Bare bum in dressing room , AIBU.

[pinkboa]

I take DS to swimming. I got the times wrong turned up for the wrong lesson. I decide to go back to the changing room to wait. I find it hard to breath in the pool area, 30 minutes is ok, an hour and I can feel my asthma begin to act up.

There is a dad there getting his daughters dressed (fine) he was in the pool and he's down to his underwear.

Another dad arrives with his son, him and my DS are in the same lesson.

Anyways dad of daughters decides to get dressed... he drops his pants and is stark naked in front of his daughters. He is also by the door so if another parent was coming in their child would have walked into his penis! And it wasn't less than a minute because he was drying himself as well 🤢...

There are cubicles. He could have used a towel as well.

Why would and adult choose to get naked in a dressing room at a swim lesson for children with strangers around.

AIBU to find it bizarre?

His bum was also hairy and unattractive 🤢.

To some extent I can see the OP's perspective. When you have the situation of (presumably) very small children getting ready for a swimming lesson where the parents don't go in the water it doesn't really matter what room you're getting changed in because the adults remain fully clothed at all times. She obviously wasn't aware that on some occasions parents do go into the water.

However the weird bit is that she stayed in the male changing when this dad started to undress himself. I would have been mortified and left immediately. Then not only does she stay and have a good look at his bum, she assumes HE is the one in the wrong and starts a thread about it!

Great. So we have established that OP has not grown up in Australia or NZ. Both Countries which pretty much follow the British way of using the sex of the accompanying parent’s toilets for children. And it is not commonly done to nip into the men’s loos because you are busting and you don’t care that there might be men using the urinal in there. Unless, it is a single male loo cubicle then maybe....

She has said it she did not grow up in Sth Africa and has not given an answer on Fiji or Somoa which I posed yesterday. (Due to being a Commonwealth country that could be described as hot, lovely and popular that had plenty of ocean swimming but a lack of public pools (only private) ).

I am questioning how there has been a lack of exposure like this that she puts down as being ‘cultural differences’ in toilet etiquette (or even... law).

By the way pinkboa. It is not that you didn’t know that is the problem. I get that. it has been your attitude after discovering you were in the wrong that has people’s back up. It is the do.not.care bit.

Man gets penis out in men's changing room, call the police!

Seriously? This thread is hilarious

maybe your on the spectrum

Please don’t insult people on the spectrum, I work with autistic people and none of them are this mental/self entitled/rude

Just got back from my early morning swim (stealth boast ) and was thinking of this thread ...

I had visions of all my fellow male swimmers making a sort of "guard of modesty" with their towels so I could walk from the showers to the changing area without offending any random women that might have needed a sit down.

I’ve loved all 29 pages.. thank you for the laughs OP. Honestly, you’re a box of frogs!! 😂 😂 😂

This is a wind up. For one thing, swimming lessons for 2year olds would be parent and child or private one to one
Secondly changing rooms are hot and humid, why wouldn't op sit in the lobby.
Thirdly who would sit in a nene changing room for a hour where adult men were getting changed

Well I have seen advertisements for 2:1 and 3:1 ratios but for 3yr upwards not age 2...so it MIGHT be possible?

@KeraStase I love that phrase and it certainly fits here!

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Another vote for classics..
This has been hilarious! I'm not convinced it's real though. No one is that bonkers in real life.

No one is that bonkers in real life.

Except the OP who is clearly unhinged.

You CANNOT use the men’s toilet either!!! If there are men facing the other way using the urinals, you don’t get to saunter past them to use a cubicle in the men’s bathroom.

It’s like you’ve landed on earth from another planet. Goodness knows what other social norms and boundaries you’re teaching your toddler to ignore 🙈

The world is a vast place with varying cultures

There it is again... cultural differences! What ‘culture’ do you come from that is so important for you to cling to when clearly you are going against the culture of the places you are living in?

Could I just clarify something for the posters who assume that Scandinavians are comfortable with nudity...? We are, but in the sense that women are comfortable with other women’s bodies and men are comfortable with men’s bodies. I managed to live in a Scandinavian country until the age of 25, frequent gym and pool goer and never see a naked man who wasn’t my dad or my boyfriend. Anyone going into the wrong changing room would see a LOT, before being verbally abused and reported to the police. And self identification does not exist.

@TomPinch Ah sorry. Read the ditto as vice versa for men and daughters rather than every goes to the men's.

But you're standing by it's the norm in NZ for a women to take her young sons into the men's changing room to change them?

Never seen it, sounds absurd. For one, wouldn't the mother also be planning on swimming and therefore getting changed most of time? I.e. she would have to change her sons in the men's then take them to the women's (if they were to young to be left alone) so she could get changed.

You're making our country look ridiculous because of some myth you heard.

New Zealand?? You can't call NZ a "hot country"! IT has a temperate climate!

Bah. Don't know why I expected any less from this OP. All that time guessing hot countries and it was new bloody zealand all along.

Also it was so obvious that OP didn't want to say where she was from because as soon as she did, a bunch of people would appear and say "er... that's not the culture here"

Looking at the snow on the hills and a heck of a storm coming in from the south not all that long ago (earlier this month), I'd agree it's not a hot country. It's nearly summer and it was snowing.

New Zealand?? You can't call NZ a "hot country"! IT has a temperate climate!

The far North does have subtropical weather in the Summer, everywhere else is described as temperate climate, maybe OP lived quite far North

If you visited NZ as a tourist in the summer you might describe it as hot. But if you grew up here, high unlikely.

a bunch of people would appear and say "er... that's not the culture here"

Exactly. I jumped in really quick when people started saying she was Australian! Nationalist pride and all .

But Pinkboa does keep talking about cultural differences supposedly between the country she grew up in and the UK. It has me intrigued.

India? Definitely hot.

Your child your choice to not go back in tne rain . No one asked you to, use tne ladies changing room . You have bloated on about what you are entitled to, well men are entitled to use changing rooms and toilets intended for them without a woman going in. Also if you don't like people investing in a thread don't blinking start one.