Need to get this off my chest.
There's a back story so trying to some it up.DH's BF=married female.She hates me.She'd rather I was out of the way.Seems to think DH is hers and encourages problems in our marriage.
Seems to think I'm a neglectful wife,likes to tell me my house is a shithole and my husband hates coming home.
My DH spends far too much time there and stays over.We have had numerous massive arguments about the intimate nature of their relationship,him staying over,dodging his responsibilities at home and hiding there,him oversharing details of our marriage that's no one else's business and her shitty attitude towards me.
Her DH just goes along with whatever she does.I have a sickening suspicion that my her&my DH have also crossed the friendship line.I don't trust her as far as I can chuck her.She walked out on her ex&their kids for her current DH.
The tensions this causes in our relationship resulted in a temporary separation earlier this year.
Hubby stayed there again last night under the pretence of doing some work for them last night/today.He as usual has acted like myself&our kids don't exist for the last 24 hours which is what he does when he's there.Its complete radio silence from him.
Today I've been trying to pin him down about coming home and he won't give me a definitive answer.My Teen DD called her dad as her dad going off like this makes her anxious and asked him when he's coming home and his reply was he's going to have dinner then come home later.
This means that his BF rather than telling him to go home to his family and eat with me is cooking him dinner and encouraging him to loiter.
This has really infuriated me and I snapped and told him that if she's cooking his dinner then why not let her have a few more of my wifely duties like getting to wash his skid marks out of his underwear and swallowing a mouthful of his semen (that's the polite term I didn't use) and I told him that tonight they've both crossed a boundary.
AIBU in expecting him to do the normal thing of coming home from work to his wife for dinner for instead of continuing to leave me alone with our Children in our home whilst ignoring me.
My friends and family think he's a fool who's serving his own selfish needs and I should take the kids and move out as their all fed up with the way he treats his family.
Thanks for reading,it makes me feel better to just let it all out.
AIBU?
Cooking for another woman's husband
popsydoodle4444 · 27/11/2019 19:20
For the sake of your sanity and your children's sanity you need to get out of this situation. It is so unfair for all if you, he's selfish and cruel and he'll probably play the victim card as hard as he possibly can (so do be prepared for all sorts of lies about you and possibly your children to surface - some people really are that scummy).
Speak to a lawyer, sort out your finances and get the ball rolling for a divorce, and be prepared for a battle but know that there is a light at the end of the tunnel and it will all be so much better for you and your children when it's all over and done with. 
Oh and the 'best friend' is also an issue but all the while your husband is allowing this situation to continue she is the least of your worries. Think of her as an irritating parasite that you can't get rid off - like threadworms on steroids.
He's got what he wants. Two women vying for his affections? His ego must be through the roof. 
When he returns, tell him he's made his choice and you can't be arsed with him any more, OP. Withdraw all of the services you provide for him such as cooking/laundry etc and tell him to sleep on the sofa or fuck off back to his second home.
You need to think to yourself OP that this woman left her own kids for another man... she's one of those 'scum of the earth' types. I've no idea why men put their morals and values aside and get involved with these cretins of the earth that put the needs between their legs above their own children 
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You are not one of those people OP. You are morally intact and being taken for a mug. It wouldn't shock me if they're swinging with the husband involved
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Does she even have a husband or is that just something your DH has told you so you don't suspect an affair?? It just sounds so strange.. Everything you've said screams affair IMO!
I have so many questions OP
Have you met her husband?
What the hell is he even doing whilst your husbands gallivanting round there??
Surely her husband thinks this Is just as strange as you do?
Does she come round your house?
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