Bare bum in dressing room , AIBU.

[pinkboa]

I take DS to swimming. I got the times wrong turned up for the wrong lesson. I decide to go back to the changing room to wait. I find it hard to breath in the pool area, 30 minutes is ok, an hour and I can feel my asthma begin to act up.

There is a dad there getting his daughters dressed (fine) he was in the pool and he's down to his underwear.

Another dad arrives with his son, him and my DS are in the same lesson.

Anyways dad of daughters decides to get dressed... he drops his pants and is stark naked in front of his daughters. He is also by the door so if another parent was coming in their child would have walked into his penis! And it wasn't less than a minute because he was drying himself as well 🤢...

There are cubicles. He could have used a towel as well.

Why would and adult choose to get naked in a dressing room at a swim lesson for children with strangers around.

AIBU to find it bizarre?

His bum was also hairy and unattractive 🤢.

OP - If I were you I'd get this thread deleted

It used to be the case that MNHQ didn't just pull threads on a whim - even if the OP wanted. It was a point of discussion for a while.

Why bother posting (and trying to help) if a flouncy OP can just get it all pulled ?

For all of you puzzling over where the OP could possibly come from, I humbly suggest that her comment stating:

"Btw this is never something we had to contend with because in Australia there are parents rooms everywhere... "

might just be a clue.

might just be a clue

I asked if it was Australia and she said no. She said she did live there for a time but isn't from there.

@FrancisCrawford
My idea of use and yours must be very different... because by use I'd mean him doing either a wee or poo. I'd think he took the child to USE the toilet facility...

Once again, it would do you good to read the whole thing.

His bum was hairy... what do you want me to say? I think it's a perfect adjective... where have I gone on and one about this man bottom? Intrusive to use a descriptor? Jesus!

@spacepyramid
I've never had issues with perfume as I use them. But I only brought it up because the humidity in the pool area affects me... hence the reason I didn't stay by the pool and wait.

@Crazycrazylady
Surely you realise you are basically regurgitating what several people have said I have have accepted... surely!

@CaptainCaveMum

Please, take a break from your own imaginations, thank you.

@scubadive
From what I'm reading I'm prudish! Because naked is the accepted norm in changing facilities. Yes it's always empty... why wouldn't I use it 😐.

@GhoulWithADragonTatto
Nah I'm having a laugh myself because people keep piling on without even reading and it's an interesting thing to observe...

I also enjoying the views that the world operate via the mums-net moral compass... very fascinating. And I've learnt a fair bit.

And I've learnt a fair bit
Hopefully that if you go into the men's you can't then complain that they've got their hairy bums out?!

Poor man! Couldn't win. Went into the men's room to change, found some random woman in there, turned around to try and get changed without flashing his penis at her and gets slagged off for his hairy bum.

OP - YABVVVU. Of course people get naked in single sex changing rooms.

@pinkboa I've never had issues with perfume as I use them. But I only brought it up because the humidity in the pool area affects me... hence the reason I didn't stay by the pool and wait.

So why did you choose to go in the changing room for men then?
I cannot see any valid reason at all for a woman to go in the changing room that is for men

Are you transgender?

Please, take a break from your own imaginations, thank you.

Yes OP I’ll go have a quiet sit down in the men’s changing rooms shall I?

YANBU OP, any civilised male should erect a special bum screen and willy fence before indulging in these kind of shenanigans.

I was shocked on my wedding night when my DH produced his bum without even asking me to avert my eyes! After some discussion we agreed that it would be best if he had it surgically removed.

I don't like seeing adults walking around with it all hanging out in the changing rooms but some people are comfortable doing that. If you were in the women's changing room you'd probably have seen someone's muff. I'm just surprised no-one questioned why you were in the men's changing room. If you're going to change in there you can't dictate how the other parents change.

There is no way there is literally nowhere to wait at a swimming pool other than poolside or in the changing rooms. Does the front door lead directly into the changing rooms with no intermediary room or corridor?

@JesusInTheCabbageVan

Oh the horror!

So did he have it surgically removed?

I should request the same from my DH... he never screens it!

@spacepyramid
Read the thread... have a nice day.

@CaptainCaveMum
It's not a bad place to sit, especially in this weather if you sit right under the heater!!!

@FrancisCrawford

Please, give it a rest. Shaddup now! Have you even read this whole thing?! God... 🗣there is no point to be proven here? Ok?

Put away the soap box... the repetition is now making my eyes hurt.

Have a nice day.

@KidLorneRoll
Exactly so... you enter via the changing rooms. With a short narrow corridor leading towards the pool.

It is small... prams etc. that cant fit in the changing rooms are usually left outside. You park at the top and walk down to the pool area.. which is by a netball court so a trek... and it's either wait poolside, outside or in the changing room.

I am NOT going back outside neither was I walking back to the car. Nope.

@BrendasUmbrella

It's a children's class.. I didn't expect to see what I saw. HTH.

And if I will be honest I can't understand why dads changing their sons in a Male changing room would find it intrusive of a mum doing the same. I have never, until that day seen a dad getting dressed as most men in my sons lesson group don't go in the pool ( & if you read I got the times wrong and was early) . But I get it now.

So there is a corridor. Wait there, or in the ladies. Maybe take a foldup chair with you.

I think the message that you absolutely cannot sit in the blokes and silently pass judgement on them may have already been made.

I reckon maybe from South Africa

@pinkboa I did read the thread, thank you. I am trying to see what possible valid reasons you think you had for going in the mens changing room because so far you haven't offered one.

God, it's a natural body part, GROW UP

No one needs to read the full thread OP to know that you were in the wrong here!!

you as a woman do not go and wait in the malechanging room with your toddler son because you choose to get to a swimming class ridiculously early

I've never heard anything so ridiculously ridiculous
Please don't do it again you should've had your arse thrown out of there

@pinkboa

Yes it's always empty... why wouldn't I use it 😐.

This is why people are calling you obtuse. You wouldn't use it because it's the male changing room and you're not male. It's as simple as that. You don't get to use it because it's empty, because your son is male, because you have asthma, because it's bigger than the female one, because it's raining and you can't be arsed walking to your car, because you failed to tell the time properly, because you're not from the UK, or any other reason.

You keep being rude to people but you clearly don't really accept that you have done anything wrong. You have - not just in some 'Mumsnet morality' world, but in real life - and it would have been wrong in countless countries across the globe.

Are you actually going to stop doing this now or just stubbornly carry on thinking you're actually right, counter to all evidence, and continue to invade men's private spaces?

It could have been worse, you might have seen my arse in there, it's both hairy AND spotty. Probably could do with a wash too if I am honest.

And if I will be honest I can't understand why dads changing their sons in a Male changing room would find it intrusive of a mum doing the same
Are you being deliberately obtuse??Can you really not see why this would be wrong?