Bare bum in dressing room , AIBU.

[pinkboa]

I take DS to swimming. I got the times wrong turned up for the wrong lesson. I decide to go back to the changing room to wait. I find it hard to breath in the pool area, 30 minutes is ok, an hour and I can feel my asthma begin to act up.

There is a dad there getting his daughters dressed (fine) he was in the pool and he's down to his underwear.

Another dad arrives with his son, him and my DS are in the same lesson.

Anyways dad of daughters decides to get dressed... he drops his pants and is stark naked in front of his daughters. He is also by the door so if another parent was coming in their child would have walked into his penis! And it wasn't less than a minute because he was drying himself as well 🤢...

There are cubicles. He could have used a towel as well.

Why would and adult choose to get naked in a dressing room at a swim lesson for children with strangers around.

AIBU to find it bizarre?

His bum was also hairy and unattractive 🤢.

Your question about whether or not it is acceptable to be naked around other people's children in a changing room is actually an interesting one. But by being in the wrong changing room altogether you've put yourself in the position where your unreasonableness is much, much greater than the man's.

@TrixieFranklin

I did think that too....

Not Australia (but then being from there myself, it is well established that you take your child to the changing room of you, the adult’s, sex. And also if you are even changing at the beach, or at the gym, in a female change room, you see naked women getting changed all the time. OP says she has never seen women being naked in a change room.)
Not SAfrica
Has sea swimming, no public pools, is hot, popular and lovely and in commonwealth?
New Zealand is probably not hot enough.

Fiji? Maybe Samoa?

Did you never ponder on why no other women/mums with boys/sons were using the male changing room?

Ducking hilarious - Lady goes into male changing room and if offended by male bottom. If a man walked into a female changing room he'd be lynched.

OP - You have a very different filter on the world to the one I have.

You were sat in the men’s changing room and are upset at a man, in a men’s changing room, getting changed?! What the hell?!

Get out of the men's changing room you entitled creep.

Different question: you want to get changed in a female changing room. a man sits there for 30 minutes, and complains online about your hairy legs/saggy breasts. According to your logic this behaviour is perfectly fine.
Big hint: it isnt. you were behaving awfully

If you don't want to see male bodies don't sit in the male changing room.
I'm surprised that you haven't had complaints from men for being in there

Frankly as a woman, with a son why can't I take him to the Male changing room?

Because you always use the appropriate room for yourself until the child is old enough to use the right room.
That’s why you always see little boys with their mums in the mums loos and vice versa.

What if he’s a single dad who needs to keep an eye on his daughters? Just refuse to ever go swimming with them because a random woman might be in the men’s changing room and be upset?

So you are a woman, you sat for 30 minutes in a male changing room fully dressed with no intention of changing yourself or your child and watched other people changing. There's a word for people like you, I would have reported you to security sharpish.

This thread is mad! Can you imagine a man complaining that he saw some "saggy and unattractive" boobs while sitting around in the ladies' changing room for half an hour!

He's 2...

What planet do you live on where it’s not ok for a 2 year old to be in an opposite sex changing room but it’s fine for a grown woman to be sat for half an hour watching men get changed?!
You are utterly mental!

I thought this was the equivalent to taking a male child to use a male restroom.

It is. As in it’s not appropriate and you should take him with you to the ladies!

Are you a woman? If so, you shouldn't be in the men's

"If you don't want to see male bodies don't sit in the male changing room."

Also if you do want to see male bodies still don't sit in the male changing rooms

@pinkboa

Clearly can't read sarcasm...

Sarcasm normally includes an element of humour. There is absolute no humour in your responses, despite your repeated assertion that you’re here for the laughs. Just belligerence, rudeness and a lot of ignorance.

Having said that, this thread is quite funny - it’s just that you’re the (hairy, unattractive) butt of all the jokes.

@pinkboa apologies if this has already been mentioned because I have scrolled past the second half of the thread but I just wanted to say please book yourself an asthma review and ask to try different medication / up your dose. I used to have to worry about what type of air I was breathing, but now I have my asthma much better controlled and I don't even think about it now. I thought I knew what good asthmatic control felt like, but I changed my steroid and the difference was amazing.

@Comefromaway

Karma for? That's beyond laughable.

@GhoulWithADragonTattoo
I accept that.

@SirSidneyRuffDiamond

Nope. And I stated why. I've also seen mums with older boys who by the consensus here should be in the men's but are in with girls... so perhaps my own confusion... again I didn't have an issue with that, they are all children.

@1950swallpaper

Clearly it's not 1950... it's all 4K now don't think sepia quite cuts it.

@Winesalot

I have never.

Sorry it wasn't unisex it's the men's.

Then YABVU! A naked man in the men's changing rooms is perfectly ok.

I'm surprised they didn't complain about you being in there, tbh. Perhaps they thought you were a voyeur.

Yes, karma when you get unceremoniously thrown out of somewhere. Because if you carry on doing this - it WILL happen eventually.

@deplorabelle

Will do. Never actually thought about that. Thank you.

How do you know they where older boys?,when my DS was 7 he looked at least 11 so he was in the ladies with me. I was right to do that considering there might have been some weirdo woman in the gents sat watching boys change for 30 minutes.

I think it’s worse to judge a hairy bum as less acceptable than a non hairy one . Why police other people bodies?

I've also seen mums with older boys who by the consensus here should be in the men's

No they should be in the women’s if the child has any difficulties and they need help. My nearly 10yo goes to the ladies and ladies changing room because he has disabilities and needs my help. It would not be appropriate AT ALL for me to take him into the men’s.
And as for all this ‘think of the children’ nonsense hopefully they understand the concept of a changing room better than you.

@MemyselfandI2019

Sense!