Partner didn't come home last night

[princessconsuelabananahammock2]

He went out for a drink after work, as he normally does on a Friday, he'll usually have one and then drive home. I hadn't heard from him in a while (which is unusual as he's normally back by 6) so sent a nice message just asking him to let me know he's ok and what time he's expecting to be back. Got a reply a few hours later saying his phone was dead, he'd just charged it and that he'd be back soon. I replied saying I was going to bed. I haven't heard anything since.

I've been restless all night wondering where the hell he is. I sent a message at midnight asking him if he'd like to tell me where he is?!!?!! No reply. I'm fuming. I've got awful pregnancy sickness, I'm knackered and then this idiot decides to do this.

AIBU to think he's behaved like an absolute cock?

Moangey perhaps? Rather than the far more offensive interpretation of ‘mongey’?

At best he's driven whilst intoxicated by either drink or drugs or both. He's risking his unborn twins having no dad by killing himself through his actions (excessive drug taking in one evening or having a car crash) and he's lying to you. Regardless of what the real truth is, telling more than one story is lying. I would want to discuss that as my first priority. Good luck OP

it damn well is offensive

If the OP meant sulky and childish she has misspelt “maungy”.

Completely different word from the offensive word that appeared in her post.

Based on the context it was a misspelling and she obviously meant maungy/moangey.

Would be a deal breaker for me.

I'd rather struggle alone than have nights like that with newborn babies to cope with as well.

And he will do it again OP if you give him the green light to stay after this.

I have seen that word used to describe someone "monged out" on drugs.

Perhaps op could explain the misunderstanding.

I think you need to scare the shit out of him, message him and tell him that the doctor has diagnosed you with high blood pressure and you may need to be hospitalised if your stress levels do not improve.

Oh come off it. Like Angie, faking cancer to keep Dirty Den in line?

Man misbehaves & lets his partner & son down.
So, instead of wife assessing the behaviour & let-down & reacting accordingly, is advised to fake an illness to emotionally blackmail the man into behaving reasonably.

Fucksake.
The OP doesn't need to join her DP's liar's club.
Women don't meed to manipulate men into decent behaviour, They simply need to stop believing that they can change men, & only partner up with ones who already behave decently.

The twins and offensive term was the point op where the shark was well and truly jumped
For next time remember less is more
Hugz hun

It's always twins.

Oh no, it’s been over egged.

They simply need to stop believing that they can change men, & only partner up with ones who already behave decently.

I wish that were the reality - however not good men do not come with warnings! Please don’t blame the woman here. My Ex was great in lots of ways, but basically didn’t grow up when all my friends partners did. We all chose similar men in terms of how they presented.

My second partner has also turned out to be not good either, emotionally abusive if I’m frank. Yet I deliberately waited years before committing again, and went for someone who was the epitomy of a decent man. Kind, thoughtful, no aggression, had lovely kids, great relationship with them, even his ex wife thought he was wonderful still. Good job, responsible, caring. Respectable. Work colleagues love him. High earner. You name it!

He became an absolute nightmare. Once I couldn’t get out. It’s classic abuse.

And I’m not an uncommon example.

If he's still 'on a come down' and sweating it wasn't coke.

Sorry but alarm bells are ringing
Listen to your intuition

Sorry but I think he cheated if he's got previous form.

So sorry hes done this.. My fella went on a males leaving do few years ago.. Later found out it was a female hed been working with on night shift for 8 years.. Id never heard of her.. By accident few weeks later i found secret twitter account tweeting each other 4 to 5 times a year.. He went out at 7pm..no curfew but by 6am no txt, no sign of him as i was worried he doesnt know this area i sent a txt asking r u ok r u coming home.. He replied 2 mins later just getting a cab be home soon 8 miles away said been in club till 4am..it closes at 2am and then macdonalds it closes at 4am..now idont trust a word he says.. Shes moved jobs hes taken her off twittwr facebiik. Wont add me weve been together 20 years.. First time ever i asked to look at his phone last week ans the photos of her draped all over him still on his phone disgusted she almost cost us our relationship with other things they did him visiting her at home as she had been pissed and broke her. Ankle i was in hospital with pneumonia and he didnt visit me. Long story.. Check his phone mine had his tattoed to him for years now i know why... Hes at work now and been doing the same thing again with some other workmate.. But im half way thru packing his bin liners he doesnt know.. Dont mind him going out but not having secrets lies and deceit

The term you used is really very offensive wherever you are from. It may be used regularly in your area and not intentionally offensive, but that doesn't make it OK. It just suggests that people are not aware of it's origins and just how bad it is (your excuse is the same one people used for calling people the "n" word many years ago)
In case you are totally unaware, it is an offensive term relating to people with Downs Syndrome.

The word used isn't an offensive term where I'm from and I never meant it in an offensive way

Unfortunately it is incredibly offensive the way you’re using it.

Princess ...I wonder does he struggle with responsibility? his son is only 3 & you're already pregnant with his baby ........did he struggle to adjust to his son/fatherhood & it caused them to split!? Usually people who have done drugs & binge drinking etc are behaving recklessly because they are struggling to cope with things .unfortunately it is incredibly common from my experience for men to have babies & when the reality of responsibility kicks in they move on , only to repeat the same behaviour ! Is he a doting dad to his son?, as it's usually a good measure, it's a little worrying that knowing he's having his son the next day he got in that state , I mean if you only see your child a finite amount of times a genuinly doting father would make sure each and every visit was the best it could be surely?? Not to mention it's treating you like shit ! You need to think very carefully imho xx

awful behaviour, get rid of him. no excuses to treat you (and his son) so disgracefully.

He takes coke and feels that is so mundane he will drive around like it. That would be a complete deal breaker for me.

Sure now it's tears and apologies, next thing you know you find yourself expected to uphold a parallel reality where it's "normal" and you can hold a job down on it and you can just wait for the next time your family doesn't matter to them or their next dangerous or abusive act, their next lunatic outburst, lying, stealing etc.

Certainly every word that comes out of his mouth at this point is probably a lie. Expect to find out he has shagged someone gross after you have exposed yourself to STDs for 6 months.

Sorry about typos

When you put his clothes in bags on the path this morning i hope you left a note on bags saying top shagger. Open your eyes sweet cheeks hes a shagger. I dont believe you would of just left him to it.... Or dont you have a fucking backbone?