Saving seats in train

[managedmis]

Every morning a woman on my train saves her mate a seat. Every morning the train is rammed and loads of people ask her to move her bag but she refuses and saves she saving it for her pal, who eventually shows up. People end up standing, the seat free, then pal arrives. I've seen a couple of people ignore her, move the bag and plump down in the seat, the entire train almost cheered.

What's the protocol here?

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Oriental is ok for a rug not a person

Or a cat. 😹. I love Oriental cats.

I was in a bar the other night, all seats taken except one bench which had a couple of coats neatly folded on top. I moved them (carefully) to one side and sat down, only for a woman standing next to them to loudly object. I refused to move and for a minute it looked like she was going to turn nasty, but fortunately she backed down and moved them. What the fuck is wrong with some people?!

Tbf, I put my bag on the seat next to me but only if train is quiet, or at least there's spare spaces. It's easier to handle you, a phone, headphones, coffee, bag, coat and umbrella on 2 seats. And if people get on but there's plenty of spare seats further down then my bag stays there. Obviously once the train gets busy I'll move it!

Madein1995 stop being an ass. Your bag is there as you don’t want someone sitting beside you and will only move jt if forced to do so. Put your bag on the ground or in the overhead area. My OH has cancer and gets tired easily and has no reserves so if he is forced to wander looking for a spare seat due to twats like you putting your bags there it affects Him physically. Stop being a selfish ass hole

Here here champagne and sorry to hear about your OH

id deffo move the bag, its same principal as saving sun loungers around a pool! bum not on it, its vacant!

I think you need to take the stop before gets one day and get everyone to ‘save’ all the seats with bags then yell loudly when she gets on ‘sorry, I’m saving a seat for my friend’ like a passive aggressive surprise party.

@CleansUpDragonPoo everyone applauded? Of course they did

@Madein1995 you ate exactly the person I will aim to sit beside precisely because you are being a cf. I don’t care if there are other seats I’m going to get you to move your bag every single time.

like do you enjoy being a twat? If you're brazen and frankly rude enough to demand to sit next to me even though there's plenty of seats available, then no I won't offer, yes I would tut and complain if you say on my bag, yes I would ask you to move so I can move while shooting looks and actually I wouldn't bother squeezing myself up to the wall (am overweight but also wear heavier coats-usually squidge myself up if unoidable - but quite frankly if you're being a rude petty twat then so will I)

Why on earth would someone choose to sit next to someone else when there's space available elsewhere? Has no one heard of privacy and personal space?

Oh and I tend to sit in the middle of the carriage. If someone gets on who's clearly struggling, and I'm sat in a space that's closer to them, then I will move. Off my own back, without being rude, as that is polite.

I fail to see why preffering to have 2 seats to yourself when there are plenty of seats available makes someone a twat, or an ass (American term if ever I heard one!)

As I said, once the train starts filling up I move my stuff. I don't keep my keyboard on the other tray of laptop bag next to me, when people are standing, like others do. I sit in the middle usually, mainly because people tend to congregate near doors so it's less stuffy in the middle, so people who are ill can sit nearer the enrersnce which is less distance for them. If someone is on crutches, pregnant, struggling etc then I will offer my seat and move further up. What part of that is unreasonable exactly?

And what makes people such as like who behave like petty toddlers taking delight in annoying someone else for no reason than their personal (nonsensical) rule, less unreasonable? So you're saying if the entire carriage was free you'd sit next to the one person with a bag on their seat? What a joy you must be to be around!

Me and a work colleague are catching a late ish train tomorrow. Guaranteed it'll be quiet. We'll sit on opposite sides of the aisles most probably. We'll move if someone struggling needs to sit there. I daresay well have our bags abd notepads on the seats. Maybe even have coat draped over bag. Shoot us now 🙄😂🙄

Oh and BTW I can't use overhead lockers. Because I'm 5'3 abd can't reach most of rhem

Oh and if the train was rammed, as in ops eg then bag would be on lap. Obviously. I imagine if ops train was quiet she wouldn't be bothered really

Wonder where you live OP, because her behaviour certainly wouldn’t run with passengers near me she would have been confronted so many times that she wouldn’t dare keep doing it

I also hate when people sit next to me when there’s plenty of other free seats, or if it gets quiet a few stops later and rows nearby are completely free but they don’t move over I appreciate personal space! Hate being stuck in the aisle seat with no space/bag on my lap, especially when the person next to me is having a drunken argument on the phone or eating stinky Burger King - which happened on both legs of a return journey this weekend.

OP, ypu've said that, in the past, another passenger has moved the bags, and the rest of the passengers almost cheered. I guarantee that if someone did this every day, they would be supported by the others and I bet the CF seat-saver would stop doing it.

@CleansUpDragonPoo. At last some common sense, Oriental means from the East, in the same way Europeans are from The West. PC gone mad.

i wonder if they then need to change the name of the Oriental Express... according to Wiki in the UK it is not a derogatory term and the police use it as well, yet in USA it is considered racist or derogatory... so i dunno i guess if it is used in a complementary way it shouldn't be considered nasty...Unless Asians have said that as a race they find it racist then naturally it should be banned like the N word, personally, not that i have ever called anyone Oriental or even Asian as a rule, i think it sounds nicer than the word Asian, more exotic and mysterious and interesting, far nicer than White or Caucasian

i wonder if they then need to change the name of the Oriental Express

It's the 'Orient Express' isn't it?

And I think the distinction made earlier was that 'Oriental' was OK for things, but not people.

Ooh and I've just got on my bus which is packed and busy and teenagers still have bags on seat. Now that's unreasonable. I move mine once it gets busier

I don’t even save seats for DH if he’s getting on the same train as me home form London, but I do usually move into the aisle seat and hope people pick another seat if you see what I mean.

It’s usually full 5 mins before departure and plenty of people ‘save’ seats for friends but it annoys the hell out of me if it’s the last couple of seats left I don’t think it’s very fair. Others claim their spot and immediately head to the loo or the bar. Which I guess is just about okay but still irritating if you are searching trying to find which seat is free

Obviously the woman saving the seat has the hide of a rhino. I wonder if her friend has any concept of what goes on before she gets on.

I would say to her "yes i am aware you are saving a seat ,but I think you are aware that is not possible!" If she kicks off, tell her you have a bad knee/hip /ankle(last one true in my case!) She would have to concede or look a total arse in front of the commuting public!

Just a boy Not too good for you though!