometimes wear black, they also have other various coloured clothes. I don't see why anyone would have a problem with it, what harm does it do?
Personally I don't buy merchandised clothes for any of us, but IMO a band t-shirt is nicer than Mickey Mouse, paw patrol etc.

I think it's weird tbh. I also don't really like the parents interests being foisted on the children either. But they are your children and they are only clothes.

They’re your children.. you’re the one buying the clothes and till they can tell you to sod off with the goth baby look it’s fine.. look at what we were dressed in (a full on frilly Mr Blobby pinafore dress with puff sleeved shirt is a shining example)

DS is a tiny bald roadie too, when he’s not dressed like a hippie child with his leggings. He also has the traditional Spanish baby blue suits too.. it’s clothes. As long as they’re comfy and it’s not offensive it doesn’t matter.

And his guns n roses top goes great with his biker jacket n bat hat. (All soft stretchy cotton). Ps we need the Metallica shirt.

I personally don’t like it but when my daughter was a baby she was in smocked dresses, frillybum tights and hair bows and a lot of people turn their nose up at that too! My mum also commented the day I put her in jeggings! But honestly not everyone will always agree and they are your children so I can’t see any harm done. Maybe buy a matching one for your mum too 😄

I find it weird

Like football strip

Or t shirts with writing in them

Poltical statements on kids clothes are the worst.

Ok, the point made above is more like this:

If DH and I were fans of classical music and that was what my kids heard all the time at home, no one would bat an eyelid. However if I then commissioned a set of babygrows featuring Mozart, Beethoven and Vivaldi, with the baby's name on them above 'Our First Symphony!' in fancy classical writing, everyone would think you were utterly weird

That's the equivalent.

Don't dress your baby in try hard stuff, it's naffola!

Nah not weird , dd had a fantastic Rolling Stones t shirt as a toddler .
It’s not different to people who put their babies in football kits, they haven’t picked a team yet either ..

I think it's a bit weird - but, hey, your baby, your choice

😂😂 I nearly gave GMIL a heart attack for buying a black vest with "I am the future of metal" on it. I bought a black and red check dress for Christmas day and she threw the telly remote at me when I told her.
DH and I wear alot of dark colours, baby (5 weeks old) is currently wearing the gifts she's been bought but I refuse to put anything with 1) leopard print 2)the word Princess on her. She is not a princess - Im raising a warrior.
Her Dad is a metal head - she's soothed by Guns and Roses, Black Label Society, Pride and Glory. He plays music like the Doors, Stone sour to her where as I sang in a choir (proper choral, John Rutter classical music choir) until I gave birth. I sang the descant soprano part for Zadok the priest while in labour to ease my breathing. Are we projecting our tastes onto her - probably. I've just bought her Toby's baby grow from Labyrinth and her bedroom is based on the film Legend. Is she being exposed to a well rounded selection - yes. But she'll be more than encouraged when old enough to make her own views (unless she brings home a trumpet or a recorder). Until then I will dress her eventually in baby doc martin boots, paint her room purple and put her in clothes I'd wear adult versions of. And if I kill my GMIL so what?

I don’t dress my DCs in black. I don’t like it on young children.

I find band merch on anybody who isn't in their teens a bit cringe to be honest (and I say this as a huge metal and rock fan) but it's your child - dress him however you bloody want! Like a PP, I like frilly bum tights and dresses on my children, which lots don't like.

Horses for courses and all that.

It's not weird at all. Cannot see the problem.

She is not a princess - Im raising a warrior.

Love this!

Surely it's always the parents interests being put on the child? Whether that's a band, a cartoon character (would people object to a Winnie the Pooh themed bedroom?), colours, frills, patterns etc.

I don't mind dark colours, but I do think it's a tiny bit "cool mom/dad" when toddlers wear band t shirts. Then again there are loads of stuff that I dislike - football strips, "I'm a little princess" type stuff, things that are overly frilly and fancy. Each to their own.

Band names not for me but I generally don't buy anything for my kids with words on it.

Black - couldn't care less. My toddler looks great in black. Didn't realise it was a thing people thought about. To me no different to dressing them n green, white, red, whatever.

Dress your baby in whatever you want OP. As long as it is warm and comfortable. Tell the pearl clutcher to STFU

Why does it matter?

And to those saying 'you don't know the babies preferences', er do you know their favourite colour? Maybe they hate pink, orange, blue etc. Maybe they hate shorts or skirts? You gonna leave them naked until they decide what they want?

Dress them in whatever you want.

My initial response was "it doesn't matter" but then I reflected and think maybe it does. I once had a friend who was clinically depressed and part of the therapy she was given by her psychiatrist was to totally avoid wearing black (she had hitherto dressed in black all the time). He said it had a depressive influence. I'm sure there will be replies from ppl on here saying they are not depressed and wear black all the time. But if you have a choice, why not take the precautionary line and dress your baby in some lighter and 'happier' colours?

On the aesthetic front, I recall seeing an episode of Trinny and Susanna (What Not to Wear) in which they demonstrated that wearing black, contrary to what many think, is not slimming but actually adds pounds to your appearance. I was convinced, though that wouldn't matter to a baby.

What I do know is that black doesn't suit many pale Anglo-Saxon complexions: you can easily end up looking ill and/or like Morticia Addams.

I have a very pale complexion and I was actively trying to look like Morticia

Don’t understand why it’s weird...if I saw you all at the school gates op I’d be relieved there was an interesting looking family and prob want to be your friend