Bare bum in dressing room , AIBU.

[pinkboa]

I take DS to swimming. I got the times wrong turned up for the wrong lesson. I decide to go back to the changing room to wait. I find it hard to breath in the pool area, 30 minutes is ok, an hour and I can feel my asthma begin to act up.

There is a dad there getting his daughters dressed (fine) he was in the pool and he's down to his underwear.

Another dad arrives with his son, him and my DS are in the same lesson.

Anyways dad of daughters decides to get dressed... he drops his pants and is stark naked in front of his daughters. He is also by the door so if another parent was coming in their child would have walked into his penis! And it wasn't less than a minute because he was drying himself as well 🤢...

There are cubicles. He could have used a towel as well.

Why would and adult choose to get naked in a dressing room at a swim lesson for children with strangers around.

AIBU to find it bizarre?

His bum was also hairy and unattractive 🤢.

Pinkboa okay no reception, stand outside then but don’t sit in a changing room and then complain that someone got changed in it. It is odd!
I’m sure his daughters have survived seeing his body 🤣

The levels of subjective reading here is becoming astounding... and you are reaching where there is nothing to reach for... I'm still having the giggles btw.

FYI he takes her to a disabled toilet if there isn't an available parents one...like most parents with children do... and this is something I have seen for myself.

Btw this is never something we had to contend with because in Australia there are parents rooms everywhere... where either parent can take their child to use the toilets or to feed your child (Breast /bottle-all have microwaves)

It's not our fault the uk is unequipped and provide changing facilities in almost all female restrooms and not many in the mens.

@CosmoK

Where did I say that?

@BoxOfBabyCheeses

Where did I say that?

@FenellaVelour

Where did I say that?

@Dahlietta
Of course he knows! He's been going to a pool since he was a child!

Let me say my husband is English... he knows what these places are like, he is also well aware of the rules. I am not.... and unless you cannot read I have accepted my error.

I have friends and family from many many different countries and cultures, I don't know anyone who would go into the opposite sex toilet or changing room as an adult.

To be honest anyone sitting fully clothed in a changing room, regardless of it being the correct for their sex, would seem very odd to me and I would report. Nakedness is expected in changing rooms, weirdos sitting and people watching aren't.

@Londonborncatty

I refuse to stand outside in the cold and it was also raining! Nope!

I'd take the unsightly bum over the cold and wet, even if it has tarnished my eyesight!

and unless you cannot read I have accepted my error.

You've accepted your error whether I can read or not, but you clearly still think the hairy-bummed chap in question was doing something wrong.

@nocluewhattodoo

Oooh "I've got friends & family"

The old multicultural trope... let me insert 👋👋 ( jazz hands)

Perhaps you should read further up then.

FYI he takes her to a disabled toilet if there isn't an available parents one...like most parents with children do... and this is something I have seen for myself.

NO, most parent don't use the disabled unless they or their child is disabled. (including invisible disabilities).

Being a CF is nothing to do with culture or nationality, its just being a CF.

@Dahlietta

Do I? Do I?
Feigns

Or do I find general nakedness around other people's children an odd thing... whether Male or female.

But again I am told this is culturally accepted practice. Even if I find it odd.

So you were in a male changing room & a man was naked in threre? 🤷‍♀️

Using a disabled facility to change in isn't ok. What if a disabled person needed to use it urgently?

FYI he takes her to a disabled toilet if there isn't an available parents one...like most parents with children do... and this is something I have seen for myself. Nope. Disabled toilets are for disabled people.

It's not our fault the uk is unequipped and provide changing facilities in almost all female restrooms and not many in the men the changing facility is the whole flipping room!

Don't blame the fact that you didn't expect a man to get changed in a male changing room on culture, you're from Aus, a highly developed country ffs.

No people don't use the disabled toilet unless it is the only one with baby change facilities. If it's just for a normal toilet situation then the male/female toilets will suffice.

it's not the done thing here

A woman sitting for half an hour in a men's changing rooms and getting all righteous indignation at a man taking his clothes off in there...
I'm not sure where in the world that IS the done thing, TBH.

