Bare bum in dressing room , AIBU.

[pinkboa]

I take DS to swimming. I got the times wrong turned up for the wrong lesson. I decide to go back to the changing room to wait. I find it hard to breath in the pool area, 30 minutes is ok, an hour and I can feel my asthma begin to act up.

There is a dad there getting his daughters dressed (fine) he was in the pool and he's down to his underwear.

Another dad arrives with his son, him and my DS are in the same lesson.

Anyways dad of daughters decides to get dressed... he drops his pants and is stark naked in front of his daughters. He is also by the door so if another parent was coming in their child would have walked into his penis! And it wasn't less than a minute because he was drying himself as well 🤢...

There are cubicles. He could have used a towel as well.

Why would and adult choose to get naked in a dressing room at a swim lesson for children with strangers around.

AIBU to find it bizarre?

His bum was also hairy and unattractive 🤢.

Let me get this straight OP - your initial post was 100% real and actually happened. You really do use male labelled facilities as you think that’s ok. But NOW you are trolling because it’s fun? At which point did you start making stuff up?

OK then. Excellent that you are having a complete wind up and are not totally beyond all cultural sensitivity, or just any sensitivity in general, as you have presented yourself here.

Awesome. Thanks for the endless entertainment.

(@GrannyBags To be honest, I suspect she is probably not actually making stuff up....)

@Winesalot @GrannyBags

I won't say which is which. But this has been very entertaining for me. Like I said I have taken on board what was said.

But! I will say again I don't get how people get so adamant about proving a point on an Internet forum they begin to traverse the rabbit hole... like a few people who kept coming back to hammer home their points... it's like watching the ballerina in the jewellery box.

” Is green a good colour on you?”

That doesn’t answer my point at all, @pinkboa. Unless you are suggesting that I am in some way jealous - though I cannot see how you got from my point about it being selfish for your able bodied dh and able bodied child to use theDISabled toilets, to me being jealous.

why can't you see you are wrong parade" clearly it hasn't. Again people don't read.

Because you’ve said you don’t care, will use the men’s toilets. Change your story every post. Act like a spoilt, entitled, brat. I really hope you don’t behave like this in real life because your attitude is disgusting.

@pinkboa why if you have an issue would you not use the disabled toilets instead of the men's?

Sorry OP I don't understand what you mean. How is some of this trolling and some of it real? I have read the whole thread but I appear to have gotten confused somewhere along the line...

People ..... back away and don't feed the self-confessed but also self-confused troll!

@Biancadelrioisback

My original post is genuine and a few others.

The moment this became a joke for me... that was the end. Very very specific reasons I won't point to where in the thread that happened.

@SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius
What? 🤣

I should have said blue, dear Lord you would have come with something about "holding your breath". It was a random colour selection, I didn't even put thought into it. Don't over think it please.... I meant it as a joke.

@Shplot

Back again?

@spanglydangly

And if there isn't one? Disabled that is.

Also by the very responses on here even if I had an invisible disability or need I would still get a dressing down for using it...

You see why this whole thing is a point scoring exercise... because people just want to make a point and nothing else... that's why most of them keep coming back to get that last word in. If I had anthropological ambitions I would write a book... but there is one out there already....

@pinkboa there are plenty of disabled toilets, they might be being used by selfish individuals that don't have a disability and use it to take their children too, but that's because people like you and your DH don't respect anyone.

If people didn't use the disabled toilets that didn't need too, then you wouldn't be questioned it would be assumed that your disability wasn't visible and that you had a requirement. But due to selfishness, laziness and ignorance people use them without a genuine need, like using the male dressing room to sit in when you've made an error with timing and expecting a man in the right room, to use it for what it's for. Then not only criticising him using in the exacting manner that you think it should be used ie he should keep a towel round him etc you also criticise his appearance.

You really are a peach OP and I'm not frothing at the fingers (whatever the hell that term means), i am hoping that the hundreds of posts correcting you may just sink in and you'll keep to boundaries in future.

The whole your digging just gets bigger and bigger. This was funny to start with now it’s clear your just a self entitled —whatever you called yourself perviously—

I'll ask you again op

You keep saying you didn't want to go outside in the rain, I'm sure it isn't just the changing rooms then directly outside, there will be a waiting area/Reception.

In fairness to @pinkboa, she has said that the pool is a school one - there is the pool, two changing rooms an a narrow corridor. No Reception.

I think that the school would have a lot to say about a person of the opposite sex being in the changing rooms - it's clearly a safeguarding issue.

Biancadelrioisback
Either they were genuine, got their arse handed to them and then decided to troll, or they're a poster with a reasonable posting history who has a bizarre desire to make up fantasies about people undressing in front of children.

It's bizarre.

back again

Obviously. You do realise this is an Internet forum and people can post whenever they want right?
Writing a 20 second comment because I can’t actually believe such a person exists isn’t a big deal.
It’s you who keeps it going because you apparently love to be hated.

The OP reminds me of a woman I used to work with.

She was a twat just for the sake of being twattish aswell.

@pinkboa our of interest how did you spend the time you were waiting? Reading a book, fiddling with your phone perhaps?

I have lived in Australia and New Zealand. People change in correctly-sexed changing rooms. Pinkboa you know this, it’s certainly not “cultural”.

Also, parts of Australia are hot. New Zealand isn’t.

On a revisit this thread just gets better - one of the most ludicrous original posters I've seen on here, and that's saying something!

MrsFox ...
whatever you called yourself perviously
Given her behaviour, this seems unintentionally appropriate

I don't get how people get so adamant about proving a point on an Internet forum they begin to traverse the rabbit hole... like a few people who kept coming back to hammer home their points... it's like watching the ballerina in the jewellery box.

Oh indeed it is.

@Rombocious

But you're standing by it's the norm in NZ for a women to take her young sons into the men's changing room to change them?

Apology accepted. But I didn't say this either.

OP hasn't denied that she's from NZ.. where IME people are, or used to be, relaxed about e.g. a mother taking her son into the men's public toilet. I don't know if this is still true. The OP said in a prev post that because she thought that OK it must also be OK to do the same in a men's changing room.

Which I think would raise a few eyebrows at the hot pools.

OP I think you will need to start a second thread when this one fills up.

where IME people are, or used to be, relaxed about e.g. a mother taking her son into the men's public toilet. I don't know if this is still true

I vaguely remember this but I can't remember the last time I saw that happen.

Which I think would raise a few eyebrows at the hot pools.

I think it's safe to say she'd be in hot water in more ways than one.