@Comefromaway

You should perhaps tell the parents who wheel their prams inside and either use it themselves... or or let their children use it or change a nappy in there.

I am genuinely laughing at the "most parents"... 🤣.

How would I know if someone has an invisible disability... or how would they I? I don't question people as to the reasons they use the toilet... I assume they needed it. And please note I said toilet, not changing room.

You should be calling the gov. And these private entities CF for the lack of facilities they provide. Imagine you go out and spend your hard earned money and can't provide a place for your infant to use the toilet? Outrageous! But I'll take the title! 💃🏻

My ds hates going in the men's, not because there are men, nut because there are women drying their boys after swimming. He feels embarrassed as a pre teen, to be stripping off in front of a woman.
You take your son into the women's room, once over 8 they go into men's to change.

So if your husband takes your daughter swimming, where does he take her to change?

And no of course you shouldn’t be using the disabled/accessible toilets.

This gets worse and worse. Honestly can’t believe it’s real.

Oh this is just ridiculous. My DH regularly takes my 3 year old DD swimming. Luckily at our Centre there are large family changing cubicles so they change in there together in private but if there wasn't he would have to take her into the mens. Meaning that she might shock see other men getting changed. Because it would be absolutely wrong of him to go into the women's and he wouldn't dream of it.

As she's with her father, I highly doubt any harm is going to come to her and unless any of the men are running around windmilling or behaving otherwise inappropriately whilst naked I can't say I give two hoots that she might see another mans bum - hairy or otherwise!!! I bet she wouldn't even notice.

You don;t know if someone has an invisible disability. Maybe those who you do have seen using the disabled toilet . You'd never know my dh has Menieres or my ds has autism for example.

Doesn't mean you as a presumable NT parent of a presumably NT child should be allowed to use the disabled toilet.

This can't be real....it's one of the most bizarre things I've ever read

The thought of you sat in the Mens, watching that poor man and his hairy arse is making me giggle!
That poor man!

When DD went swimming as a toddler, men were not allowed in the women's changing room, so if DD's dad wanted to get her changed he would have to take her into the men's.

There was only one cubicle, every mum and child got changed in the same room basically, and yes I saw a few breast and bums, so what?

I would find it weird for a dad to get naked in front of loads of other women though... Not in front of their own kid or in the men's where they should be.

Would it matter if his kids were boys and he was in a male changing room? What if it was a woman with a boy in the womens?
To be honest, Im not sure I could get upset over this, but maybe I should?! I get changed for swimming with my 3 yr old in the womens (no cubicles). I dont really have other choice, but maybe I should do it under a towel? Son doesnt seem to notice one way or the other.

Well you should also lament the don't use this toilet to the countless people I have seen wheel buggies in there...

I'm sure I'm not the only one who has seen this.

I'm also not certain why the people building and developing these spaces think it's perfectly adequate to put a child and disabled facility in the same room, because God forbid a child has an emergency or someone with a disability urgently needs to use the toilet... I wonder why they make people compete for these spaces.

Point your righteous indignation towards them and not me thanks.

Wait you were in the men's changing room? I wasn't allowed in there with DP and DD when he would sometimes get her changed for swimming. Why were you in there, DS would he changed in the women's surely if you are the one changing him? He's fine to be naked in there, although parading it about would be weird, but just being naked to get changed is not.

Ds used to go to swimming lessons in a school pool. School pools often do not have individual cubciles. Up until the age of 8/9 I took him into the ladies. From the age of 9 onwards (slightly older than normal because of his autism) he used the men's.

Dh often used to go out and about with dd when she was a toddler/small child. Up until she was about 8 years old if she needed the toilet he used to take her into the men's.

Because actual disabled people need the disabled facilities. (I'd have used the disabled toilets for ds if required due to his actual disability)